is it ok to be friends with gays.

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first off, I know in the bible that being homosexual is wrong, but is it ok to be friends with someone who is homosexual? I'm trying to get right with God and i'm questioning everything i'm doing in my life right now. I just want to be on the safe side so does anyone has an answer for me?
 
We are to show them love, and be kind to them.
This does not mean we have to accept their life style, or support their sin.
We are to minister to them, and show God's love for them and how God wants them to come to Him. We are not to prevent anybody from coming to the Lord. Show them in love God's way, and forgiveness and how to achieve that forgiveness of sins.
 
Can you be friends with a drug user? Someone that sleeps around? That cheats on their spouse? That cusses? Pick a sin, any sin, and ask yourself if it's ok to be friends with a sinner. If not you're never going to have friends, because we all struggle with sin. Wisdom says you should spend more time around Christians, but having unsaved friends isn't wrong. It doesn't matter what their sin. And homosexuality is just another sin. No reason to treat it differently.
As long as a person doesn't bring you or your spiritual walk down there's no reason not to be friends with them, just, as i said, in balance to keeping a stronger influence and time with Christians friends. Too much time around non-Christian friends (regardless of their specific sin issues) can lead to you being too influenced by the world.
 
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LatoyaQ said:
first off, I know in the bible that being homosexual is wrong, but is it ok to be friends with someone who is homosexual? I'm trying to get right with God and i'm questioning everything i'm doing in my life right now. I just want to be on the safe side so does anyone has an answer for me?
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I know several gay people. Alot of them are my neighbors. I also know several bi-sexual AND transsexual people. I have no problem with them on a personal level, however I do disapprove of their lifestyles because morally, ethically and biblically, it is wrong. I would say yes, it's okay to befriend them because I'm friends with several of the gays/lesbians who live here in my building. I would suggest doing what kennethcaldwell said in his reply. :)
 
We are to always choose to be found approved by God.
 
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One who loves God more than thyself or the world should ask themselves this question.
Is one hanging out with a Homo to witness Christ to them?
or keeping their faith quiet and in doing so compromising in favor of the practices of the world.
Is a homosexual still practicing what is a friend to the world after knowing the truth?

James 4:4
You adulterous people, don't you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God.

Once one is no longer of the world, similar to putting off childish things, one should also put off worldly things which are in clear and apparent contradiction to God...(sexual immorality being one of them)

Yes a homosexual is a people too and we are all sinners.
But there comes a point where we begin to hold ourselves to a higher standard.
Not that we're better than them, just more informed, enlightened to the fact that bad company corrupts good character.

I think it comes down to personal conviction, but Paul made mention of dismissing the abominable from among the church, do not even eat with such people.

Jesus said our enemies would even be those of our own household.
If we're not willing to hate our father and mother brother or sister (Love God more than our own flesh and blood) then we are not worthy of him...we hold to a higher standard,,,being worthy of him.

Witnessing Christ to them so they know the truth and can be freed from their sin, would be an exception.
 
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It's definitely ok, God loves all no matter what.
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Until they strike up enough nerves to 'hit and grope' you. I am friendly with them but I don't allow them into my social circles because of sexual intentions.
 
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Until they strike up enough nerves to 'hit and grope' you. I am friendly with them but I don't allow them into my social circles because of sexual intentions.
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Are you that attractive? Do you hit and grope every woman you are with?
cmon...
I was best friends with a guy for years and never even knew he was gay. He never once hit on me or made it known. Am I to ugly?
I worked with a guy for 15 years who is gay..also never hit and groped me.
They aren't just waiting for the right moment to molest you.
Is that really what you think?
 
Ringer said:
Is it okay to be friends with sinners?
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depends on how much sin, compromise and complacency you can tolerate exposing yourself to.

Why can't God be in the presence of humans and we needs Jesus as a mediator?
 
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Are you that attractive? Do you hit and grope every woman you are with?
cmon...
I was best friends with a guy for years and never even knew he was gay. He never once hit on me or made it known. Am I to ugly?
I worked with a guy for 15 years who is gay..also never hit and groped me.
They aren't just waiting for the right moment to molest you.
Is that really what you think?
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Some males & females are target for the same sex. Women would relay the messages as to what gay men would say about me .... and the comments were gross.
 
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Really? This is a question? I'm sorry, but I know many gay people - even in my small, rural world...and I would never consider not being their friend just because of their sexual orientation. First, no sin is greater than any other sin. Show me someone that you are friends with who has never sinned.... Second, have you truly ever been around anyone who is truly gay? It is not a choice. I have watched people battle their feelings as young men and women, only to become very hurt and confused adults because the world will not accept them as they are, and they can't just conform to what society wants. If a person can physically be born with both male and female genitalia (a hermaphrodite) why can't someone be born with male parts and female hormones or visa verse?? Think about it.
 
Something that always frustrates me is that homosexuality seems to be "singled out" as THE WORST sexual sin.

If we have to ask if we are allowed to be friends with someone who is homosexual, we also have to ask if we are allowed to be friends with people who have live-in significant others, people who do hookups on the weekends, people who watch porn, people who have flirty/sexual conversations on the internet (and many of them are married), people who have impure thoughts...

And this doesn't just apply to the non-Christian circles, as we ALL fit into this category in one way or the other. I've sat in church next to plenty of couples who are members, middle-aged (so they obviously know better), and living together without being married. I've known many Christian singles who regularly participate in hookups, porn, and going to strip clubs. And even if we don't do any of these things, all of us, at one point or another, can admit to thoughts we shouldn't be having. However, if someone is perfect enough to not commit ANY sexual sins, there are an entire host of other sins for which we all qualify, I'm sure.

I read a great story once about a Christian man who had befriended another man who struggled with homosexual temptations. He wrote about how other Christians criticized him and asked, "How can you be friends with a SINNER like that?"

To which, he gave this awesome reply: "How can HE be friends with a sinner like me?"

When I was going through my divorce, my gay friends did more to look after my emotional health than my straight friends at the time.

P.S. Maybe it's different for women, but I've never been afraid of a homosexual person harming me. I HAVE, however, been afraid of several straight guys and their intentions... But as I said, maybe it's different for me as a girl, or maybe it's just me and the people I've encountered.
 
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Frankly, the question is faulty.

It's irrelevant to ask, "Is it okay to be friends with Jamaicans?"
See how crazy that sounds?


 
I Corinthians 6:11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

Which doesn't make homosexuality okay, but it's no worse than any other sin.

I think people put more importance on homosexuality for two reasons. One is all the media fuss lately. Two is the part in Romans 1 where it talks about homosexuality being a result of not worshipping the one true God. Romans 1:20 or 1:21 and on down, I think.
 
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