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barna research has multiple research studies you could reveiw...
and you can discuss various "versions" of the Bible all you'd like, but the original Hebrew and Greek both talk about being matched in faith...
faith and money are the top two reasons couples divorce when surveyed...a partner who is of a different faith makes for a very difficult lifelong relationship because of different values in child rearing, husband/wife dynamics, and home worship....dating someone who is of a different faith can sometimes go okay, but as any person who is/has been married will tell you, comparing dating relationship to marital relationship is like comparing tying your shoes to running a marathon....
and you can discuss various "versions" of the Bible all you'd like, but the original Hebrew and Greek both talk about being matched in faith...
faith and money are the top two reasons couples divorce when surveyed...a partner who is of a different faith makes for a very difficult lifelong relationship because of different values in child rearing, husband/wife dynamics, and home worship....dating someone who is of a different faith can sometimes go okay, but as any person who is/has been married will tell you, comparing dating relationship to marital relationship is like comparing tying your shoes to running a marathon....
I was married to someone that was not a Christian. I had convinced myself that once we got married she would go to church and become Christian as well. However, that was not the case. The Bible says that we are not to be unequally yolked. In my opinion what that means is you can be friends but just dont cross that line until you know that you have a fellow Christian by your side to help in your walk with Christ. God Bless!
R
I like to look at it this way, God gives us a freedom of choice. So to me it is not a matter that I have to find a christian spouse, but that I want to .
When I gave my life to God, i turned my all over to him, I fell in love with the king of kings, and because of that I choose to please him. When you love someone you want to do that which is pleasing to them. So I choose to follow his teachings and I want to walk in his ways.
I believe that it is like a triangle the bottom 2 corners is a man and a woman, the top one is God. the closer the man and woman get to God the closer they come together.
When I gave my life to God, i turned my all over to him, I fell in love with the king of kings, and because of that I choose to please him. When you love someone you want to do that which is pleasing to them. So I choose to follow his teachings and I want to walk in his ways.
I believe that it is like a triangle the bottom 2 corners is a man and a woman, the top one is God. the closer the man and woman get to God the closer they come together.
Proximity-wise yes, but that's a bit too simplistic, no? How do we define "closeness"? What's that got to do with longevity and the dynamic of the relationship? People can be oh so close yet be so far away in many things and it can all fall apart easily.
The divorce rate is so high because people don't take covenants seriously and when one does not feel "close" anymore to a person they suddenly leave. As if it was all just an easy thing. those who don't share so strongly about those bonds in a relationship won't be as likely to stay together as one who does, simple fact.
That's why, as Christians it says not to be unequally yoked. Why? Well it says it quite plainly after that, what do we have in common with those who have the slightest interest in the thing we are interested the most? Or we should at least. Rae had it spot on though, we don't find another Christian because we must as in a rule, but because we are naturally compelled as Christian to want to be bonded to someone who shares Christ in their lives.
It's not a matter of, should we date/marry non-Christians? it should be, why would we want to?
The divorce rate is so high because people don't take covenants seriously and when one does not feel "close" anymore to a person they suddenly leave. As if it was all just an easy thing. those who don't share so strongly about those bonds in a relationship won't be as likely to stay together as one who does, simple fact.
That's why, as Christians it says not to be unequally yoked. Why? Well it says it quite plainly after that, what do we have in common with those who have the slightest interest in the thing we are interested the most? Or we should at least. Rae had it spot on though, we don't find another Christian because we must as in a rule, but because we are naturally compelled as Christian to want to be bonded to someone who shares Christ in their lives.
It's not a matter of, should we date/marry non-Christians? it should be, why would we want to?
T
Simple. I dated several times with non-Christian. At the back of my mind, I feel incomplete, no one among them are qualified to be a better half for me. I may have loved them , but I'm not fully satisified because I know I do not fulfill God's will in my life. I had a heartbreak with a non Christian, just a few weeks ago. It was a real heartache,I mean a bit devastating, but it is only through God I can get back on my feet again. . with the help of people who are very dear to me.
I'm not expecting you to take advice, so you are free to completely disregard it. However, expect me to completely disregard your advice as well. I won't take advice from a centuries old book that affirms that it's right because it was written by god, and it was written by god because it says so.
My version was the exact same as the person I took it from, just using a line instead of a triangle. If mine is far too simplistic, hers is as well.
Because, oh, I don't know, it gives you a different life experience than the one you are accustomed to?
My version was the exact same as the person I took it from, just using a line instead of a triangle. If mine is far too simplistic, hers is as well.
Because, oh, I don't know, it gives you a different life experience than the one you are accustomed to?
you do realize that of all "ancient writings" as classified by archaeologists, the Bible has more historical "proofs" than all other ancient writings combined, right? Doubting God is one thing, but doubting the Bible and its legitimacy is a losing argument, which is why you'll virtually never find an Atheistic organization doubting the validity of the historical authenticity of the Bible...
Oh, and you'll have a tough time finding anywhere in the Bible that says that God wrote the Bible...He inspired man to write the Bible over the course of history, and oddly all these writers who didn't know each other wrote about the same God...The Bible is absolutely the Word of God, but that doesn't mean God hand wrote it, so using that as an argument against faith or the Bible is also rather futile...
also, to experience different experiences in life, one can choose to have friends who are of other beliefs and faith, but lifelong compatibility has been statistically shown to be hard to come by in those mismatched in beliefs and faith....
Oh, and you'll have a tough time finding anywhere in the Bible that says that God wrote the Bible...He inspired man to write the Bible over the course of history, and oddly all these writers who didn't know each other wrote about the same God...The Bible is absolutely the Word of God, but that doesn't mean God hand wrote it, so using that as an argument against faith or the Bible is also rather futile...
also, to experience different experiences in life, one can choose to have friends who are of other beliefs and faith, but lifelong compatibility has been statistically shown to be hard to come by in those mismatched in beliefs and faith....
it has been scientifically proven that a person could live inside a whale for three days...research has been done and that's not a question....of course the Bible doesn't even say 'whale', it says 'big fish'...we assume a whale because that's what we're accustomed to, but there are thousands more extinct fish than there are land animals that they've found evidence of....
and be wary of how you interpret "talking" snake...adam and eve were fully in tune with God at the time and able to interpret the words of God directly, something no other human since has been able to do...once Eve sinned, there is no further referenced conversation from the snake...
and be wary of how you interpret "talking" snake...adam and eve were fully in tune with God at the time and able to interpret the words of God directly, something no other human since has been able to do...once Eve sinned, there is no further referenced conversation from the snake...
From a Christian point of view, it's not as simple as that. I am a Christian and could date another Christian who is quite different from me, but we could have a lot in common. Anyone can give you a different life experience than what I'm used to, but the question is what "different life experience" is right for me?
Obviously studies show that divorce is really high and rising. So, why would i want to get into some sort of situation that could easily lead to a divorce? differences in belief are, I'm sure, one of the more leading causes of divorce. I'm sure i could do some research on it, but from a gut feeling, yea.
Obviously studies show that divorce is really high and rising. So, why would i want to get into some sort of situation that could easily lead to a divorce? differences in belief are, I'm sure, one of the more leading causes of divorce. I'm sure i could do some research on it, but from a gut feeling, yea.
B
Man Grace, that quote hit me pretty hard,
..."A womans heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man has to seek Him to find her."
If thats the cace then maybe my wait wont be coming to an end sooner than later, I get closer to the Lord every day~ def still workin on things though, lol...
I did wanna add that I read somewhere, how can you expect to walk with your partner now, if you cant walk with them for all eternity...
and of corse an athiest wouldnt have a prob dating a Christian, what i dont understand is why they bother getting married if they have such an anti belief, I know a good percentage of people who say there athiest are tryin to be cool, but that goes with a lot of christians to... I just pray that they will be touched by the love of the Lord as I have and love him back whole heartidly~ I think thats how you spell that anyways
Bless yall
..."A womans heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man has to seek Him to find her."
If thats the cace then maybe my wait wont be coming to an end sooner than later, I get closer to the Lord every day~ def still workin on things though, lol...
I did wanna add that I read somewhere, how can you expect to walk with your partner now, if you cant walk with them for all eternity...
and of corse an athiest wouldnt have a prob dating a Christian, what i dont understand is why they bother getting married if they have such an anti belief, I know a good percentage of people who say there athiest are tryin to be cool, but that goes with a lot of christians to... I just pray that they will be touched by the love of the Lord as I have and love him back whole heartidly~ I think thats how you spell that anyways
Bless yall
C
Dating non-christians,irrespective of what the WORD of GOD said,we should not be unequally yoke with unbelivers.My advice/suggestion to this issue,with regards to what is happening now in the world.We now have non-christians christians,they leave their lives the way they want.In church,they will pretend to be highly saintimonous,IS IT THE TYPE OF PEOPLE WE SHOULD GO FOR??? Because they are church goers,BRETHREN WE MAKE WAR BY WISDOM.Go for non-christians who have good motives,character and behaviour,brethren,if you meet such a person with this qualities,preach the word of God to the person and lead the person to Christ .If the person is a woman,you will see her submissive she will be to the things of God and you.And your marriage will be a thing of JOY.GOD BLESS U ALL