Unwritten dating rules
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Again, time has changed and so has the culture in America. That 'saying' was golden when 72% of adults were married in 1960, with marriages lasting 40-60 years. What worked 50 years ago usually don't work today in America.
Today is another story and the statistics are horrible.
If you listen to rap music, you will find that many of these rappers degrade and insult women because it reflects on how they were raised and/or feel toward their mothers. The illegitimacy from birth rates of African Americans has been between 65-70% for the last 50+ years. Majored in Sociology and studied the various cultures & behavior over the decades, and many African American mothers have been very cruel and vicious towards their sons. Why? because of the failures to connect with their fathers. Usually, many African American boys becomes the scapegoat for the mother's mistakes & failures.
Today is another story and the statistics are horrible.
If you listen to rap music, you will find that many of these rappers degrade and insult women because it reflects on how they were raised and/or feel toward their mothers. The illegitimacy from birth rates of African Americans has been between 65-70% for the last 50+ years. Majored in Sociology and studied the various cultures & behavior over the decades, and many African American mothers have been very cruel and vicious towards their sons. Why? because of the failures to connect with their fathers. Usually, many African American boys becomes the scapegoat for the mother's mistakes & failures.
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The problem with the statement he was commenting on was not how the man treated his mother, but that the man had said that his mother would always be the number one woman in his life. I'm sorry, but when a man marries, his wife needs to become the number one woman. And vice versa, when a woman marries, her husband needs to become the number one man in her life.
This is a big turn-off but some guys do it, so be warned..lol..
1.) Don't wipe your grubby, dirty hands on your clothes.
2.) No picking your nose! (yes guys do it, been there and seen it)
3.) Don't wear baggy pants like Justin Bieber does. It looks sloppy, and that look went out in the 90's with MC Hammer & Vanilla Ice. LOL!!
4.) No answering a phone call if you're at a restaurant with a girl. Turn your phone off.
5.) If it's a first date, do NOT try kissing her at the front door when you bring her back to her home.
6.) Don't talk with food in your mouth. Swallow it first.
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I second the notion that a thread needs to be started on this. I'll bring popcorn and a blast shield.
I imagine it varies by people, some claim hand holding is inappropriate contact. Me, I'm a "get the heck over here I'm going to hug you for a prolonged period of time" kind of guy. My hands aren't moving or anything, I'm just hugging. Those stupid drink holders and uncomfortable seats at the movie theater kind of ruin it though, and you can't do that while driving down the road.
Come to think of it, the engineers who designed my car were trolling pretty hard. There's a massive center console that even I can't climb over comfortably if I drop something on the other side of the car.
But I'm sure there's someone who's going to chime in and say that hugging is wrong, or that hugging for more than 30 seconds is wrong, or something along those lines. So in their mind I'm an inappropriate (appropriate) groper.
This is a big turn-off but some guys do it, so be warned..lol..
1.) Don't wipe your grubby, dirty hands on your clothes.
2.) No picking your nose! (yes guys do it, been there and seen it)
3.) Don't wear baggy pants like Justin Bieber does. It looks sloppy, and that look went out in the 90's with MC Hammer & Vanilla Ice. LOL!!
4.) No answering a phone call if you're at a restaurant with a girl. Turn your phone off.
5.) If it's a first date, do NOT try kissing her at the front door when you bring her back to her home.
6.) Don't talk with food in your mouth. Swallow it first.
Number 1 and number 6.
Number 1 - if they didn't want me using my pants, they would have provided paper towels in the restroom instead of an air dryer. I'm not walking around with wet hands.
Number 6 - I think everyone has been there where they get too excited and forget to finish chewing (though they best not make a habit of it).
I imagine it varies by people, some claim hand holding is inappropriate contact. Me, I'm a "get the heck over here I'm going to hug you for a prolonged period of time" kind of guy. My hands aren't moving or anything, I'm just hugging. Those stupid drink holders and uncomfortable seats at the movie theater kind of ruin it though, and you can't do that while driving down the road.
Come to think of it, the engineers who designed my car were trolling pretty hard. There's a massive center console that even I can't climb over comfortably if I drop something on the other side of the car.
But I'm sure there's someone who's going to chime in and say that hugging is wrong, or that hugging for more than 30 seconds is wrong, or something along those lines. So in their mind I'm an inappropriate (appropriate) groper.
This is a big turn-off but some guys do it, so be warned..lol..
1.) Don't wipe your grubby, dirty hands on your clothes.
2.) No picking your nose! (yes guys do it, been there and seen it)
3.) Don't wear baggy pants like Justin Bieber does. It looks sloppy, and that look went out in the 90's with MC Hammer & Vanilla Ice. LOL!!
4.) No answering a phone call if you're at a restaurant with a girl. Turn your phone off.
5.) If it's a first date, do NOT try kissing her at the front door when you bring her back to her home.
6.) Don't talk with food in your mouth. Swallow it first.
Number 1 and number 6.
Number 1 - if they didn't want me using my pants, they would have provided paper towels in the restroom instead of an air dryer. I'm not walking around with wet hands.
Number 6 - I think everyone has been there where they get too excited and forget to finish chewing (though they best not make a habit of it).
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How about this. Scrap all the stupid rules. Call when you want to. Wear what you want to. Be yourself. If the other person doesn't like it, they don't like you. So you aren't missing out on anything.
All dating rules are are instructions on how to act like someone other than yourself, in an attempt to win someone over, so that once you start dating they can find out who you Really are and realize they don't like you now that they actually know you.
All dating rules are are instructions on how to act like someone other than yourself, in an attempt to win someone over, so that once you start dating they can find out who you Really are and realize they don't like you now that they actually know you.
You struggle with a 1Lb dumb-bell?????
Brilliant point.
The rules I lay down are more like guidelines which help me know if a person is compatible with me or not. It is not meant to force the other person to conform to it. In the end, everyone has to be their selves no matter what.
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Let me clarify this for ya, Lynx: MOST women hate it if guys go more than two days without calling. Some want the guy to call the next day, or even the same night after they get home. LOL. But waiting at least one day is fine..
But waiting at least one day is fine..
I am sure he probably will light up like a Christmas tree and likely ask her for another date. Women need to stop sending out these mixed signals or playing hard to get. If she isn't interested, she can relay a noticeable facial expression or body language.
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I don't know about these rules. Lol. The 2 days to call? If we had a good time I expect at a least a " I had a great time last night" after 2 days I assume you have moved on.
The three days for sex? ....good luck with that. If she gives it up because social ettiqutte suggests its the right thing to do.....well....move on.
And does dating really mean that I should be okay with you also dating another girl? Cuz I'm not. Past the third date you are either in to me or not. Am I wrong? Did I get off track?
The three days for sex? ....good luck with that. If she gives it up because social ettiqutte suggests its the right thing to do.....well....move on.
And does dating really mean that I should be okay with you also dating another girl? Cuz I'm not. Past the third date you are either in to me or not. Am I wrong? Did I get off track?
Here's my list of unwritten laws for dating:
1. Don't take too many bathroom breaks or take too long when you do. (unless you're a woman... then go for it!)
2. If you start feeling nervous, just start singing the intro to 'Circle of Life' from Lion King...
3. If she seems bored at dinner, grab a few napkins and make a small bonfire on your table.
4. If she says she wants to go home, tell her you're really an undercover cop trying to protect her because they think she may be the next victim of a serial killer.
5. Don't make any bodily noises... unless you're in a crowded elevator.
6. Don't tell her if her perfume's too strong... just turn your head every few seconds to take a breath.
7. Last but not least... Do not look at other women
...if you can't resist the urge, hide your eyes so she won't notice and do it like this..
1. Don't take too many bathroom breaks or take too long when you do. (unless you're a woman... then go for it!)
2. If you start feeling nervous, just start singing the intro to 'Circle of Life' from Lion King...
3. If she seems bored at dinner, grab a few napkins and make a small bonfire on your table.
4. If she says she wants to go home, tell her you're really an undercover cop trying to protect her because they think she may be the next victim of a serial killer.
5. Don't make any bodily noises... unless you're in a crowded elevator.
6. Don't tell her if her perfume's too strong... just turn your head every few seconds to take a breath.
7. Last but not least... Do not look at other women
...if you can't resist the urge, hide your eyes so she won't notice and do it like this..
