Why did you press that ignore button??

[Fenner]

Seoul got me thinking this, she thinks she might be on someone's ignore list. If she is, why? She's never been mean to anyone, for goodness sakes she probably even let's the spiders in her house live.

I don't have anyone on ignore, even if they're irritating. I don't know why, I just can't do it. Do you think God wants us to ignore?

I'm not judging, I'm just asking.

 

[MissCris]

I put somebody on ignore once, a long while ago, just because their posts made me angry all the time...but then I kept clicking on them to view them anyway because I'm nosy. Since then, I've only blocked two people, and just long enough for me to cool down and get over whatever issue I had (so, like two days in one case, and two months in the other).

I think if you're easily irritated, you might as well skip the ignore button altogether and just avoid public forums

 

[kennethcadwell]

Jesus gave an example to us when He sent His apostles out to minister.
He said go into their house and speak to them, if they listen; then stay awhile and continue to talk to them. But if they don't listen then dust your feet off and move on leaving them in their biased thoughts. You can only repeat yourself to somebody, and even give them clear cut scriptures so many times. If they don't listen to what the Lord or His apostles said in the bible then there is not much more you can do to change them to the truth.

 

[Fenner]

I put somebody on ignore once, a long while ago, just because their posts made me angry all the time...but then I kept clicking on them to view them anyway because I'm nosy. Since then, I've only blocked two people, and just long enough for me to cool down and get over whatever issue I had (so, like two days in one case, and two months in the other).

I think if you're easily irritated, you might as well skip the ignore button altogether and just avoid public forums

That's my problem, I'm so nosy, I'm looking.

 

[Relena7]

I have had to put certain CC users on ignore in the past, for the sake of my sanity. Nothing good or "Godly" ever came from me psychologically torturing myself with the types of opinions that tear me down inside and make me feel depressed and helpless and bitter toward humankind. I know that God understands why I do it. I do not have a thick skin like some do, so I have to compensate for that.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

The "wrongness" of it would depend on why it was done. If you get upset whenever you see a particular person's posts, or their posts cause you hurt or loneliness, I don't feel that it's wrong to ignore their posts. It may actually be a wise decision.

If you ignore someone out of pettiness or hatred, that's of course another matter. We ARE commanded to love one another. But sometimes... it's more loving to back away and let others handle certain people.

 

[Fenner]

True both Relena and Grace, I agree with both of you.

 

[Ugly]

I ignore regularly it seems.
Problem I have is people who don't use ignore tend to have an attitude about those that do use it. As if using ignore makes you less than. Or that perhaps you shouldn't post on a public forum. Just because some people are obnoxious or whatever doesn't make me less of a person or less deserving of being here because I choose to prevent myself from being aggravated. Everyone here gets aggravated with someone else at one time or another. Because you choose to allow yourself to be aggravated doesn't make your choice better or more Christian.
In fact I believe it was Abraham and Lot (I may have the wrong names) that travelled together and had such a hard time getting along they chose to separate and no longer speak. There was wisdom because things would not resolve so they stayed away from one another.

Lastly I don't know if I'm the suspect or not but I have Seoul on ignore. Have for a long time. Zero too, for the same incident. And I had good reason. I have quite a few on ignore, though many are no longer active. And I see no reason why I shouldn't be here because I choose to ignore those who only serve as an irritant or worse. Because I also meet good people here that can enhance my life. I also get to help others when I have no other means to help people. Should I really not be in a public forum because I don't want to deal with ignorant or insulting people? If that's how people really feel then I suppose my time here will end soon.

 

[Lynx]

I wonder what this thread is about? All I see is a long list of posts I can't see because they're all on ignore...

Nah, I never have put anyone on ignore. As a mod in a former christian chatroom (may it rust in peace) I couldn't afford to put someone on ignore, in case he said something I was supposed to take moderator action on. Here I don't put people on ignore because... well... it doesn't matter. They're not standing beside me yelling in my ear, it's just posts typed in a forum. If they disagree, fine. If they insult me, it costs me nothing. If they went around talking about me all over the forum, nobody here knows any of my in-real-life friends so it wouldn't matter much to me.

 

[MissCris]

Ugly- I apologize for my not-funny "joke"; I don't actually feel that anyone should simply stay away from here if they ignore a lot of people. This is a place where anyone should be able to come and interact-or not interact- at their own discretion, and not be judged or looked down on for their choice.

My "joke" was in poor taste.

That being said, I have seen people come through here who don't appear to get along with anybody, nor read anyone's posts, and all they have to share is negativity...in those cases, I honestly can't help but wonder why they come here.

Anyway, my own issues aside, my apology stands- to you and anyone else I inadvertently offended.

 

[tourist]

Should I really not be in a public forum because I don't want to deal with ignorant or insulting people? If that's how people really feel then I suppose my time here will end soon.

That will be a sad day.

 

[Fenner]

Ugly you can ignore who ever you want, being that I'm so nosy I have a hard time doing, pathetic, yes, but true.

 

[JesusLives]

Jesus gave an example to us when He sent His apostles out to minister.
He said go into their house and speak to them, if they listen; then stay awhile and continue to talk to them. But if they don't listen then dust your feet off and move on leaving them in their biased thoughts. You can only repeat yourself to somebody, and even give them clear cut scriptures so many times. If they don't listen to what the Lord or His apostles said in the bible then there is not much more you can do to change them to the truth.

I'd just like to add that even though feet were dusted off and they moved on the people originally were not ignored they were ministered to. The people who didn't accept the message were the ones ignoring not Jesus and his disciples.

 

[JesusLives]

I personally haven't seen anyone that I would put on ignore I guess I am one of those thick skinned people. However, if I did truly feel personally threatened or really stalked then maybe ignore would be good. But that hasn't come up and I don't really foresee it coming up.

Although I do know I have been put on ignore for my boisterous personality and fearlessness of affection shown. Blame the flower children of the 60's. Sorry for my offensiveness not done on purpose most of the time.

 

[BananaPie]

Has anyone seen my book?

It has instructions on how to read minds before, during or after you ignore peeps online.

 

[jogoldie]

Ignore or not to ignore........is a personal and private thing.....we all have come here for our own reasons.....what threads we chose to participate I leave in Gods hands.....some I feel .....one of us has
spoken the message God wanted them to receive...and I just " like "and move on......some threads are not for our input and I read
and move on.....my choice.....people have their reasons for lashing out.......its a cry for help.....when they smite us....they are hurting people with deeper issues than what they attack....I see Gods hand
in a lot of posts from many people here........but the truth is..... when all the hurtful and unthought out
posts are said and done........just wait.....some or many will come in defense and save the thread...
I look at all of this as exercise in my functioning in the Spirit...so thanks to all the big meanies....
I'm getting into shape........love to all of my family here.......peace....jo

 

[Fenner]

I didn't mean or want to offend anyone with this thread. In hindsight, it was stupid of me to post it and I apologize. I really was just curious as to why, I don't know who ignores people because that doesn't show up, nor do I think that I'm better then anyone who does.

I have to admit that when Seoul posted she was on an ignore list I wondered why anyone would put her on one, it had to be a misunderstanding, she's one of the kindest people I know and she's reached out to me many times.

 

[seoulsearch]

Seoul got me thinking this, she thinks she might be on someone's ignore list. If she is, why? She's never been mean to anyone, for goodness sakes she probably even let's the spiders in her house live.

I'm sorry to disappoint you, my lovely lady, but the spiders 'round here don't stand a chance! In fact, one time at work, one of the girls called me up front and when I asked her what was up, she promptly pointed to a spider crawling by in front of her... to which, I responded with a SMACK down. Emphasis on the SMACK.

I think if you're easily irritated, you might as well skip the ignore button altogether and just avoid public forums

Cris, I know you said you wrote this as a joke, but I completely agree with you. I don't have an issue at all with people who disagree with people. We're all going to disagree. It's when the disagreements turn into persistent criticism, correction, hateful remarks, and personal attack with no remorse that I think a (very firm) line needs to be drawn. In my opinion, people who do this are probably very hurt themselves, BUT, it does NOT give them a right to repeatedly hurt other people.

I have also been upset lately because I've had several wonderful posters here who added a lot of positive thoughts to forum write me that they were leaving the site because they couldn't stand all the "soul-crushing" comments that were being made.

And by the way, Fenner and MissCris, I'm very glad you stay with us here in Singles. You're both very compassionate, funny as all get out, and, in my opinion, good, honest role models of how much work, prayer, and character it takes to be married. I learn a ton from you both.

I ignore regularly it seems.

Lastly I don't know if I'm the suspect or not but I have Seoul on ignore. Have for a long time. Zero too, for the same incident. And I had good reason.

Yes, I kind of figured this. I remember that as well. You had said something very harsh which I disagreed with; Zero defended me and you wrote a very angry post telling us both that we could, "Just ride off into the sunset together!" I remember that very well. As I wrote in another post, I have tried very hard to be kind to you. I've given you likes, rep points (I tried to rep one of your posts today but the system said I'd already given you too much), and positive feedback when you write something encouraging or uplifting. But if I see something I don't think is right over and over, yup, I'm gonna say something. Not that I'm the one who is always right, but we both have the right to speak what's on our minds.

So obviously you aren't reading this, which is absolutely fine. I have no problems being on anyone's "Ignore" list and have probably made onto those of many (maybe I could even set a record! ) due to my extremely long posts. But the reason I keep posting is because every now and then someone tells me, "Thank you for bringing up Subject X," and I figure if it even helps one person, I have a reason to keep posting.

Having people dislike me can hurt, of course, but in many ways, it really doesn't bother me so much. After all, I'm not a high school senior trying to win a popularity contest, which is why I post honestly. I realize there will be disagreements. Hopefully we can still love each other and support each other but if not, God help us all. I WILL, however, only go so long when I see something I strongly disagree with and not say anything.

I have only ever put one user on ignore here and that's because he was a married man who hinted, a bit more than obviously in the threads, that he thought I was attractive, and that made me very uncomfortable. It's been years since I've seen him here but that would be about my only reason for Ignoring someone.

As Fenner said, I like to read what's going on, so other than that, I don't put people on ignore. I often look for reasons to try to positively reinforce those I may have disagreed with on other points because the Bible tells us to edify one another and I genuinely want to like people. To be honest, what I'm really hoping for is to learn something about that other person and become more understanding of who they are and why they do what they do.

But, it's like when I wrote to prison inmates--they were hurting, too. But they kept on hurting other people. And that's something I will stand up to, even if the hurt is "just" through words, which can be much more painful than actions.

P.S. Fenner, just read your post. Thank you so much for being so kind. Truthfully though, when I really believe in something I'm like a pitbull--I clamp on with Jaws of Death and just won't let go. Which is sometimes one of my own biggest flaws as well.

 

[maxwel]

In the normal tangible world, outside of the internet,
there are many people I pray for, but whom I don't want visiting me.
: )

In the normal world, we draw boundaries.
There are people who are so toxic that we wisely choose not to be around them.

Why should it be any different here?


Also, we all have different thresholds of what we can handle,
and what we can deal with.
It isn't my place to tell others where to place all their boundaries.

 

[seoulsearch]

P.S. Lynx, you made me laugh when you said you couldn't read anything here because you had everyone on Ignore!!! That was classic! And, I think, worth at least 20 bonus points.

(If I had a "Bonus Points" List instead of Ignore, you would have made it just for that!)