Thanks, J.L.
I have never been shy about going after someone I like, from the get-go. I spent ages 17-29 in long-term relationships (one of them being a marriage) and in two cases I went after them. As I posted in another thread, there were two guys here (in the 5 years I've been here, and it was at different times) that I liked and said something to but they did not feel the same about me.
No guts, no glory, no worries. I am definitely not a sit back and wait for something to come along kind of girl.
However, my methods of attraction have changed. In order to know I was really interested in someone here, I'd probably have to meet them in person first. There have also been several Godly men on this site who say they'd prefer to be the one to go after someone so I'm also more cautious because of that.
I do appreciate your encouragement
but believe me, if I really like someone, I'm not shy about it. Though nowadays I do find myself waiting for a guy to make the first moves, especially here. I was going to write a list of names in the "Crushes" thread of gentlemen I'd love to have coffee with and see if something went from there.
But I figure... if someone liked me, he'd hopefully have the nerve to say something.