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Those of you following this discussion may wish to read this new article at The Institute For Family Studies titled 'What's Stopping Young Adults From Forming Families' which adds a few more social attributes to what I've already contributed in this thread:
"Family turmoil. Almost 60 percent of the 75 working-class young adults we interviewed experienced the fragmentation of their family before the age of 18. Many of them said the event caused some lasting difficulty in their lives."
"Crisis of trust. For many, an enduring legacy of a fragmented or unstable family is a crisis of trust. For example, Christopher told us that because he didn’t experience love in his own family of origin, he didn’t trust that his wife would always love him. The fear of loving and then losing, of trusting and then being betrayed—this is perhaps the most tragic legacy of family fragmentation, as Judith Wallerstein pointed out in her longitudinal study of children of divorce."
"Conflicted about marriage. This crisis of trust, in turn, informs young adults’ conflicted thinking about marriage."
"The libertarian sexual ethic... But this philosophy of sex leaves little room for discernment about character—about what makes for a good man or woman to build a family with. Since sex happens very early on in a relationship, or before a relationship even starts, young adults frequently find themselves, as family researcher Scott Stanley describes, sliding “through important transitions in relationships”—such as having sex and starting to live together—“rather than deciding what they are doing and what it means.”
"The fixed love mindset. Instead of a growth mindset about love that focuses on working through possible differences, these stories about love transmit a fixed mindset that focuses on immediate and perpetual compatibility—the absence of which probably indicates that a couple is no longer meant for each other."
"Extreme individualism. Despite the common challenges that confront working-class young adults, the idea that “my relationship is no one else’s business” prevents them from thinking about marriage and family life as a public issue that demands our common efforts."
What’s Stopping Young Adults from Forming Stable Families? | Family Studies
Also note that a study titled 'People's Reasons for Divorcing: Gender, Social Class, the Life Course, and Adjustment' People's Reasons for Divorcing found that the third most-cited response by divorced people was drinking or drug use (after infidelity and incompatibility).
"Family turmoil. Almost 60 percent of the 75 working-class young adults we interviewed experienced the fragmentation of their family before the age of 18. Many of them said the event caused some lasting difficulty in their lives."
"Crisis of trust. For many, an enduring legacy of a fragmented or unstable family is a crisis of trust. For example, Christopher told us that because he didn’t experience love in his own family of origin, he didn’t trust that his wife would always love him. The fear of loving and then losing, of trusting and then being betrayed—this is perhaps the most tragic legacy of family fragmentation, as Judith Wallerstein pointed out in her longitudinal study of children of divorce."
"Conflicted about marriage. This crisis of trust, in turn, informs young adults’ conflicted thinking about marriage."
"The libertarian sexual ethic... But this philosophy of sex leaves little room for discernment about character—about what makes for a good man or woman to build a family with. Since sex happens very early on in a relationship, or before a relationship even starts, young adults frequently find themselves, as family researcher Scott Stanley describes, sliding “through important transitions in relationships”—such as having sex and starting to live together—“rather than deciding what they are doing and what it means.”
"The fixed love mindset. Instead of a growth mindset about love that focuses on working through possible differences, these stories about love transmit a fixed mindset that focuses on immediate and perpetual compatibility—the absence of which probably indicates that a couple is no longer meant for each other."
"Extreme individualism. Despite the common challenges that confront working-class young adults, the idea that “my relationship is no one else’s business” prevents them from thinking about marriage and family life as a public issue that demands our common efforts."
What’s Stopping Young Adults from Forming Stable Families? | Family Studies
Also note that a study titled 'People's Reasons for Divorcing: Gender, Social Class, the Life Course, and Adjustment' People's Reasons for Divorcing found that the third most-cited response by divorced people was drinking or drug use (after infidelity and incompatibility).
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@Rachel20
LOL!! I guess you hate hearing the reality of the truth. Spent some time this morning researching poverty among women prior & after 1965 in regards to the Women's Movement of the 1960's. What you and many American women would be astonished with is that poverty among women today is much worse than it was prior 1965.
It is the entitlements that has soften the fall from grace. Did you & most American women really believe that God would take attacks against His sovereign institution of marriage lightly & feminist challenge to men's right to rule His household?
In reality God threw a vicious thunderbolt against those women who challenge His authority. The stats & numbers speak for themselves.
LOL!! I guess you hate hearing the reality of the truth. Spent some time this morning researching poverty among women prior & after 1965 in regards to the Women's Movement of the 1960's. What you and many American women would be astonished with is that poverty among women today is much worse than it was prior 1965.
It is the entitlements that has soften the fall from grace. Did you & most American women really believe that God would take attacks against His sovereign institution of marriage lightly & feminist challenge to men's right to rule His household?
In reality God threw a vicious thunderbolt against those women who challenge His authority. The stats & numbers speak for themselves.
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Just FYI, Rachel is def not the sterotypical American feminazi you have in mind. She's a very sweet woman and she's not even American, she's Indian. They actually have real bad inequalities over there. Not insignificant gripes that mean nothing, I'm talking some REAL inequality and disrespect for women goes on over there.
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Matthew 19:21
Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.”
Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.”
I really "honestly" believe that most of the problems we see in women are because the men have not represented Christ as we should...lets get that fixed first and just like that picture of the woman caught in adultery....If they see the real thing, they will follow..and sin no more 
Romans 14:4
Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand.
FYI - None of us are worthy of His forgiveness. He forgives because He loved us first. As far as the east is from the west He removes our sins from us. He also tells us to forgive our brothers seventy times seven!
Who are you really to decide if Jesus' forgiveness is for those you deem worthy? I think you should apologize to God.
[Also check out Matthew 6:14-15 while you're at it ]
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I really "honestly" believe that most of the problems we see in women are because the men have not represented Christ as we should...lets get that fixed first and just like that picture of the woman caught in adultery....If they see the real thing, they will follow..and sin no more
Proverbs 31:3 (Regarding leading, If you feel powerless as a man perhaps it's because your just giving it away?)
"Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings."
Ephesians 5:25 (How to treat and respect your wife, I personally try to expand this to all romantic interests since I don't want to marry)
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
The book of proverbs is great advice that completely gives you all you need to know to avoid being rendered powerless and dodge all these crazy scenarios we see play out in society at large. There's plenty more good ones in there. Even tells you how to spot the bad ones
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True we have not... and glad you have a wife that sees Christ even when we as so-called men of God fail to represent Him.. You know Paul said it was shameful for women to teach...I don't believe he means the shame is on the woman ..if she is called of God? I believe the shame is upon us as men who have failed to be the teachers and ministers that God would have us to be. I know a few truly Godly men...I know and have known more Godly women.
