idk if she is interested in me

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fantasiafelice

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how'd you know if someone is interested in you?

i've been texting this girl and she seems to like me,

we met in college then she got pregnant by some guy and now they are splitting up
she seems to like me and i quite like her :)

i think i am being really stupid but i can't help it :( I've been single for too long and i have no hope of meeting anybody else and i am overweight :(

i don't think she could ever be interested in me except i think she is, i am so stupid :( i am reading the signs all wrong :(

its very complicated :(
 
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fantasiafelice said:
how'd you know if someone is interested in you?

i've been texting this girl and she seems to like me,

we met in college then she got pregnant by some guy and now they are splitting up
she seems to like me and i quite like her :)

i think i am being really stupid but i can't help it :( I've been single for too long and i have no hope of meeting anybody else and i am overweight :(

i don't think she could ever be interested in me except i think she is, i am so stupid :( i am reading the signs all wrong :(

its very complicated :(
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You are right. These situations are often complicated. Try writing an actual letter(s) to her instead of the text(s) as these would be more in-depth and at the very least make for an interesting read.

Actually, you have a lot of hope in meeting someone, in fact, it looks like that you already have. Oh, pray on this as well, maybe you are getting lucky.
 
cinder

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fantasiafelice said:
how'd you know if someone is interested in you?

i've been texting this girl and she seems to like me,

we met in college then she got pregnant by some guy and now they are splitting up
she seems to like me and i quite like her :)

i think i am being really stupid but i can't help it :( I've been single for too long and i have no hope of meeting anybody else and i am overweight :(

i don't think she could ever be interested in me except i think she is, i am so stupid :( i am reading the signs all wrong :(

its very complicated :(
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Girl pregnant (or with a child) from ex boyfriend seeks sucker to help her out of the mess she's made. Sorry but this sounds like a bad situation from the get go, and you sound you are so down on yourself that you'd take anyone who was nice to you. The advice I can give you is: 1) it is so much better to be single and a bit lonely than in a bad relationship 2) You seem to think very little of yourself, if you don't value yourself it will be difficult for a woman to value you 3) Don't be her rebound guy, that's selling yourself way to short

I've recently been in a similar situation where I got way too attached to a guy that I knew was a mess. And the thoughts did definitely come well this is the only person who seems to like me, maybe I should give him a chance. He might be my last or only chance. Now that we've been apart for a while, I am so glad I didn't do something so foolish. Praying that you will be guided by the wisdom and truth of God and that your enemy would not be able to prey on your emotions and throw you into confusion and compromise.

PS. I'm having decent success at losing weight with a low carb diet. You could try that too if the overweight is a huge issue for you.
 
CatHerder

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fantasiafelice said:
how'd you know if someone is interested in you?
I don't know if anyone really knows for sure until they had the dreaded "DTR" talk (Define the Relationship).

i've been texting this girl and she seems to like me,

we met in college then she got pregnant by some guy and now they are splitting up
she seems to like me and i quite like her :)

i think i am being really stupid but i can't help it :( I've been single for too long and i have no hope of meeting anybody else Quit saying that you are stupid. There are people all around you (on this site even) who cannot correctly construct a simple sentence. I would say that you are at least of average intelligence.

and i am overweight :( Come visit America. You will find many couples in which one or both people are overweight. Some are even morbidly obese.

i don't think she could ever be interested in me except i think she is, i am so stupid :( i am reading the signs all wrong :(
Maybe, maybe not....why not ask her out?

its very complicated :(
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It can be. One can give mixed signals without even realizing it. But maybe you are reading some of the signals correctly and she is expressing interest? Start reading the Bible more - particularly parts that reveal how much God loves you and how much worth you have to him. As someone who sees himself in a positive light and who is more confident, you will be a better partner for her or for any other lady who you may meet later on in life.



ETA - just read Cinder's post. There is a lot of wisdom there as well. You don't want to jump into anything because your are feeling lonely and a little desperate. You have issues. She obviously does, given her situation. Proceed with caution.
 
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jaybird88

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just ask her out. whats the worst that could happen? she could say no but that is not the end of the world and most guys have got no's so your not alone. i have had tons of them in my life.
 
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fantasiafelice said:
how'd you know if someone is interested in you?

i've been texting this girl and she seems to like me,

we met in college then she got pregnant by some guy and now they are splitting up
she seems to like me and i quite like her :)

i think i am being really stupid but i can't help it :( I've been single for too long and i have no hope of meeting anybody else and i am overweight :(

i don't think she could ever be interested in me except i think she is, i am so stupid :( i am reading the signs all wrong :(

its very complicated :(
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Love is risky business! Take the risk!
 
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fantasiafelice

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thanks for the replies, i really am struggling with this, i think it is hard to get into the mind of a new single mother esp when she says she 'just wants to have some fun' makes me think that she doesn't want a serious relationship.

i am sorry for saying i am stupid though i think the word might be foolish as i have these desires

sometimes i can't see past my own desires its like it slows me down or fogs me up lol, maybe it is lust, i think it is.

deep down i don't think it would work but part of my wants to try, also another part of me thinks it won't work and i am reading it all wrong,

i think some of the things i know for sure are that she definitely likes me but maybe not in that way, she wants to go out with me some time in to town and said we can party at her new place when she gets it, she's also been encouraging me to date try to date more,

its really difficult bc i am so mixed up, there are conflicting things, things that play on my feelings and desires and make me think she wants me, and i really like her, i tried to help her when she was pregnant i was a friend to her,

i think i might just wing it if you know what i mean.
 
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Sirk

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Just relax and make her laugh. Be yourself. I'll bet you have a great sense of humor. Let it shine through.
 
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fantasiafelice

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Sirk said:
Just relax and make her laugh. Be yourself. I'll bet you have a great sense of humor. Let it shine through.
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personality wise is ok but everything else is a disaster :s
 
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Sirk

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fantasiafelice said:
personality wise is ok but everything else is a disaster :s
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It's the hearts connecting that make lasting relationships....not outward beauty. If you are self conscious about your weight do something about it. Besides...everyone is ugly naked....haha.
 
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Sirk

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Honestly friend.....the beauty that you see in the magazines and on tv is an illusion. Don't compare yourself to it.....in fact, completely ignore it.
 
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We have a saying here: "El que quiere besar, busca la boca" (whomever wants to kiss, approaches to a mouth).

That seeking, regular approaching: Several ways of communication may serve you as a "guide".
 
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Red flags on here: "she got pregnant by some guy and now they are splitting up"

She could be needing someone TO RECEIVE emotional help and $.

That´s not the best moment to push her into a new relationship.

If I were you, I´d only think in MINISTRY, to help her (not to get her)
 
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jaybird88

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talk with a british accent every time your around her. she will think you are cool and sophisticated.
 
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Sirk

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jaybird88 said:
talk with a british accent every time your around her. she will think you are cool and sophisticated.
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I hear the ladies like Aussie accents better.
 
Oncefallen

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Maybe that didn't come out right but the point is that we all have our flaws. :)
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Nah, you're good bro. You said everyone is ugly naked, and I (as a married man) have to disagree. :)
 
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