Hey Everyone,
How do you feel about meeting someone you've been crushing online in person? Would you have any specific concerns or fears?
This topic is something I'd thought about for a while and another poster was able to better put into words some of the things I'd been thinking of.
A few of my concerns would be:
1. Would he even... like who I am in person? I currently don't have a CC crush but there are several users I'd like to meet and become real life friends. Now, if by some chance, something worked out with a special someone, great, but in the meantime, here are some things I think about.
For some reason, I've been told that I look better in person than pictures (apparently I must come across in pictures as a total troll
), but I'd still be a little nervous and insecure.
What if he finds out I'm really not all the clever or funny or even interesting? That all in all, I'm just a very, ordinary plain person with an occasionally off-the-wall view of life...
Which would be especially crushing if he had seemed totally into talking to me... until we actually met... and then he was like, "Uh... nice meeting you..." and promptly found a way to flee the scene.
And if for some reason it was me who no longer felt an attraction to him once we met... How would I handle it gracefully and with as much respect as possible?
2. As Catherder wrote in another thread, while I'd really be looking forward to meeting that special person, at the same time, I'd almost be afraid of hitting it off in person, because if we had an amazing connection and were on opposite sides of the state, country, world... I'd be totally heartbroken that I couldn't spend more time with this astonishingly wonderful person. I hate the feeling of absolute longing for someone due to distance or circumstance and would be afraid feeling that way all the time once I had to leave that person. And I wouldn't want either of us to move UNTIL we'd had plenty of real-life time together.
3. With some things in life... I almost wonder if the fantasy is better than the reality. Sure, I can think about what a fun, awesome pair we might be... without facing any of the harsh realities or heartache.
But overall, depending on the person and the situation, to me, the risk would totally be worth it if it the chance was there to take.
I just might be shaking in my neon-colored sneakers the entire time... but I'm sure I'd get through!
How about the rest of you?
How do you feel about meeting someone you've been crushing online in person? Would you have any specific concerns or fears?
This topic is something I'd thought about for a while and another poster was able to better put into words some of the things I'd been thinking of.
A few of my concerns would be:
1. Would he even... like who I am in person? I currently don't have a CC crush but there are several users I'd like to meet and become real life friends. Now, if by some chance, something worked out with a special someone, great, but in the meantime, here are some things I think about.
For some reason, I've been told that I look better in person than pictures (apparently I must come across in pictures as a total troll
), but I'd still be a little nervous and insecure. What if he finds out I'm really not all the clever or funny or even interesting? That all in all, I'm just a very, ordinary plain person with an occasionally off-the-wall view of life...
Which would be especially crushing if he had seemed totally into talking to me... until we actually met... and then he was like, "Uh... nice meeting you..." and promptly found a way to flee the scene.
And if for some reason it was me who no longer felt an attraction to him once we met... How would I handle it gracefully and with as much respect as possible?
2. As Catherder wrote in another thread, while I'd really be looking forward to meeting that special person, at the same time, I'd almost be afraid of hitting it off in person, because if we had an amazing connection and were on opposite sides of the state, country, world... I'd be totally heartbroken that I couldn't spend more time with this astonishingly wonderful person. I hate the feeling of absolute longing for someone due to distance or circumstance and would be afraid feeling that way all the time once I had to leave that person. And I wouldn't want either of us to move UNTIL we'd had plenty of real-life time together.
3. With some things in life... I almost wonder if the fantasy is better than the reality. Sure, I can think about what a fun, awesome pair we might be... without facing any of the harsh realities or heartache.
But overall, depending on the person and the situation, to me, the risk would totally be worth it if it the chance was there to take.
I just might be shaking in my neon-colored sneakers the entire time... but I'm sure I'd get through!
How about the rest of you?
