Do you guys ever worry that you're gonna be alone forever like me?
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Indeed that isn't found in scripture. Actually scripture teaches that we are too weak so we must rely on God. And using Paul as an example as to why you should remain single is highly misused. Paul said he wished everyone was given the gift God gave him about being able to remain single, but it is just that, a gift that not everyone has, and if the OP had the gift he wouldn't be so worried about finding someone.
Keep praying to God and have Him guide you because if you go out on your own effort you will choose the wrong one. God wants you to get married and don't let anyone tell you any different. God said man should not live alone so don't worry. ; )
Keep praying to God and have Him guide you because if you go out on your own effort you will choose the wrong one. God wants you to get married and don't let anyone tell you any different. God said man should not live alone so don't worry. ; )
Dot,
I have to call you out on this, ok?
A long time ago when you sent me a friends request, I sent you a private message back asking about you, your hobbies and interests, etc. to get to know you... in other words, I was trying to be friends. And, last time I knew, I just so happen to be a girl. But you never replied or even acknowledged my message.
There have also been times I've tried to say hi to you in the chatrooms and so forth, but you never even respond.
I've read most of your posts and threads about being single and how much you say you want to work on your social issues and have friends who are girls... that's why I tried contacting you--I thought we could be friends.
I figured maybe you just didn't answer because of the age difference--I get messages regularly from guys in their late 50's telling me they're looking for a wife--but I tried my best not to sound like someone looking for a spouse! I just thought maybe we could start a friendship and maybe I could encourage you a bit.
However, I've read a post from at least one other person on the threads who said he too wrote you some suggestions via private mail... so I'm wondering... if you don't answer the people on a chat line who want to help and be your friends...
How do you expect to change in real life? Sorry, I've tried to be as considerate and polite as I could be in my other replies to you, but I just had to throw this out.
I'm not sure what kind of feedback you really want when you don't even answer people who take the time and make the effort to contact you personally. How do you expect to make friends in real life if you're apparently not even interested in making them here?
Maybe what you should start with are some questions about how to make and form friendships, even on a chat line... and we can take it from there. (Tip number one: when people try to talk to you, it's a good idea to respond or they'll probably assume you're not interested in being friends.)
Just something to think about, ok?
Kim
I had a friend like you in high school. Always looking for girls but never getting them. The girls knew that was all he was after, so they didn't like him. This guy had no social skills, but he had confidence. The reason that he had confidence is that he practiced alot. He would constantly talk to girls. Sometimes they wouldn't even respond, because he was pretty sleazy. But he kept trying, and failing.
He started succeeding after going to the gym, getting a job, wearing nice clothes and basically growing up, getting life experience. THEN he used the confidence he already had to get alot of phone numbers.
So if you really want to get a girlfriend, just practice talking to random girls in the street, and see if you can get their phone numbers, even if you have no intention of calling them. Then when you find a good christian girl or she finds you, you will know what you are doing as you will have done it before many times.
He started succeeding after going to the gym, getting a job, wearing nice clothes and basically growing up, getting life experience. THEN he used the confidence he already had to get alot of phone numbers.
So if you really want to get a girlfriend, just practice talking to random girls in the street, and see if you can get their phone numbers, even if you have no intention of calling them. Then when you find a good christian girl or she finds you, you will know what you are doing as you will have done it before many times.
Yeah, but Dot, apparently you don't answer the single females who try to say hi to you and try to be friends either.
I mean, not that you would have HAD to answer my email or would have to answer me in chat, but it was strange to me that you keep saying, "I WANT FRIENDS WHO ARE GIRLS!" and when I've tried to talk to you... you... you.... (the echo trails off)--absolutely no response!
So... I'm assuming the only human beings you really want to have anything to do with are supposedly single, eligible girls about your age?
Sorry to say, but that isn't exactly setting you up for social success...
I see what you mean.
None of this is real.
I am pretty sure all the 13 and 14 year old girls on here are FBI agents.
Ime and Kathleen for sure
None of this is real.
I am pretty sure all the 13 and 14 year old girls on here are FBI agents.
Ime and Kathleen for sure
It's so funny, Greatkaw--and you make a good point here... a lot of people SAY none of this is real... then I always wonder why people take it so seriously.
I mean, if none of this is real, why is it that:
1. People expect to find "the one" online;
2. I was in a chat last night (not here) and two people got into a huge bickering fight, trading insults to the point of it being embarrassing, and one girl scolded us all and said how "sad" we had made her because I guess not everyone in the room greeted her when she entered the room;
3. Some people post here asking for advice and then explode when everyone doesn't seem to have the perfect solution to their problem...
I always wonder... if people see online "social interaction" as being so unreal (and yes, of course, it can be)--why in the heck do they expect so much from it?
And how can people possibly expect this to be a "real" primer for everyday relationships, friendships, and, of all things, marriage... if they don't take how they treat people here as being "real"?
Sorry... just some random thoughts! (Which I always seem to have too many of.)
