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But my question is without porn. I have masturbated in the past without fantasy or porn just a purely physical act.
C'mon.... you know better than that. And you SURE aren't going to sell it to anyone else. LOL
 
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Is this the army that God is raising to do His mighty works?

An army of masturbators??

Where is the blessing in that?

What is blessed about a man or a woman that commits a selfish act where they are thinking about theirself and not someone else? Where they are thinking about theirself and not Christ?

Doesn't God want us to keep our hearts and minds on Him?

Does God want people to fall into the trap that satan has set that says its okay and alright to do such a thing?

It is a disgusting, perverse, barbaric act of selfishness.

There is nothing blessed in the act of masturbation.

It is a purely selfish act. You turn your back on God to do you your OWN thing.

It doesn't matter if you are not thinking adulterous thoughts or not watching porniea at the time.

It doesn't matter. Because it is something that YOU want to do and not what God wants you to do.

Is it something that you can share with your neighbors?

Do you not draw your curtains closed when you do it?

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Eph 5:3 (NIV) But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people.

Rom 14:12-13 (NIV) So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God. Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling-block or obstacle in your brother's way.

1Th 4:2-8 (NIV) For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God... For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.


Ro 6:13 (NIV) Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness.
All truth, no doubt. But there really IS a better way to say it.
 
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May I ask: "What´s Godly design?" Marriage? To avoid the "evil" desires?

2014 years ago Jesus called them adulteres: Those who were married and lustfully wanted some else (Mar 8:38 For whosoever shall be ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, the Son of man also shall be ashamed of him, when he cometh in the glory of his Father with the holy angels. (Mat_12:39; Mat_16:4 ).

I divorced once.

I have seen others who endured legal divorce twice, like one of my brothers, and I have seen others who have fled or were left by those they said they loved their spouses.

I prayed before being married, my ex wife prayed prior to marry me (a sinner). Many people prayed and yet, the end result is divorce and it seems to prevails: It doesn´t matter it be called legal or ilegal, emotional or "spiritual" and, as long as people are not completely "asexual" (another lie invented) something is needed to be sorted out to stopt that human want.
Yeah. As far as sex. It was supposed to be within a marriage, not before it and not outside of it.

Dang man, sorry about your divorce (and those of your friends and brother). :(
 

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But, therein lies a big problem. Much of the church continues to tell all of us that we are worthless sinners, male and female. We even sing hymns about being in such a state. And some ignorant shepherds insist on telling us God is angry with us if we sin, and even go so far as to say we fall out of fellowship with him, and have to jump through religious hoops to get Him to "almost" like us again..... for awhile, till we sin the next time, and then He turns angry against us again.

No wonder people get confused, and think they are worthless, if even their creator supposedly hates them.
Hmmmm, maybe you're going to the wrong churches. I've never gotten the idea that I was worthless or that God was perpetually angry with me from any sermon I've ever heard.
 
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Hmmmm, maybe you're going to the wrong churches. I've never gotten the idea that I was worthless or that God was perpetually angry with me from any sermon I've ever heard.
No, it's the very fact that I left those kinds of churches that I know the difference.
 
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At the cross. (I suspect you've sung it) And this is but a taste of the "Worm Theology" taught.

Alas! and did my Savior bleed
And did my Sov’reign die?
Would He devote that sacred head
For such a worm as I ? Refrain:
At the cross, at the cross where I first saw the light,
And the burden of my heart rolled away,
It was there by faith I received my sight,
And now I am happy all the day!

Thy body slain, sweet Jesus, Thine—
And bathed in its own blood—
While the firm mark of wrath divine,
His soul in anguish stood.
Was it for crimes that I had done
He groaned upon the tree?
Amazing pity! grace unknown!
And love beyond degree!
Well might the sun in darkness hide
And shut his glories in,
When Christ, the mighty Maker died,
For man the creature’s sin.
Thus might I hide my blushing face
While His dear cross appears,
Dissolve my heart in thankfulness,
And melt my eyes to tears.
But drops of grief can ne’er repay
The debt of love I owe:
Here, Lord, I give myself away,
’Tis all that I can do.
 
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C'mon.... you know better than that. And you SURE aren't going to sell it to anyone else. LOL
Actually no I don't I am ignorant about it. My questions were genuine. I wasn't trying to sell anything. I haven't masturbated in awhile. But I didn't understand all the reasons. There's a better way to help people than to make them feel badly.
 
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Shinesobright,

This topic comes up often, with many threads being written about it. At the top of the page you will find a "search box"--you might want to do some searches regarding the topics and questions you're wondering about--you'll probably find several threads with information that might be helpful.

Also, for personal subjects such as this, you may also want to ask in the Ladies' (Only) Forum. The women there tend to be very understanding and willing to answer any kind of question you may have. I tend to do more reading than posting in that forum because you'll find so many wiser, older women who have a great deal of life experience and good advice, and it's all from a woman's point of view, of course, which seems to be something you may be seeking as well.

Welcome to CC and God bless!
Thanks I will Def do this next time!!
 
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Actually no I don't I am ignorant about it. My questions were genuine. I wasn't trying to sell anything. I haven't masturbated in awhile. But I didn't understand all the reasons. There's a better way to help people than to make them feel badly.
You eat because: You felt hungry? Or you needed satisfaction? (or both things?)

PS

Ladies forum the best place to ask it.
 
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Hey never mind the ladies thread has been activated for me and I'll be more comfortable over there thanks to the ones who were respectful and actually tried to help and those of you who private messaged with sensitivity
 
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Yeah. As far as sex. It was supposed to be within a marriage, not before it and not outside of it.

Dang man, sorry about your divorce (and those of your friends and brother). :(
As far as I see "sex", I´m have been human, and "sexually" responsive since a child and a child do not need to be married to experience it.

I cannot tell about gilrly or women experiences, except I re-tell what I have feard or have been told, but I know they have their issues and, when my daughter was around her 7-8, I knew she also has her issues with "sex", her drives, her emotions, itchings and questions. Fortunatelly I have my mother and sister to share what I heard and learned from my loved one (her mom is/was somewhat dull or narrow-minded to get what some dads may learn from her children, although we may not agree what "sex" is, because you see it from its Creationist side, and I also see it from my viscerality, my errors, faults and sins.

My divorce is nothing compared to many emotional "divorces", broken dreams, etc. and it´s nothing to those I torn in other people´s who were willing to love me, and I was picky, with huge ignorance, because I have walked this life grouping, like a blind man (blinded with my personal sins or disbelieving there´s a "godly design" and He doesn´t tell ME: "Go this way, bad boy" (The easy way to stop being wrong or playing the love game mistakenly).

That thing socially called "dating" has much more to do with exploring the physical area than prospecting and knowing the person we think we (I) liked. Dating is more than a simple friendship because it leads to grouping and this is wired with "sex", one way or another so, if I wanted to be sure who a person is, I don´t need to date, I just needed to talk, to share, without touching of hands or anything leading to the sin of kissing or holding of hands because, as far as I see it, that´s "sex", without an explicit intercourse.
 
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You´re getting friends who will advice you more kindly! We "machos" are rude, fool, and hypocrites.

PS

Don´t believe me, but girls also hurt and lie.
Yes I'm aware. But it was suggested to me by a moderator. So intend to at least try it out considering it wasn't so good here. Just some advice I'm taking for now. Not a big deal
 
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Nobody can make you feel bad without your permission.
 
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Yes I'm aware. But it was suggested to me by a moderator. So intend to at least try it out considering it wasn't so good here. Just some advice I'm taking for now. Not a big deal
AS far as I see online issues, certain things aren´t good to be said in public eyes but, if we are all to be in front of God´s judgment seat, knelt or stood in front of His chosen and His angels, what do I need to hide?

I´ve liked your boldness and, as you´ve said, no big deal, ´cause there are many things concealed and His Spirit sees all (even our souls).

Welcome to nobody´s land!
 
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Actually no I don't I am ignorant about it. My questions were genuine. I wasn't trying to sell anything. I haven't masturbated in awhile. But I didn't understand all the reasons. There's a better way to help people than to make them feel badly.
This is nowhere near trying to make anyone feel bad... merely trying to help you stay out of the "fib zone".
 
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Your comments are awesome...to the point and full of hope...GOD is using you mightily...for many have this addiction and either do not admit it or think that they can overcome it soon enough. Thankyou for your honesty and gift of good advice.
 
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Addiction? A need? A hunch?

Nothing better than having a real life, a person LOVED, not used.
 
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I´m laughing at me!

Those days I came to CC some ()x were using a video with a little sheep to show my being dull or rude.

Somebody else is going to see it!

:p