So there is this guy that is at my pastor's sister church. Growing up I would normally see him and think to myself he is nice looking but that would be all. I would hear people talking about him and how he was engaged and I found out he use to go to my high school. I did not have any interest in him. So years progress as well as a couple of boyfriends. Last summer I had broke up with my ex two months prior and I was still stuck on my ex. the guy I mentioned in a few sentences before church came and I and my cousin was walking down a hall and he appeared my cousin took a deep breath (yes he is just that good lookin lol) and I just looked and turned around. I wasn't interested. So months later I saw him at store in my hometown. he was standing onside of store door and I spoke not sure if he heard me because he only stared. I went in store to get items and I was standing at counter I turned he was looking at me from corner of the door. so I paid for items and walked out and went to car. he continued talking to a guy and looked at my car then looked at him. So months pass and his church came to mines again. it was my pastor's anniversary. It was told to me all during church service he stared at me which I do not believe. so after service I kinda waited in my car to see if he was gone. I saw him going back into church and I got out car and went in. so I saw him coming from my right I looked he did as well and I continued walking until I saw a church member and we began talking. he was behind me talking with one of his church members. I turned around to look at him and he stopped talking and looked at me and I turned away and just smiled. so we both went outside still talking with the same people and I eventually left. I saw him once when I was at his church, not for him, but because I visit sometimes I admire their overseer. Anyway I was sitting down and he walked by where I was sitting and I looked and he did and I looked away. Then they did an altar call and I went I looked at pastor and he was onside of him and I looked at him and his eyes got buck. soon church was getting ready to let out and they did offering. I was walking towards offering plate and me and him were walking like face to face and he turned corner and was walking onside of me and he put his money in and turned to look at me. I saw all this out corner of eye. Then I saw him at Walmart with his baby cousin I was in a hurry and I was walking fast so I did not stay long to give him any type of attention. lastly I recently saw him at my church for revival. after service I looked around for him while I was at my car and our eyes met and it seemed he was smiling and about to come to me, but I hopped in car and drove off. my family is telling me I am running, but I just feel like this is a fairytale. I sometimes do not think I am worthy and think what would he want with me. anywho I was thinking about going to his church this sunday to see what would happen, but then I decided against it because that would mean I am chasing him and I feel God needs no help if he is an opportune. I do not want to be stuck on him that if he is not a good candidate I miss out on someone that is. I do not know what it is but ever since I saw him at store it was something about him to me. he is always impressed on my heart. it wasn't until I saw him at store that I became interested. he never came across my mind before then. do you think it is my imagination? I am often told I am not approachable, how can I let him know its okay to approach me without coming off as needy? good idea to attend his church on sunday? I feel based off what happens if I decide to go would let me know whether I should move on.
Advice anyone?
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simple. drop it. no more looking.
if you want to be one of yahweh's anointed ones, drop all hopes of looking, turn it over to yahshua(jesus).
remember, HIS WORD shows that you have to give up 'social life' , / company/, 'worldly friends' as well as family...
to be a member of GOD'S FAMILY.
i.e. it may seem like it will be lonely, and you may be lonely for quite some time, (seeking GOD'S LIFE)
but never alone. this is only possible by GOD'S DOING.... and GRACE in YAHSHUA(JESUS)....
if you want to be one of yahweh's anointed ones, drop all hopes of looking, turn it over to yahshua(jesus).
remember, HIS WORD shows that you have to give up 'social life' , / company/, 'worldly friends' as well as family...
to be a member of GOD'S FAMILY.
i.e. it may seem like it will be lonely, and you may be lonely for quite some time, (seeking GOD'S LIFE)
but never alone. this is only possible by GOD'S DOING.... and GRACE in YAHSHUA(JESUS)....
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Ah, young love.
Go to his church if it pleases you. You don't need to go for him. Who knows? You just may find you like his congregation.
As far as you two go, that's really up to you whether you want to pursue it or not. I agree with the majority of users here in that God delivers us someone in His time by His will, but I don't agree with the implication in that notion that we just put our feet up and wait for the person to knock our door down and sweep us off our feet. We can take initiative.
Go to his church if it pleases you. You don't need to go for him. Who knows? You just may find you like his congregation.
As far as you two go, that's really up to you whether you want to pursue it or not. I agree with the majority of users here in that God delivers us someone in His time by His will, but I don't agree with the implication in that notion that we just put our feet up and wait for the person to knock our door down and sweep us off our feet. We can take initiative.
Sounds like there is a whole lot of looking going on and admiring from a distance or nearness......Are you just crushing on this guy or have you prayed about a partner for life? This sounds like...well we keep running into each other is it meant to be?
Has this guy asked you out yet?... Has he tried to talk to you at any time? If you are interested then why aren't you talking to him? Hi how are you? My name is...... Why play these games? Or have you just imagined that he is interested in you? Lots of questions that only you can answer...But if you are interested at least get the guys name and let him know you do know how to talk....
Has this guy asked you out yet?... Has he tried to talk to you at any time? If you are interested then why aren't you talking to him? Hi how are you? My name is...... Why play these games? Or have you just imagined that he is interested in you? Lots of questions that only you can answer...But if you are interested at least get the guys name and let him know you do know how to talk....
I have prayed for a partner. As stated in post or implied by post I do not know what to do this is new to me. . I do not know the ethics of dating if there are any. Never said I believe in waiting around, I do not know what to do. I have never had a guy look at me in that way. I do not want to assume he likes me or anything. In the past I have assumed and gotten hurt and not only that but I have taken initiative and it backfired on me. In response to comment about post and its format, haven't you been taught if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. And it was done in a hurry. By the way I do know his name. I have not imagined anything to my knowledge others have told me he stares at me.
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Good, I don't think you should assume or imagine anything. As long as you're not doing that or romanticizing whatever this thing is between you two, you shouldn't get hurt. You'll get hurt if you jump into it with expectations and/or with pride. Taking initiative doesn't have to mean doing anything other than starting off small. Sharing intermittent, awkward glances is what brought you here asking for advice, right? Try going one small step further. "Hello," would be a good start.
My advice was to take initiative. Your response was you've had that backfire on you. I'm really not sure what else to tell you.
My advice was to take initiative. Your response was you've had that backfire on you. I'm really not sure what else to tell you.
Hmm. Now this is certainly a new one on me.
I went to Christian grade schools K-12th grade. One of the very first requirements on our school supply list for both boys and girls was a hymnal.
And not once were we told to keep it intact for our future spouse.
In fact, we were required to break it open daily... and sometimes by the hour.
I went to Christian grade schools K-12th grade. One of the very first requirements on our school supply list for both boys and girls was a hymnal.
And not once were we told to keep it intact for our future spouse.
In fact, we were required to break it open daily... and sometimes by the hour.
In terms of taking initiative I have let the guy know I am interested by expressing to him my feelings for him, but it was with someone I knew and was friends with for a long time. This on the other hand is a different situation. I will just have to find the courage to say hi and see what happens. it was rather a dumb move to even post this. none of you can really help me or tell me what to do, because you are not in the situation. Best option is to continue to seek God
