It would seem to me that the number of Christian women seeking a mate online is disproportionately higher. Christian women are not at all hard to find online. At least not in my experience.
A lot of good it's done me.
Ah, but will they let you talk to them for more than two minutes. Even online, the answer is no without a lot of crawling over broken glass. I'll get back to you if I find out that's worth it. The answer is yes, occasionally you get to talk to one, but you've got to spend a
lot of time to do so (hey, maybe it pays off, who knows).
Lets see, the top couple of things I see Christian women looking for on online dating sites:
- A man who's a Christian (a lot of us check that box)
- A man who has a ministry (really now, doesn't every Christian witness from time to time in some fashion or another)
- A man who has a job (and really, as a man, do we even bother dating if we have nothing to offer)
- A man who's honest (again, isn't that covered by being a Christian)
- A man who can grow them in their faith (again, isn't that our job)
- Romance (again, don't they think that God might not be able to teach us a
little something about love)
On one popular online dating site, I have a 1 response to 25 attempts ratio. 50 percent of all responses are one sentence emails saying "I don't think you're what I'm looking for." The irony of this is not lost on me - I check all the boxes they supposedly are looking for. And I'm not being picky, my search radius is
any woman within a 100 mile radius between the ages of 20 and 36 (I want children or I'd go higher).
If I didn't know any better, I'd say abstinent single Christian men with decent jobs don't stand a fighting chance of talking to a single Christian lady. This may explain why most of the men I see in the pews at church are what I'd term as... neutered. The fight is just knocked right out of them.
You either go insane, you get bitter, or you stop trying. Count me in the first category.
My advice is to do whatever you've got to do to try and find someone now. The odds get worse the older you get.
Hey, maybe I should pretend I'm at work and do a KPI report about online dating! I'll throw some pretty graphs and charts in there and then maybe women will talk to me. All the ladies really want is a man who can chart!