A confession

[secularhermit]

I am an affectionate word user. I call 'everyone' Honey, Sweetie, Darlin, etc.

Part of my job is cajoling and asexually flirting in a 'Southern Diner Waitress' Style. It sometimes bleeds over to my 'real' life and my online life, especially if I'm empathizing.

Forgive me if I offend, and I will make a concerted effort to not do this but sometimes I am compelled. Please gently correct me because I'm tenderhearted and really only want to express care.

Affectionate Southern Waitress Lady from the Great White North,
Ole.

There was a day when I asked my ex wife to stop it. She is a seller and by those days she was used to tell her clients those adjectives you vaguely mentioned, and she disagreed (as usual).

Since those days she has changed and, what upset me more, was that those adjectives she poured out when selling, I don´t remember having heard just for me.

Could that be too rare?

That I called strangers like "honey" and loved ones never deserved a genuine word of affection? (Such as sweet, when someone is really sweet)

Perhaps I was too salty! (But I remember, one morning when I was sleeping, she kissed me with the sweetest kiss I ever felt).

 

[Oncefallen]

where im from we call pants drawers and britches. in the morning we might say "let me get my drawers on" when we are already in our underwear.

And the humorous thing is that in other parts of the English speaking world pants are unmentionables and trousers are those things you put on over them.

 

[Olerica]

SecularHermit, should there ever be a Mr Ole again, I would be respectful of his wishes. Most likely, Mr Ole would have his own special nickname that is reserved for him alone.

I am very sorry that you felt neglected by your wife.

 

[jaybird88]

And the humorous thing is that in other parts of the English speaking world pants are unmentionables and trousers are those things you put on over them.

lol and another funny thing. britches is a very redneck term for pants or trousers but when you trace back "britches" it takes you back to the french revo and "Sans culotte" - which means "ones who dont wear breeches" as the knee breeches were the trousers that the rich sophisticated nobility wore. the knee breeches became a symbol of what they were fighting against, but now only the goofy rednecks in Arkansas wear the britches.

To the Bastille!

 

[secularhermit]

SecularHermit, should there ever be a Mr Ole again, I would be respectful of his wishes. Most likely, Mr Ole would have his own special nickname that is reserved for him alone.

I am very sorry that you felt neglected by your wife.

Of course! There would be another Mr. Ole for you (I hope he likes what you´ve liked, to work close to you).

Agh!

Don´t feel sorry for that. She and I grew, different ways, and aren´t enemies any more (neither friends) but have children, and that´s what remained... And that kiss, I will forget (one day)

 

[PopClick]

This whole thread reminds me of this skit.


[video=youtube;9svCBKWpCRQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9svCBKWpCRQ[/video]

 

[Roh_Chris]

This whole thread reminds me of this skit.


[video=youtube;9svCBKWpCRQ]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9svCBKWpCRQ[/video]

I love Monty Python!!!

 

[melita916]

you are so pretty, i bet every time you smile the sun comes out!

thanks!!

 

[ServantStrike]

SecularHermit, should there ever be a Mr Ole again, I would be respectful of his wishes. Most likely, Mr Ole would have his own special nickname that is reserved for him alone.

I am very sorry that you felt neglected by your wife.

I hate to break it to you, but "idiot", "stupid", and "oaf" aren't nick names.

What... I'm a realist. This is what happens in a marriage. I mean... honestly now.

some women are weird, but i say most women appreciate a nice compliment.

i wouldn't mind getting them from time to time lol

You don't receive compliments very often?

Just use that adorable smile of yours, that'll change. See, that was a compliment just now.

 

[melita916]

You don't receive compliments very often?

Just use that adorable smile of yours, that'll change. See, that was a compliment just now.

Gracias!

 

[Olerica]

I hate to break it to you, but "idiot", "stupid", and "oaf" aren't nick names.

What... I'm a realist. This is what happens in a marriage. I mean... honestly now.

I'm wounded. In 14+ years of marriage, I am very sure I never called my husband stupid, idiot or oaf. He was a tall and broad man, and I called him bear. Or another more intimate name that I won't say here. Please don't ever presume I was not as lovely or generous with him as he was with me. If I could do anything at all for him to be alive right now, I would. ANYTHING, save renouncing Jesus. I'm sure you are teasing, but tread carefully.

 

[secularhermit]

Marital confessions?

Allow me to see this, introspectibly (like a flashback):


It was me who often used wrong words, such as "fool" or "stupid" degrading my ex wife.


1. What would I have thought doing that, those days?

I don´t know!


I don´t remember that but, I think I was doing that because I didn´t love her, so I wasn´t loving her appropriatelly.


The key?:

If you do love a person (or a thing) you would take care of, the best possible way.

 

[secularhermit]

I´d like to share a friend´s thoughts in here, as his utterly confessions (Listen to it, it´s in English)

[video=youtube;_QE1FtMHZ48]https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=_QE1FtMHZ48[/video]

 

[ServantStrike]

I'm wounded. In 14+ years of marriage, I am very sure I never called my husband stupid, idiot or oaf. He was a tall and broad man, and I called him bear. Or another more intimate name that I won't say here. Please don't ever presume I was not as lovely or generous with him as he was with me. If I could do anything at all for him to be alive right now, I would. ANYTHING, save renouncing Jesus. I'm sure you are teasing, but tread carefully.

Sometimes my facetioisness doesn't come across right via text. No I'm not implying you did or would.

The comment people usually say to me is I'm about as subtle as a train wreck. Which is probably accurate ☺.

 

[Olerica]

Sometimes my facetioisness doesn't come across right via text. No I'm not implying you did or would.

The comment people usually say to me is I'm about as subtle as a train wreck. Which is probably accurate ☺.

I'm sorry I over-reacted last night. I had just come from visiting some of his cousins that I'd not seen since his funeral... and they needed to process so my wounds were freshly reopened a bit. Ah, heartache and grief... will I never see the whole end of you? I didn't hear teasing at all, but probably because I was (and maybe still am today) too tender.

 

[ServantStrike]

I'm sorry I over-reacted last night. I had just come from visiting some of his cousins that I'd not seen since his funeral... and they needed to process so my wounds were freshly reopened a bit. Ah, heartache and grief... will I never see the whole end of you? I didn't hear teasing at all, but probably because I was (and maybe still am today) too tender.

It's cool.... In retrospect I needed to provide more context.

As for wounds, it's been my experience that the stronger someone is, the more scars they usually bear.

Sometimes when we go through a season of mourning, we learn skills that enable us to help others. You don't seem like the type to flinch much - sometimes God can use a broken heart very effectually. He doesn't have to keep it broken forever either (nor does He). A kind heart that stays kind through life's trials is a powerful witness for Christ.

Your pain may not be the same as someone else's pain, but it can still be a powerful testimony to those you meet who may go through trials of their own.

Here, these verses from 2 Corinthians 1 may be of comfort to you. One might not think of verses that talk of suffering as comforting, but they actually are quite lovely. Suffering is not in vain.

[SUP]3 [/SUP]Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, [SUP]4 [/SUP]who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. [SUP]5 [/SUP]For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.[SUP][a][/SUP] [SUP]6 [/SUP]If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. [SUP]7 [/SUP]Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort.