Whatever happened to the old adage, "You can put a dress on a pig, but it's still a pig,"?
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Some of the comments posted about making yourself attractive ain't flying. For one thing, how does it apply to the person who has a physical disability? Or to the one living in poverty who can't afford nice clothes? Or can’t afford dental care? Or someone who has a noticeable birth defect? Or to the elderly, the blind, the deaf, the overweight, the underweight, the emotionally disabled, the burn victim, the toothless, the hairless, the one with missing limbs, the social outcast?
If you aren't considered "unacceptable" to the public eye, and you feel your appearance is a blessing, I have no problem with that. I count my height as a blessing because I don't have to reach as far as other people to remove something from a high shelf. I can see over most people's heads in a crowd and I enjoy that blessing. But it certainly doesn't make me of more value than a little people. It just makes reaching up high more convenient to me.
But to place a high value on being eye-catching or having the ability to make other people admire your physical appearance or even lusting after you is deceiving. Being self-conscious of my outward appearance prevents me from being aware of you. The less self-conscious I am, the more I can see you and hear you. The more I die to myself, the more I can love you.
I don't think wanting to be desired by your significant other or your spouse is prideful. I just think wanting everyone else to think you're physically attractive is vanity. And if you measure the one you love according to the world's standards rather than Jesus' standard, I think you are deceived.
Don't you think it's rather ironic that Lucifer was the most beautiful of the angels and that Jesus was so unattractive, many people turned their gaze away from Him? And don't you think it very strange that the idols in Hollywood who many people try to emulate are FAKE, are all make-up and cosmetic surgery?
All I'm trying to say is whatever you believe regarding physical appearance, it has to apply to the whole family of God. We are one body in Christ Jesus. Jesus is the Head, the Vine. We are the branches. If someone is looking at me, they are looking at one part of the body of Jesus Christ. I would like for them to see Jesus Himself outshining me so He can draw them to Him.
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Some of the comments posted about making yourself attractive ain't flying. For one thing, how does it apply to the person who has a physical disability? Or to the one living in poverty who can't afford nice clothes? Or can’t afford dental care? Or someone who has a noticeable birth defect? Or to the elderly, the blind, the deaf, the overweight, the underweight, the emotionally disabled, the burn victim, the toothless, the hairless, the one with missing limbs, the social outcast?
If you aren't considered "unacceptable" to the public eye, and you feel your appearance is a blessing, I have no problem with that. I count my height as a blessing because I don't have to reach as far as other people to remove something from a high shelf. I can see over most people's heads in a crowd and I enjoy that blessing. But it certainly doesn't make me of more value than a little people. It just makes reaching up high more convenient to me.
But to place a high value on being eye-catching or having the ability to make other people admire your physical appearance or even lusting after you is deceiving. Being self-conscious of my outward appearance prevents me from being aware of you. The less self-conscious I am, the more I can see you and hear you. The more I die to myself, the more I can love you.
I don't think wanting to be desired by your significant other or your spouse is prideful. I just think wanting everyone else to think you're physically attractive is vanity. And if you measure the one you love according to the world's standards rather than Jesus' standard, I think you are deceived.
Don't you think it's rather ironic that Lucifer was the most beautiful of the angels and that Jesus was so unattractive, many people turned their gaze away from Him? And don't you think it very strange that the idols in Hollywood who many people try to emulate are FAKE, are all make-up and cosmetic surgery?
All I'm trying to say is whatever you believe regarding physical appearance, it has to apply to the whole family of God. We are one body in Christ Jesus. Jesus is the Head, the Vine. We are the branches. If someone is looking at me, they are looking at one part of the body of Jesus Christ. I would like for them to see Jesus Himself outshining me so He can draw them to Him.
I agree that it's not prideful to want to look good for your spouse, BUT if you get all dolled up just to get cat calls and whistles and "hey baby you lookin' good", then THAT IS prideful and just begging for trouble.. Your comment in your last paragraph about how we view physical appearance, should apply to the whole body of Christ, then we would only have 2 options to choose: either we all ugly or we all beautiful. I know alot of christians who are physically good-looking but have ugly hearts, and vice versa. If their hearts aren't beautiful, then they are viewed as ugly, no matter how hot looking they are..
I think this is the two-sided coin that ember spoke of. We talk so much about sexy girls and hot guys, that all we do is focus on them. But what about the "plain Jane" who doesn't wear makeup, and doesn't dress to show herself off? Her features may still be beautiful but she's viewed as ugly because she don't wear a mini skirt and tank top. Everyone talks about the "beautiful ones" but seems no one gives a crap about the "plain Jane's" who, IMO are just as beautiful as the ones who DO dress up to look like hussies. I'm sorry, but MOST guys and girls who look at each other, look past the looks to the flashing neon sign that says "SEX SEX SEX".. Most women are insecure about their own looks so if they see hubby even glance at a girl w/o makeup, she automatically assumes that there's some kind of attraction for him to that girl. I've been through it myself before, only it was my ex asking me why I was looking at "that guy" because "he's ugly and puny".. or along those lines..
I think ember's point was that even "unattractive" women get viewed as sluts and treated like their trying to sleep with every guy in town. And all because their spouse got caught taking an innocent look at a woman. So it ain't only the pretty ones who get attention. The "ugly" ones do also..Only the attention THEY receive is negative cuz they're seen as ugly..