-
Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.
If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!
To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.
T
That doesn't matter much. Even if he doesn't login again, he should still be able to read the thread when offline.
It would be unreasonable to expect a spouse to completely forget about the partner committing adultery.
This statement might be more appropriate: "Forgiven, but not forgotten."
It would be unreasonable to expect a spouse to completely forget about the partner committing adultery.
This statement might be more appropriate: "Forgiven, but not forgotten."
Last edited by a moderator:
T
The statement "Forgiven, but not forgotten." gives power to both partners in the marriage relationship. The husband has power to help the wife through the situation, and the wife has power knowing that the husband won't kill her in revenge.
By forgetting and forgiving what the wife did, there is a risk of her receiving most or even all of the power in the relationship, possibly enabling her to commit adultery again.
By forgetting and forgiving what the wife did, there is a risk of her receiving most or even all of the power in the relationship, possibly enabling her to commit adultery again.
B
Ya know... marriage isn't about POWER it is about commitment and faithfulness. THe husband can do as the scriptures say and FORGIVE and lovingly wash her in the water of the word and be faithful as Christ has been to us in our unfaithfulness....
THIS IS HOW WE RELEASE THE POWER OF GOD IN OUR LIVES.
Does it mean the wife "could" reject the offer still and go her own way... YES SHE COULD....but I am gonna put all my chips on THE POWER OF GOD and say she won't... because God WILL work his power in their lives.
THIS IS HOW WE RELEASE THE POWER OF GOD IN OUR LIVES.
Does it mean the wife "could" reject the offer still and go her own way... YES SHE COULD....but I am gonna put all my chips on THE POWER OF GOD and say she won't... because God WILL work his power in their lives.
T
Re: BarlyGurl
Your post is unrelated to my own post. When I say “power”, I mean the power needed to alter the relationship to suit the needs of both spousal partners, not the power one receives when in a position of authority.
For example, when the husband has most or all of the power within the relationship, he risks becoming a slave master. Similarly, when the wife has too much power, she finds it harder to fulfill her feminine nature by submitting to the husband, and by extension, God.
There are various definitions for the word 'power'. My specific usage of the word is clarified below.
Define Power at Dictionary.com | Find the Meanings and Definitions of Words at Dictionary.com
The ability to do or act; capability of doing or accomplishing something.
To inspire; spur; or sustain.
By forgiving the wife, the husband lends her power in the form of inspiration and sustainment of the relationship. She, in turn, assures the husband of a successful marriage by giving him power in the form of promising not to commit adultery a second time.
When both spousal partners offer power to one another, the marriage bond is strengthened, because both have shown that they trust, or are willing to trust each other.
When we give our friends our secrets, our feelings, and recaps of our adventures, we are, in essence, lending power to them. They receive the power needed to alter us, for good or for evil. In a healthy relationship, power is exchanged between both parties.
If you still don't understand what I am talking about, then I will gladly explain further.
Your post is unrelated to my own post. When I say “power”, I mean the power needed to alter the relationship to suit the needs of both spousal partners, not the power one receives when in a position of authority.
For example, when the husband has most or all of the power within the relationship, he risks becoming a slave master. Similarly, when the wife has too much power, she finds it harder to fulfill her feminine nature by submitting to the husband, and by extension, God.
There are various definitions for the word 'power'. My specific usage of the word is clarified below.
Define Power at Dictionary.com | Find the Meanings and Definitions of Words at Dictionary.com
The ability to do or act; capability of doing or accomplishing something.
To inspire; spur; or sustain.
By forgiving the wife, the husband lends her power in the form of inspiration and sustainment of the relationship. She, in turn, assures the husband of a successful marriage by giving him power in the form of promising not to commit adultery a second time.
When both spousal partners offer power to one another, the marriage bond is strengthened, because both have shown that they trust, or are willing to trust each other.
When we give our friends our secrets, our feelings, and recaps of our adventures, we are, in essence, lending power to them. They receive the power needed to alter us, for good or for evil. In a healthy relationship, power is exchanged between both parties.
If you still don't understand what I am talking about, then I will gladly explain further.
R
I was in a similar situation but after a few years of being a divorcee. I was friendly (early stage of a love relationship) with this guy (also a divorcee) but we live in different countries. One day we decided to meet in person for one day so we both flew from our places and meet up in one place. We both never talked about sex side of the relationship. We share a lot about what God have done in our lives, we are both Christians. We haven't seen each other for over 30 years, however, when we meet, we hug and kissed and we both agreed not to cross the line and we did. Had we crossed the line we would have probably been on our separate ways.
However, I see this as an opportunity for you to really learn how to forgive and love like Christ did. On the other hand, your partner will have the opportunity to respond to you whichever way you choose to handle this situation. It will help if you truly ask yourself, what would Jesus do if he was in your shoes? At the end of the day the choice is yours.
1 Corinthians 10: 13 13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. Roman 8:28 28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
[h=1]Philippians 4:13(NKJV) 13 I can do all things through Christ[a] who strengthens me.
1 John 4:4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.[/h]You have to tell the challenges that you face that your God is greater!!!!!! and you are an over comer!!!!
Roman 8:37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
Ex 14:13 And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever.
However, I see this as an opportunity for you to really learn how to forgive and love like Christ did. On the other hand, your partner will have the opportunity to respond to you whichever way you choose to handle this situation. It will help if you truly ask yourself, what would Jesus do if he was in your shoes? At the end of the day the choice is yours.
1 Corinthians 10: 13 13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. Roman 8:28 28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
[h=1]Philippians 4:13(NKJV) 13 I can do all things through Christ[a] who strengthens me.
1 John 4:4 Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.[/h]You have to tell the challenges that you face that your God is greater!!!!!! and you are an over comer!!!!
Roman 8:37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.
Ex 14:13 And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which he will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever.
S
My wife doesn't have male friends that she sees outside my company and I don't have female friends that I see outside her company. Even when I have helped a lady at our church move furniture and my wife was at work, I took my mother with me.
The best way to avoid a bad situation is to make no provision for it in the first place. The scripture tells us to avoid even the appearance of evil.
The best way to avoid a bad situation is to make no provision for it in the first place. The scripture tells us to avoid even the appearance of evil.
S
It wasn't like that at all Dan. My wife and I completely trust each other and we don't need to be chaperoned. It's more about honoring each other. When I took my mother with me, I knew the ladies husband wouldn't be home. It wasn't that neither of us could be trusted. It was about my honoring her husband by not being alone with his wife. Maybe it's a deep south thing or a about a traditional upbringing but I think it also honors the Lord.
B
I do not think Shotgun's wife was not trusting him... it was shotgun taking his mother along as a witness... so no way anyone could accuse him later of any misdeed... or visa versa. I think that he took his mom is incidental, coulda been anyone... mom happened to be available.
I have had to ask for help "borrow a husband", the men that show always come with another (the wife, a neighbor, brother)... I appreciate the consideration.
I have had to ask for help "borrow a husband", the men that show always come with another (the wife, a neighbor, brother)... I appreciate the consideration.
G
May 9th was last time Crown46 had any activity.
Hope things work out for you Crown if you are reading this as a visitor.
Your wife seems to have stopped a bad situation from getting worse. She opened up to you and was honest. Pray about it. She fell. Made a big mistake, but she stopped it. She will only be all the more wise from this bad experience.
Hope things work out for you Crown if you are reading this as a visitor.
Your wife seems to have stopped a bad situation from getting worse. She opened up to you and was honest. Pray about it. She fell. Made a big mistake, but she stopped it. She will only be all the more wise from this bad experience.
