"A lot of men act like they are doing a woman a favour by asking for her hand in marriage but let's think about this:
She changes her name.
Changes her home.
Leaves her family.
Moves in with you.
Gets pregnant for you.
Bears children for you.
Pregnancy destroys her body.
She gets fat.
Almost give up in the labor room due to the unexplainable pain.
Even the kids she devilers bear your name.
Till the day she dies everything she does benefits you so
who is really doing who a favor?
Jack, appreciate your wife today because it is not easy to be a woman."
This woman should not be married to anyone. Her husband should not be married to anyone either(not talking about the guy from duck dynasty. talking about these fictional spouses in this example) Why? Because they never communicated before marriage about what they wanted out of it and their lives.
If everything she does is for him, she will never be happy. She must be happy. She must do things she likes. She must want to do those things and know what the major consequences will be for her choices. He must do the same.
No one is doing anyone a favor. They each must accept responsibility for their actions/decisions. This is why it is so important to educate yourself, know yourself, and learn how to communicate before marriage is ever proposed. These two could have saved themselves a great deal of trouble.
The time to learn and choose the best path is before marriage, not after. No one can know what will happen. No one can know everything, and we all change over time. We can learn about the responsibilities of marriage, child birth, parenting and codependence before marriage. No, we won't know everything, but we will have a much better chance of not becoming bitter with our spouse over the choices we've made. This goes for both husband and wife.
There are lots more issues here than this. This scenario is based upon one spouse's arrogance and disgust with the other because they are not worthy of them. I'm not saying it's one gender or the other that does it most. It's both who do it.
Husbands must appreciate their wives by taking action and helping them. Husbands must court them throughout the marriage and fight the natural instinct to sit on the couch and be waited on. Your wife is not your maid and mother.
Neither is the husband a meal ticket, the boyfriend you rejected for him, or the guy you met when you were out. Your husband has responsibilities and he must balance them, just as you. Neither of you can be everything or perfect. When we expect that and start comparing instead of showing our spouses we love them and respect them for the woman/man they are, we help to kill our desire for each other and the life we worked so hard to have.
What example would that set for the children? How will they deal with this when their brains aren't even fully developed until they are in their twenties?
Kayla, I understand you believe wives should be appreciated more, and I agree. They deserve respect. They deserve to be loved, feel protected, feel safe, and feel desired. I guess it is me. I see so much more in that caption than just the obvious. I wish I could have walked away from this thread, but I couldn't. My choice.
But I saw this posted on FB and thought it might bring up some interesting discussion...
