I think one thing that bothers me most about all this is that "we" seem to want to be able to judge and decide what another man or woman "should" be allowed to earn, and how they should spend what little we concede they may be permitted to earn if their income happens to be derived from any means but a secular endeavor. (just to keep from saying, "job")
And the most insulting insinuation I have read here is the suggestion that a pastor and his family should hope that various families are willing to step up and make dinner for them..... and/or (by inference), grant them, periodically, some money to pay their mortgage and light bill.
That is relegating a good man and his family to the status of beggars that are at the mercy of our "kind" will at the moment.
No, no, no!!!!!! Give them the dignity of an earned and expected income that they can plan on and budget around, just like the rest of us. And a decent one, so that they can take vacations like anyone else, and plan for their children's college educations, and plan on a newer car, now and then, and "heavens!" maybe even develop a little nest egg for themselves.... without wondering if, next week, we just might decide to only give a diminished portion of our usual contribution.
In most cases, we don't even give a thought to a 401K, or medical and hospitalization insurance, or a retirement plan for him. (But, we would raise holy ______ if we didn't automatically get these things fully covered by our own job.)
This, in my opinion, is a shameful way to treat a family we should love and respect.