How Long Has Everyone Here Been Single? (Updated 2015 Edition.)

[CarolSampaio]

ok fine. i've been single for 5 years, 1 month, and 9 days.

there. lol

Wow... I wish I had a memory like that...

All I can remember is that I was still in a relationship mid february (during my grandmother's birthday)... and when it came my birthday (early march) I was not... so... about seven months!!!

I don't even remember the day I got divorced... I guess my brain only remembers begining dates... end dates are not as fun...

 

[HappyGuy]

I dated someone from this site for a few weeks never met the lady in person though like sat down face to face and had a cup of coffee but her and I are good friends. Before that I was single for so long I don't remember the exact number of years and months. And now I'm back being single again.

 

[shineyourlight]

Either you're really, really good at math, or.... You have too much free time on your hands, Shiney.

I am a financial coordinator at my job and oversee the financial department. So.

So I gotz dose skillz.

 

[CarolSampaio]

I am a financial coordinator at my job and oversee the financial department. So.

So I gotz dose skillz.

I got a headache just thinking about it.... I hate numbers....

 

[VioletReigns]

My husband passed away over 10 years ago. I have dated a few times since but nothing serious came of it. I often wonder about having a life companion again because I miss all the fun things my husband and I used to enjoy. But I'm always so busy trying to make a living and survive that I just wouldn't know where to find someone. I've tried Christian dating sites in the past but that was a genuine waste of time. Dating sites are like fishing in a sea of piranhas.

Today I'm happier and more at peace in Jesus than I have ever been in my life. If I were to have a companion at this point, he would have to be a genuinely happy & contented man. Cuz I like peace.

 

[jsr1221]

I am a financial coordinator at my job and oversee the financial department. So.

So I gotz dose skillz.

Which one? You have three. and makes sense considering you're planning for retirement at 26... You old geezer.

 

[jsr1221]

I got a headache just thinking about it.... I hate numbers....

You must not be a fan of the Book of Numbers, then.

 

[skylove7]

Well....

I have been single since the Gettysburg Address....

Or since that dreadful apple fell on Newton's head lol

I cannot recall what happened first lol

But I do know...

True love is worth the patience....

It's true!

 

[CarolSampaio]

You must not be a fan of the Book of Numbers, then.

No... not really... Numbers and I... not best friends... Even though I was really good in math in school... but ever since college happened, I just allowed myself to drift away from it... and we've been apart ever since!! huehuehuehue

 

[shineyourlight]

Which one? You have three. and makes sense considering you're planning for retirement at 26... You old geezer.

I am specifically talking about being a financial coordinator to my fulltime job.

And, it's called being wise in my finances, and retirement is not the only one I'm budgeting for My brother is doing the same thing and he's just a year older than me.

At least I won't be crying when I'm 60 and still having to work a fulltime job. -shrugs-

#HatersGonnaHate

 

[wisebeardman]

I am a financial coordinator at my job and oversee the financial department. So.

So I gotz dose skillz.

a+b should = c but everyone gets a+b=d why?

 

[tourist]

a+b should = c but everyone gets a+b=d why?

Perhaps this is logical progression and they're cutting to the chase scene.

 

[seoulsearch]

I am specifically talking about being a financial coordinator to my fulltime job.

And, it's called being wise in my finances, and retirement is not the only one I'm budgeting for My brother is doing the same thing and he's just a year older than me.

At least I won't be crying when I'm 60 and still having to work a fulltime job. -shrugs-

#HatersGonnaHate

*seoulsearch pops in to help derail her own thread for just a minute*

Shine, I can totally relate. My parents have trained me to think about financial planning and responsibility since I could walk.

If I got $20 for my birthday, 10% went to church and then and then half went to the bank. Yeah, I hated it at the time. But they taught me that it's often about simple choices that take a little more work but are worth it in the long run. I try to pack my lunches and make my own iced coffee instead of spending $20 a day on food (a lot of people I know spend at least this and more every day on Starbucks or a Red Bull or both and then some kind of takeout lunch.)

I'm shooting for retirement at 55 (it sneaks up kinda fast, huh... I remember people making fun of me in my 20's because of some of my financial choices.) I might not make it exactly on time (65 is my back-up plan ), and life will probably throw in a few speed bumps along the way, but... things such as being at the car dealership last week and learning I needed something done for $160... and being able to have it done right then and there (because it's an hour drive) without worry because I have an emergency fund just for these types of things... makes it all more than worth it.

I also have a brother who lived at home with my parents for several years after high school... worked 2 full-time jobs, saved everything he could... and bought his first house, at age 26. In cash. (I wonder how many girls called him a loser for living with his parents during that time...)

Haters only hate because they don't have anyone to teach them how to do the same thing (or have the discipline to do it.)

Shine... It's so cool to meet someone else who thinks the same way!! (We could get together and talk financial strategies... with homemade--to save money, of course -- tea! )

 

[VioletReigns]

I am specifically talking about being a financial coordinator to my fulltime job.

And, it's called being wise in my finances, and retirement is not the only one I'm budgeting for My brother is doing the same thing and he's just a year older than me.

At least I won't be crying when I'm 60 and still having to work a fulltime job. -shrugs-

#HatersGonnaHate

That is very fortunate for you, Shiney. But don't forget my dear, there are things in this life that money cannot buy and will not prevent. Life never (and I do mean never) goes according to our plans. Jesus is our only foundation and our only hope. ♥

 

[seoulsearch]

a+b should = c but everyone gets a+b=d why?

Why do I keep getting a+b=4...

(This is why I always use a calculator--or an abacus--to check my numbers!)

 

[shineyourlight]

That is very fortunate for you, Shiney. But don't forget my dear, there are things in this life that money cannot buy and will not prevent. Life never (and I do mean never) goes according to our plans. Jesus is our only foundation and our only hope. ♥

Sigh. Where is this coming from? I'm not saying any of that.

I'm still saving my money regardless of what people say. This is wisdom and I know everyone means well, but am shocked that I am getting advice not to save money. People just don't listen and put words in my mouth that I'm not even saying.

I am saving money. I am saving for retirement. I am saving for a house. I am saving for college. And no one is going to tell me otherwise.

I have an emergency fund, I have groceries, I have all these things and life is going well. When something does go bad, I have money saved up to fall back on.

It's wisdom and I'm done discussing my finances on here.

-shrugs-

 

[wisebeardman]

That is very fortunate for you, Shiney. But don't forget my dear, there are things in this life that money cannot buy and will not prevent. Life never (and I do mean never) goes according to our plans. Jesus is our only foundation and our only hope. ♥

somethings in life money can't buy, for everything else there's mastercard

 

[seoulsearch]

That is very fortunate for you, Shiney. But don't forget my dear, there are things in this life that money cannot buy and will not prevent. Life never (and I do mean never) goes according to our plans. Jesus is our only foundation and our only hope. ♥

It's all about balance.

My Dad is an ordained minister and my parents have turned their financial planning skills into an entire ministry. They don't charge anything, often hold classes an hour or more away (which they drive into rather than expecting people to come to them), and personally counsel people in how to get out of debt. If someone needs extra help, my parents drive to them to give them extra private tutoring sessions.

When my Dad realized that most people can't afford the $100 course pack that was required for other ministries he's been through himself, he started making his own materials and providing them to participants for free. Though their classes are held mostly at churches, they often get people who aren't in, or have never been in, a church. And he begins every class (I know because I've been to several sessions of their classes myself) with a story about how God saved his life when he was 16 years old.

From the time I could understand what was being said to me, they've always told me, "You can't outgive God," and they live by that motto, whether in terms of personal time or finances. For Thanksgiving one years, they took me with them to serve at their church's program for the homeless.

God is very much THE main focus in their lives. Money management is just the way God has enabled them to reach other people for His kingdom.

 

[shineyourlight]

*seoulsearch pops in to help derail her own thread for just a minute*

Shine, I can totally relate. My parents have trained me to think about financial planning and responsibility since I could walk.

If I got $20 for my birthday, 10% went to church and then and then half went to the bank. Yeah, I hated it at the time. But they taught me that it's often about simple choices that take a little more work but are worth it in the long run. I try to pack my lunches and make my own iced coffee instead of spending $20 a day on food (a lot of people I know spend at least this and more every day on Starbucks or a Red Bull or both and then some kind of takeout lunch.)

I'm shooting for retirement at 55 (it sneaks up kinda fast, huh... I remember people making fun of me in my 20's because of some of my financial choices.) I might not make it exactly on time (65 is my back-up plan ), and life will probably throw in a few speed bumps along the way, but... things such as being at the car dealership last week and learning I needed something done for $160... and being able to have it done right then and there (because it's an hour drive) without worry because I have an emergency fund just for these types of things... makes it all more than worth it.

I also have a brother who lived at home with my parents for several years after high school... worked 2 full-time jobs, saved everything he could... and bought his first house, at age 26. In cash. (I wonder how many girls called him a loser for living with his parents during that time...)

Haters only hate because they don't have anyone to teach them how to do the same thing (or have the discipline to do it.)

Shine... It's so cool to meet someone else who thinks the same way!! (We could get together and talk financial strategies... with homemade--to save money, of course -- tea! )

At least someone agrees Thank you! Yeah, I'm gonna keep saving regardless. Let people think I have this mindset of "money buying everything." I know that's not my heart, but if people want to think that, then so be it. I just know I won't be crying when things happen and I can just go to my emergency fund lol.

 

[seoulsearch]

Sigh. Where is this coming from? I'm not saying any of that.

I'm still saving my money regardless of what people say. This is wisdom and I know everyone means well, but am shocked that I am getting advice not to save money. People just don't listen and put words in my mouth that I'm not even saying.

I am saving money. I am saving for retirement. I am saving for a house. I am saving for college. And no one is going to tell me otherwise.

I have an emergency fund, I have groceries, I have all these things and life is going well. When something does go bad, I have money saved up to fall back on.

It's wisdom and I'm done discussing my finances on here.

-shrugs-

Shine, you're doing an awesome, terrific, super job.

God is very much blessed when we show wisdom in what He blesses us with.

Don't let anyone tell you differently. I've heard this kind of advice too since I was a kid. The people I heard it from... not always, but usually... weren't managing their own finances in the same way, were often drowning in debt, and would tell me things such as, "Well it's easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to get into heaven..."

Bummer. I guess people like Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, and David were all out of luck. It's always interesting to me that God never seemed to give them lectures like the ones I hear. In other words... they were telling me that because they wished someone had taught them how to plan and save for life and emergencies, too (NOT to BUY a life with material things, but to PLAN for it wisely. You can't be a good GIVER if you don't plan, either.)

We definitely do realize that God is most important about everything . Saving and having a financial plan can be the RESULT of faith, NOT the absence or separation from it, which for some reason, many Christians seem to miss. (For instance, the people who criticized me didn't realize that part of what I saved money for was to drive to prisons on my own time and on my own dime because I liked talking to the inmates. But... I didn't say anything. Because I figured they wouldn't really understand that either.)