How can I say this without sounding even more crass than I already have... I love my wife for sure, but I dated down and settled. We are not by any means equally yoked. Sometimes when you're starving mac and cheese looks like steak tartar. And strangely enough our family therapist agrees with me (but not in front of her).
As for being bitter, I try not to be, but when I hear women badmouthing nice guys because they're just not exciting enough, only to whine and complain later to nice guys about how horrible their exciting fling has turned out to be, I just want to b--ch slap them to their senses. It's exactly because of women like that that I am now yoked with a woman who requires more monitoring and baby-sitting than a 2 year old.
And again, I know I'm jaded. Doesn't mean I don't have some valid points to make about such situations. I just wish there were some way my experience could help some people make smarter decisions.
I understand what you're saying, RickyZ, and I do admire the honesty. I wish you and your wife the very best.
All of us have been rejected in some way, and most of us in the very way you're describing, multiple times.
I just pray to God that if I marry again, my husband doesn't look at me and think, "Wow, I totally dated down and settled... and all I got was you."
If that's what's going to happen, I would much rather stay single.
P.S. I know what you mean about listening to guy's problems... Most of the guys I meet wind up getting married, complaining all the way. (Not that women don't do the same but as a woman I hear a different perspective from the guys.)
