Hey Everyone,
I have a series of topics I'd like to ask about, and this question seems to be the key to about 3 threads I hope to write in the future.
I don't watch much TV, but wasn't there a sitcom (maybe Seinfeld?) that talked about how high one comes in on the dating scale (on a scale of 1-10, where does one rate?) and that the normal social "rule" is that you can date within about 2 numbers above or below your rating?
For instance, if 1 is the lowest score and 10 is the highest and you are a 7, your "league" is going to be within the range of a 5-9 (socially, you "can" date people who "rate" within this range.) Anything lower or higher than that is "outside of your league" and just not acceptable. For example, you typically don't see doctors marrying fast food workers, supermodels marrying "geeks" or "nerds", or people from wealthy families marrying into families who suffer from poverty.
As Christians, everyone is going to say, "We all have value and are beautiful in Christ," but when it comes to real life and the dating game, Christians are just as prone to these kinds of unspoken "ratings" as anyone else (at least, from what I've seen.)
In fact, I often feel Christians have their own rating scale IN ADDITION to the "regular" ratings (looks, earning potential, social status, etc.) that revolves around a "spiritual" rating.
After all, the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. And you hear about a lot of Christians rejecting other Christians because they basically don't rate high enough on the spiritual scale in order to be considered "within their league."
The purpose of this thread is NOT in any way meant to PROMOTE the idea of "leagues", status or basing our decisions about whom we will date on these supposed "ratings", but rather to ask, have you observed this kind of thinking? And what do you think of it?
Do you think the Christian community is any different from the world when it comes to "dating within our league", or do you actually see people who are a "4" and are dating or married to a "10", in any category?
Marrieds are welcome to answer too. I certainly don't expect them to list their "own" "ratings" ("I'm a 10 and I married a 3!!") because that's a bit personal (though they surely can if they want to), but it would be interesting to hear whether they've observed this phenomenon among those they know who are married, too.
Anyone is invited to share their thoughts.
I have a series of topics I'd like to ask about, and this question seems to be the key to about 3 threads I hope to write in the future.
I don't watch much TV, but wasn't there a sitcom (maybe Seinfeld?) that talked about how high one comes in on the dating scale (on a scale of 1-10, where does one rate?) and that the normal social "rule" is that you can date within about 2 numbers above or below your rating?
For instance, if 1 is the lowest score and 10 is the highest and you are a 7, your "league" is going to be within the range of a 5-9 (socially, you "can" date people who "rate" within this range.) Anything lower or higher than that is "outside of your league" and just not acceptable. For example, you typically don't see doctors marrying fast food workers, supermodels marrying "geeks" or "nerds", or people from wealthy families marrying into families who suffer from poverty.
As Christians, everyone is going to say, "We all have value and are beautiful in Christ," but when it comes to real life and the dating game, Christians are just as prone to these kinds of unspoken "ratings" as anyone else (at least, from what I've seen.)
In fact, I often feel Christians have their own rating scale IN ADDITION to the "regular" ratings (looks, earning potential, social status, etc.) that revolves around a "spiritual" rating.
After all, the Bible says not to be unequally yoked. And you hear about a lot of Christians rejecting other Christians because they basically don't rate high enough on the spiritual scale in order to be considered "within their league."
The purpose of this thread is NOT in any way meant to PROMOTE the idea of "leagues", status or basing our decisions about whom we will date on these supposed "ratings", but rather to ask, have you observed this kind of thinking? And what do you think of it?
Do you think the Christian community is any different from the world when it comes to "dating within our league", or do you actually see people who are a "4" and are dating or married to a "10", in any category?
Marrieds are welcome to answer too. I certainly don't expect them to list their "own" "ratings" ("I'm a 10 and I married a 3!!") because that's a bit personal (though they surely can if they want to), but it would be interesting to hear whether they've observed this phenomenon among those they know who are married, too.
Anyone is invited to share their thoughts.
