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i get the sense you are very attractive to have guys joining your table when you go to lunch! wow, that takes heart!
I dont usually approve of lines or "tricks" to help approach women, but if you need it to help you build the skill or confidence i think its justified...but the golden rule with girls is dont lie....when you lie to a woman its just like when you're 5 yrs old and you get caught stealing the chocolate cookie and you say, "it wasn't me." ....remember how your mother would just play along with you as she stared at the chocolate stains around your mouth?....of course she actually did know all along. well thats how it is when you lie to a woman you are attracted to...SHE KNOWS. YOU ARE NOT FOOLING ANYONE. DONT LIE (if u can help it)
I dont usually approve of lines or "tricks" to help approach women, but if you need it to help you build the skill or confidence i think its justified...but the golden rule with girls is dont lie....when you lie to a woman its just like when you're 5 yrs old and you get caught stealing the chocolate cookie and you say, "it wasn't me." ....remember how your mother would just play along with you as she stared at the chocolate stains around your mouth?....of course she actually did know all along. well thats how it is when you lie to a woman you are attracted to...SHE KNOWS. YOU ARE NOT FOOLING ANYONE. DONT LIE (if u can help it)
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Ok, If you men do not know what to do or say then you are not ready to court or date a gal you have interest in. I have seen it myself when a man goes all out to set his mind to something they are cunning and obtain just about what ever they are fixed on doing. The same rule applies when men want to get to know a gal. Usually men who dont know how to approach a gal it is because his hormones are about to explode or he has hidden issues and has not taken the time to correct them and doesnt want to put priorities first and wants someone to distract him from those issues and looks to a gal who would be interested in fixing them for him. It is so funny that men will go into the armed forces and face death in the eye without blinking but fall to pieces in appraoching a gal. HHHMMM Then yes there are men who go on the agressive and know how to approach a gal but watchout he can be a player. Where did all the good men go? I know I am going to have some responces to this message. Come on men if the gal rejected you be greatful she saved you years of frustration. One day you will get lucky and find a speacial gal you will marry so you will live to complain about her for the rest of your life. Happy hunting for her. If you cant handel rejection now you wont be able to handel it in a marriage.
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in my experience a girl values a guy according to the value other girls put on him
you often see this in a group
3 girls all interested in one guy while there are 2 other perfectly nice(and boring) guys in the group no one wants
'all the good ones are gone' - how many times have i heard that?
i have been told that the fact that i am still single shows there is something wrong with me
this is of course institutional with the church
where they make no provision for mature single people
you often see this in a group
3 girls all interested in one guy while there are 2 other perfectly nice(and boring) guys in the group no one wants
'all the good ones are gone' - how many times have i heard that?
i have been told that the fact that i am still single shows there is something wrong with me
this is of course institutional with the church
where they make no provision for mature single people
Where are all the good guys? There is none good, no not one. 
Most the guys who are really nervous about approaching women have not yet worked up the nerve to try and fail with a woman. Once they do get rejected most the time it frees them up to try again because you don't have any emotional investment with the person. Problem is, we get these grand ideas in our head about how awesome someone is from a distance, up close you see a person's flaws and they destroy the perfect idea people build up in their head.
Honestly though, alot of the reasons women these days are attracted to a guy don't have alot to do with what kind of husband they would be. I mean, all the charm and witty/funny characteristics about a person lose their luster after you have been married awhile. Things like loyatly, patience, care, tenderness, leadership(as in taking responsibility), and being grounded in Christ aren't things that you can see in a person after a 5 minute talk. Actually, those things can run contrary to each other. Not always ofcourse, but expecting all the things that draws you in and all the things that make you want to stay is asking alot...Just saying.
Most the guys who are really nervous about approaching women have not yet worked up the nerve to try and fail with a woman. Once they do get rejected most the time it frees them up to try again because you don't have any emotional investment with the person. Problem is, we get these grand ideas in our head about how awesome someone is from a distance, up close you see a person's flaws and they destroy the perfect idea people build up in their head.
Honestly though, alot of the reasons women these days are attracted to a guy don't have alot to do with what kind of husband they would be. I mean, all the charm and witty/funny characteristics about a person lose their luster after you have been married awhile. Things like loyatly, patience, care, tenderness, leadership(as in taking responsibility), and being grounded in Christ aren't things that you can see in a person after a 5 minute talk. Actually, those things can run contrary to each other. Not always ofcourse, but expecting all the things that draws you in and all the things that make you want to stay is asking alot...Just saying.
I'm currently 20, and I've been single my entire life. It's not because I can't get a date, but more because I wanted to enjoy my younger years and do what I wanted. Now I feel that it's the right time to start dating, and I don't have a problem actually talking to girls, but more so introducing myself. How do you like a guy to approach you and start a conversation? Obviously I'm not going to walk up and say "I like you, will you go out with me?", but I don't really know what questions to ask to start a conversation or icebreakers to use. Just looking to get opinions thanks.
thanks.
Quest
But seriously I don't really know. I've never approached women, they always seem to approach me. A Christian friend told me once that if you are looking for women they will avoid you, but as soon as you stop looking they'll come knocking. While he was single and desiring a woman he never found one and he was constantly crushed. Finally - upon receiving this excellent advice from someone else - he decided to stop looking and he met his future wife a short time later. They now have their second baby on the way.
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A friendly "Hi, I'm ____, what's your name?" with a smile. I'm a sucker for a sincere compliment, too.
If you know something about the woman that interests you, ask her about that. I sing at my church so I've had guys talk to me about their interest in music after I sang, that was nice. I had another man that was involved in a small discussion w/ me and a few others. I had not said anything, and he turned to me and asked my opinion on the subject. I thought that was a good way for him to get to know me better and show his interest in me. I think you just make the best of the opportunities the Lord gives, so watch for them.
I think (and hope) I tend to be more open and approachable, so if you get a negative response from a woman, it is not necessarily your approach, it's most likely that she is not interested/open to you or she has some issue there. Don't give up!
If you know something about the woman that interests you, ask her about that. I sing at my church so I've had guys talk to me about their interest in music after I sang, that was nice. I had another man that was involved in a small discussion w/ me and a few others. I had not said anything, and he turned to me and asked my opinion on the subject. I thought that was a good way for him to get to know me better and show his interest in me. I think you just make the best of the opportunities the Lord gives, so watch for them.
I think (and hope) I tend to be more open and approachable, so if you get a negative response from a woman, it is not necessarily your approach, it's most likely that she is not interested/open to you or she has some issue there. Don't give up!
I have to admit that many of the posts found in this thread were rather disturbing to me. I saw 1. arrogance, 2. a lack of understanding and 3. insecurities in the posts made by certain individuals here. However, your simple and honest estimate of your own desires, JoyBelle, has helped to brighten my mood and let me know that not all women are as big of players and vanity queens as they would have me believe.
J
I have to admit that many of the posts found in this thread were rather disturbing to me. I saw 1. arrogance, 2. a lack of understanding and 3. insecurities in the posts made by certain individuals here. However, your simple and honest estimate of your own desires, JoyBelle, has helped to brighten my mood and let me know that not all women are as big of players and vanity queens as they would have me believe.
Awww, Thank you, Ashton. I'm glad I helped.
When you approach a girl, you have to ask for her name, it's a must. And do so as soon as you can. Give her an identity, she isn't just the girl I seem to be interested, she's a human being with a life story and a soul, call her by her name, when you think of her, use her name, she'll seem more important, plus you will show her that you care who she is.
You always meet someone within an circumstance, it's obvious, I know, so take advantage of it. I meet a girl at a video game store once that caught my attention a lot, I asked her if she liked video games and thus we started a conversation that lead to other topics, finally, when I paid what I had bought, I asked for her name and she very kindly gave it to me with a smile, it isn't that hard, but you got to be confident.
Take advantages of the circumstances, I think church is quite an easy place to approach a girl. Cause you're not starting from zero, you know there should be some kind of spiritual link between the two. Asked her how long she's been there, what she likes the most, ask about her family, just ask, be creative, but always start with the basic, introduce yourself and ask her name, hope it helps!!
You always meet someone within an circumstance, it's obvious, I know, so take advantage of it. I meet a girl at a video game store once that caught my attention a lot, I asked her if she liked video games and thus we started a conversation that lead to other topics, finally, when I paid what I had bought, I asked for her name and she very kindly gave it to me with a smile, it isn't that hard, but you got to be confident.
Take advantages of the circumstances, I think church is quite an easy place to approach a girl. Cause you're not starting from zero, you know there should be some kind of spiritual link between the two. Asked her how long she's been there, what she likes the most, ask about her family, just ask, be creative, but always start with the basic, introduce yourself and ask her name, hope it helps!!
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hahahahahaha!!!!
and well it depends on the girl but you can actually approach a girl and say "hi i like you. will you go out with me?" but its risky!!! you may get a cold shoulder or they would say yes!!
either way you in the end you just ask
lol pretty sure i didn't answer the question!!! can't stop laughing at the chloroform idea!!!
and well it depends on the girl but you can actually approach a girl and say "hi i like you. will you go out with me?" but its risky!!! you may get a cold shoulder or they would say yes!!
either way you in the end you just ask
lol pretty sure i didn't answer the question!!! can't stop laughing at the chloroform idea!!!