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Confidence can be ok... but if the guy makes it sound like he won't take "no" for an answer and you feel as if you back away, you'll be picked up and tossed into the back of his pickup truck (or worse, creepy van... *shudders*), I'd rather speed-dial the police and get the PPO (restraining order) right away than answer.
GUYS
NEVER EVER
DATE
FRIEND OF A FRIEND
I DON'T CARE IF THESE LADIES ON HERE SAY
I FEEL BETTER IF SOMEONE KNOWS HIM
I AM TELLING YOU RIGHT NOW YOU ARE STOOOOOOOOOOOPID TO FOLLOW THIS ADVICE
BECAUSE
IF THIS ENDS UP IN BAD SITUATION
NOW
YOU ALSO HAVE A WEAKER SITUTION WITHIN YOUR GROUP OF FRIENDS
WHEN A LADY I KNOW AS A FRIEND TELLS ME
I HAVE A FRIEND YOU SHOULD MEET
I RUN IN FULL SPRINT IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION
IT IS THE BIGGEST INGREDIENT FOR DISASTER
BESIDES
IF YOU CANNOT GO OUT ON YOUR OWN
AND FIND A DATE
YOUR MEANT TO BE ALONE.......PERIOD
AND
IF A WOMAN TELLS YOU
IT IS CREEPY TO APPROACH HER OUT FROM NOWHERE
GENERALLY
SHE IS SAYING THIS
BECAUSE
IT NEVER HAPPENS TO HER
MEN
THE ELEMENT OF SURPRISE AND SUPERIOR CONFIDENCE
WILL GET YOU MORE SMILES
THAN THE DIAMOND RING YOU LATER ARE SUCKERED TO BUY
NEVER EVER
DATE
FRIEND OF A FRIEND
I DON'T CARE IF THESE LADIES ON HERE SAY
I FEEL BETTER IF SOMEONE KNOWS HIM
I AM TELLING YOU RIGHT NOW YOU ARE STOOOOOOOOOOOPID TO FOLLOW THIS ADVICE
BECAUSE
IF THIS ENDS UP IN BAD SITUATION
NOW
YOU ALSO HAVE A WEAKER SITUTION WITHIN YOUR GROUP OF FRIENDS
WHEN A LADY I KNOW AS A FRIEND TELLS ME
I HAVE A FRIEND YOU SHOULD MEET
I RUN IN FULL SPRINT IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION
IT IS THE BIGGEST INGREDIENT FOR DISASTER
BESIDES
IF YOU CANNOT GO OUT ON YOUR OWN
AND FIND A DATE
YOUR MEANT TO BE ALONE.......PERIOD
AND
IF A WOMAN TELLS YOU
IT IS CREEPY TO APPROACH HER OUT FROM NOWHERE
GENERALLY
SHE IS SAYING THIS
BECAUSE
IT NEVER HAPPENS TO HER
MEN
THE ELEMENT OF SURPRISE AND SUPERIOR CONFIDENCE
WILL GET YOU MORE SMILES
THAN THE DIAMOND RING YOU LATER ARE SUCKERED TO BUY
Originally Posted by joint-heir
I HAVE ONE LINE THAT I HAVE USED FOR YEARS AND HAS WORKED 90% OF THE TIME
MIND YA NOW
SINCE I AM SAVED I HAD TO CLEAN THE VERSION UP.......
BUT IT GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS........
HOW YA DOING.......
MY NAME IS RICH AND I THINK YOUR EVERYTHING I NEED
CARE TO JOIN ME FOR LUNCH.......?
I THINK IT WORKS BECAUSE I AM ALSO EXTREMELY ---CONFIDENT--- IN WHO I AM AND IN MY ABILITIES
YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I DO.......
THERE IS A 10 SECOND RESPONSE GAP I GIVE
ONCE I HIT 10
I TURN AND WALK AWAY
IF SHE DOESN'T FIND ME APPEALING
IM GONE
WANT TO KNOW WHY...?
I AM TOO GOOD TO BEG
IF YOU HAVE TO BEG MEN
SHE REALLY WAS NEVER INTO YOU
REMEMBER MY 90% SUCCESS RATE...?
THAT IS A ---YES---
WITHIN 10 SECONDS
THERE IS NO BEGGIN OR CREEPINESS IN 10 SECONDS
UNDERSTAND..........
I HAVE ONE LINE THAT I HAVE USED FOR YEARS AND HAS WORKED 90% OF THE TIME
MIND YA NOW
SINCE I AM SAVED I HAD TO CLEAN THE VERSION UP.......
BUT IT GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS........
HOW YA DOING.......
MY NAME IS RICH AND I THINK YOUR EVERYTHING I NEED
CARE TO JOIN ME FOR LUNCH.......?
I THINK IT WORKS BECAUSE I AM ALSO EXTREMELY ---CONFIDENT--- IN WHO I AM AND IN MY ABILITIES
YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I DO.......
THERE IS A 10 SECOND RESPONSE GAP I GIVE
ONCE I HIT 10
I TURN AND WALK AWAY
IF SHE DOESN'T FIND ME APPEALING
IM GONE
WANT TO KNOW WHY...?
I AM TOO GOOD TO BEG
IF YOU HAVE TO BEG MEN
SHE REALLY WAS NEVER INTO YOU
REMEMBER MY 90% SUCCESS RATE...?
THAT IS A ---YES---
WITHIN 10 SECONDS
THERE IS NO BEGGIN OR CREEPINESS IN 10 SECONDS
UNDERSTAND..........
Originally Posted by joint-heir
I HAVE ONE LINE THAT I HAVE USED FOR YEARS AND HAS WORKED 90% OF THE TIME
MIND YA NOW
SINCE I AM SAVED I HAD TO CLEAN THE VERSION UP.......
BUT IT GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS........
HOW YA DOING.......
MY NAME IS RICH AND I THINK YOUR EVERYTHING I NEED
CARE TO JOIN ME FOR LUNCH.......?
I THINK IT WORKS BECAUSE I AM ALSO EXTREMELY ---CONFIDENT--- IN WHO I AM AND IN MY ABILITIES
YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I DO.......
THERE IS A 10 SECOND RESPONSE GAP I GIVE
ONCE I HIT 10
I TURN AND WALK AWAY
IF SHE DOESN'T FIND ME APPEALING
IM GONE
WANT TO KNOW WHY...?
I AM TOO GOOD TO BEG
IF YOU HAVE TO BEG MEN
SHE REALLY WAS NEVER INTO YOU
REMEMBER MY 90% SUCCESS RATE...?
THAT IS A ---YES---
WITHIN 10 SECONDS
THERE IS NO BEGGIN OR CREEPINESS IN 10 SECONDS
UNDERSTAND..........
I HAVE ONE LINE THAT I HAVE USED FOR YEARS AND HAS WORKED 90% OF THE TIME
MIND YA NOW
SINCE I AM SAVED I HAD TO CLEAN THE VERSION UP.......
BUT IT GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS........
HOW YA DOING.......
MY NAME IS RICH AND I THINK YOUR EVERYTHING I NEED
CARE TO JOIN ME FOR LUNCH.......?
I THINK IT WORKS BECAUSE I AM ALSO EXTREMELY ---CONFIDENT--- IN WHO I AM AND IN MY ABILITIES
YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO CLUE WHAT I DO.......
THERE IS A 10 SECOND RESPONSE GAP I GIVE
ONCE I HIT 10
I TURN AND WALK AWAY
IF SHE DOESN'T FIND ME APPEALING
IM GONE
WANT TO KNOW WHY...?
I AM TOO GOOD TO BEG
IF YOU HAVE TO BEG MEN
SHE REALLY WAS NEVER INTO YOU
REMEMBER MY 90% SUCCESS RATE...?
THAT IS A ---YES---
WITHIN 10 SECONDS
THERE IS NO BEGGIN OR CREEPINESS IN 10 SECONDS
UNDERSTAND..........
You obviously misread my sense of humor.
No problem.
It happens at times.
Sometimes often.
* Holds phone close... 9-1-1* on speed dial. *
L
lol. I've never heard that before. I think it's possible, though. Of course, the same could be said about girls. Maybe not to the extent that it can be said about guys. I wouldn't know since I have no idea what goes on inside y'alls heads, but girls aren't perfect either.
Don't come up to a girl you've never met and say:
"Hey girl, can I have your number?"
"Hey girl, what's your digits"
"Hey girl, can I whisper in your ear?"
We don't know you. You could be a psychopathetic rapist. why would we want to give a complete stranger our number?
Also, do not say:
"You are hot!"
"D*mn, you're fine!"
In general, self-respecting girls do not appreciate it when men objectify them, or treat them like a piece of meat. A simple "Hello, my name is [insert name here]." would be much preferred.
Don't come up to a girl you've never met and say:
"Hey girl, can I have your number?"
"Hey girl, what's your digits"
"Hey girl, can I whisper in your ear?"
We don't know you. You could be a psychopathetic rapist. why would we want to give a complete stranger our number?
Also, do not say:
"You are hot!"
"D*mn, you're fine!"
In general, self-respecting girls do not appreciate it when men objectify them, or treat them like a piece of meat. A simple "Hello, my name is [insert name here]." would be much preferred.
M
Interesting view but I don't agree it's stupid at all to follow the advice to date within friends, I think it's like all things in that there are positives and negatives to it, sure you're right if things don't go well that causes wider problems amongst the group of friends but you know if your friends are people of strong charatcer you'll get through it after a while.
But this idea of not taking what women say as the truth of how they feel is not something I agree with, I've seen and experienced a lot of problems through this approach of trying to 'read between the lines' and discover the real truth of what a woman wants, for example, if she says 'leave me alone' she actually wants you to pursue her even more, a theory that works out well for those who don't end up convicted of stalking.
You may have a 90% success rate but you are just one man, and maybe your ultra-confident approach works well on the kind of women who find a man like you attractive, but for other types of women your approach might make them want to 'run full sprint in the oppsoite direction', confidence can be perceived, many times wrongly, as arrogance or egomania and many women out there find those kind of qualities objectionable.
When all is said and done there is no 'one way' to go about approaching a woman which is why I encourage all women to be open to how a man might approach her and not give into any pre-conceived notions about what 'type' of man does what type of things, we all deserve to start with a clean slate.
But this idea of not taking what women say as the truth of how they feel is not something I agree with, I've seen and experienced a lot of problems through this approach of trying to 'read between the lines' and discover the real truth of what a woman wants, for example, if she says 'leave me alone' she actually wants you to pursue her even more, a theory that works out well for those who don't end up convicted of stalking.
You may have a 90% success rate but you are just one man, and maybe your ultra-confident approach works well on the kind of women who find a man like you attractive, but for other types of women your approach might make them want to 'run full sprint in the oppsoite direction', confidence can be perceived, many times wrongly, as arrogance or egomania and many women out there find those kind of qualities objectionable.
When all is said and done there is no 'one way' to go about approaching a woman which is why I encourage all women to be open to how a man might approach her and not give into any pre-conceived notions about what 'type' of man does what type of things, we all deserve to start with a clean slate.
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BROTHER I TRULLY DO FEEL FOR YOU
AT YOUR CURRENT AGE OF 26
IF YOU HAVENT DATED ATLEAST 10 DIFFERENT WOMEN
AND
MANAGED TO GET 1/2 OF THE DATES ON YOUR OWN EFFORT
IM AFRAID A ---HOW TO---
ISNT GONNA HELP MUCH
EVENTUALLY
YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO SAY TO YOURSELF
AND CONVINCE YOURSELF
IF ....... THIS IS WHAT I WANT
THEN
I HAVE TO BE THE ONE TO MAKE IT HAPPEN
IN MY MINISTRY AND MY BUSINESS AND IN DATING AND MARRIAGE
ONE THING FOR SURE I CAN SAFELY SAY
I NEVER ACHIEVED ANYTHING WITHOUT DECIDING FIRST THIS IS WHAT I WANTED
EFFORT AND INTELLIGENCE ON YOUR OWN BEHALF
WILL ACCOMPLISH AND GET YOU WHERE IT IS YOU DESIRE TO BE
BEFORE
FOLLOWING ADVICE ON A WEBSITE
WHERE IT IS SOMEWHAT OBVIOUS
MANY OF THOSE YOUR TRYING TO GET ADVICE FROM
PROBABLY CANT GET A DATE THEMSELVES
M
Well thanks for the sympathy 
but it really isn't needed.
I'm not big on the dating scene right now mainly because I am not eager to couple with someone, but as and when I feel that way I'll make the effort to get myself some female attention
I am just adding my thoughts to the topic that someone else started, I'm not on here looking for advice, it wasn't me who asked the question, I was just interested by the points you made and chose to respond, so thanks for the advice but I don't need it.
but it really isn't needed.I'm not big on the dating scene right now mainly because I am not eager to couple with someone, but as and when I feel that way I'll make the effort to get myself some female attention
I am just adding my thoughts to the topic that someone else started, I'm not on here looking for advice, it wasn't me who asked the question, I was just interested by the points you made and chose to respond, so thanks for the advice but I don't need it.
Wow. You do know that some people marry the person they start dating first? Dated at least 10 women? I'd suggest that if you haven't found your wife by then you've either been unlucky or something is wrong with the women you are dating.
No offense but I do not want to have 10 different girlfriends in the next 6 years. I'd rather get it right the first time, or the second, or the third... etc etc
My parents have been together since they were 13 and 15 years old. They married at the ages of 19 and 21. My mother never dated anyone else, and my father only took one other girl to a dance because it was arranged by my Grandma (the girl was a family friend they'd known for years.) As I wrote in another post, my mother gave me the, "Your father and I were virgins when we walked down that aisle," plenty of times while I was growing up.
My youngest brother was a very popular school athlete and had some long-term girlfriends, but was a virgin when he got married at 26. My brother is still very athletic, is now 31, and built like a Marine--he calls me and says, "Kim, these young guys nowadays... what are they thinking???? I try to tell them they're going to regret sleeping with so many women when they meet the one they finally want to marry, because she won't want him."
The man I married was a virgin at 22. Do you know how romantic it is for someone to tell you, "Baby, I waited for you, I saved myself for you and no one else. I love you that much. I am doing this with you because I love you and have not touched anyone else."
If that isn't a killer pickup line, I don't know what is. (Now I'm not advocating virginity as a pickup line in and of itself, mind you, and I'm not saying only virgins have a chance at getting dates, I'm just saying that for me, my husband's stance of being able to tell me that, and knowing it was true, absolutely melted my heart.) I'd only had one other serious boyfriend before him, and he'd only had two other girlfriends.
Some women do not want a guy who has dated scores of women, even if nothing sexual happened, because they will feel like a number at the deli counter--if he doesn't like even the slightest thing about her, she knows he will easily replace her because he is so used to moving on to the next conquest.
And Matthew is right--both men and women all have their styles and preferences and not all women like the approach of extremely confident men. I can think of two incidences where I was talking to a guy, and his hands were visibly shaking, and I thought that was adorable. Yeah, it made me smile to myself and think, "Am I that big and scary?" But it made me try to be even more attentive because I wanted to put them a little more at ease.
This is just my own experience, but the problem I've found with guys who tell me, "You're everything I want and need," is that they seem to have no inclination of what I should want or need, and they have no interest in finding out, because they're too busy telling me how perfect I am for them and how I'd be of such wonderful service to them in their ministry and plans for life. They don't ask--it's more like they decree.
I'm not saying all confident guys are like this, but any man who is so busy telling me how I'm going to fulfill what he needs in his life without bothering to ask me my own opinion as to what I need in my own life and if he could fill the role (which is my decision, not something for him to tell me) is not a man I would continue to talk to.
And, not in all cases, but in many that I've encountered at least, the confident types have slept around a whole lot more. It's not uncommon for me to meet Christian guys my age who are extremely confident and strong-willed, yes. And then you really talk to them... and find out they've slept with 30+ women... while still claiming to be Christians... yes, the past is the past and I know God forgives. But God also doesn't dictate that you have to date someone who is a Christian but has had 45 other sex partners before you! Especially when you didn't go through a phase like that yourself.
This happens to be the first question I will ask a guy who tries to tell me I'm perfect for him: "What's your sexual history like, and what are the numbers?" Yes, some will lie. But if you ask God if he's telling the truth or if something isn't right with what he's saying, and you can't sleep that night, you know something is wrong. And if that's the case, or if his "score" is higher than my own, I immediately move on. I have no interest in feeling like a number in a harem, which is how that would make me feel. (And yes, I've encountered guys who do not want me because I am divorced--and I can understand their stance and accept it.)
I'd rather take the adorably nervous, slightly shy but willing to try, tender-hearted, humble-approach-type guy over that any day, hands down.
But again, it is only an opinion, not absolute.
