I did not mean to be insulting, just that what you say is a common misconception that is not reflected at all in the lives of real women who would desire a relationship, sometimes over the course of many years and even decades, while none is forthcoming. You want to believe it is easy for women to not be alone if they don't want to be but what exactly are you promoting? It does not sound good to me in any way shape or form to just fall for any old guy that presents himself to me. Not to mention the fact, verifiable, that many men as they age want younger women. You are insulting women to say all we have to be is breathing, as if that was all that was required of us.
You have twisted my meaning.
Women are already desirable. They don't really have to do a whole lot to impress.
They already have what a guy wants....he wants a woman.
But for a guy, he has to have these standards and qualifications
or the woman is going to move on and find the guy who has them.
Most guys that are lonely are just happy to have someone that's going to
stay by his side and be faithful, if he's lucky enough to get that,
but the woman already has what he wants. She's a woman!
I'm saying that as a compliment to womanhood in general.
I love women and think they're God's finest creation.....
that's why He saved the best for last, and in their specialness,
they can afford to be particular, and want the best, which they deserve.
But as a guy who just wasn't good enough when I was younger, and now
I've gotten old so even Less desirable, (not that I ever was), the
opportunity to be that is pretty much gone.
But I'm not saying women just get some drunk from an asylum.....
Or some guy that just throws himself her way...not at all! But
there are a lot of decent guys all around, lonely and just need a chance.
But this started because I pointed out that most of the guys that get that chance have already had it....even a few times, often having a family even,
and seem to be the ones that get the attention, but the guys that never really were given a chance, though just as lonely, or more, continue to be alone.
I was just pointing out the facts I've both observed and experienced, not intending to be insulting AT ALL, but what you said about going for twenties was pretty cold and mean.
How do you think it makes a guy feel to be accused of that?
There wouldn't be a twenty year old that would want me anyway,
even if that's what I was about, which I'm not.
And mostly women my age aren't interested in an 'eros' love at this point anyway, or have had their share, and now their focus in life is other things, and someone like me just isn't necessary or wanted anymore, so that really didn't make me feel too good.
But I've come to expect that.
Being put down for being alone all my life is common.
If I had been in other relationships in my life, the response would have been different, that was my point proven.