Struggle with finding the right (anyone actually) one.

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Monnkai

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My terrible luck with girls is very potent. The last girlfriend I had was Wiccan....As you know that did not end well. My biggest problem is girls talk to me for only a little bit. They then stop talking (no explanation was given) and I never hear from them again. The few girls who don't (Which I'm talking to still) aren't the least bit interested in dating. I was thinking of upgrading my Christian Mingle account, but I checked and there are very few people close to me and its expensive. I'll probably end up paying a lot of money just for girls to ignore me. Any advice?
 
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Finding none at all is far better than finding the wrong one. The wrong one will tear you to pieces.
 

Monnkai

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Finding none at all is far better than finding the wrong one. The wrong one will tear you to pieces.
True. At least, I would get some experience with a relationship though.
 
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True. At least, I would get some experience with a relationship though.
You can do that without being involved with someone. Need for a relationship is the worst reason I can think of to be in one.
 
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coby

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You can do that without being involved with someone. Need for a relationship is the worst reason I can think of to be in one.
Lol yes but at least then you're a happy single.
 

tourist

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My terrible luck with girls is very potent. The last girlfriend I had was Wiccan....As you know that did not end well. My biggest problem is girls talk to me for only a little bit. They then stop talking (no explanation was given) and I never hear from them again. The few girls who don't (Which I'm talking to still) aren't the least bit interested in dating. I was thinking of upgrading my Christian Mingle account, but I checked and there are very few people close to me and its expensive. I'll probably end up paying a lot of money just for girls to ignore me. Any advice?
Maybe there is a woman on CC that may find you interesting enough to stick close by you.
 
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coby

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Why don't you find someone here? I don't understand why people here are single anyway. If I lived in the States I would have stalked a few lol.
 

Monnkai

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Why don't you find someone here? I don't understand why people here are single anyway. If I lived in the States I would have stalked a few lol.
Well I can't imagine a whole lot would be from wisconsin. But I could try
 

tourist

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Well I can't imagine a whole lot would be from wisconsin. But I could try
Don't limit the search to just Wisconsin. A reasonable boundary would be anywhere in the continental US. Pray for God to search and find a woman of your heart's desire. That's exactly what I did. Fear not. Happy hunting.
 
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JeniBean

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My bestie had luck with the Eharmony christian side of the site. Her biggest struggle is she refused to move, so she needed a man willing to move. The right one is out there for everyone. You just have to be patient!
 
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I am now walking with a friend who got remarried a little over a year ago. During the part of the ceremony where they say for better or worse she says...and mostly for the better. It was incredibly awkward and revealed a lot about her expectations. She asked him to leave this past Sunday. He uprooted himself and started over in a new place 1500 miles from his home. He is a great guy and humble. She is a high maintenance high expectation selfish person. As for me, I will never subject myself to a person who isn't emotionally secure, self sufficient and understands the value of low expectations. I may sound a little cynical when I say this but the norm for American women isn't appealing to me at all.
 

seoulsearch

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I am now walking with a friend who got remarried a little over a year ago. During the part of the ceremony where they say for better or worse she says...and mostly for the better. It was incredibly awkward and revealed a lot about her expectations. She asked him to leave this past Sunday. He uprooted himself and started over in a new place 1500 miles from his home. He is a great guy and humble. She is a high maintenance high expectation selfish person. As for me, I will never subject myself to a person who isn't emotionally secure, self sufficient and understands the value of low expectations. I may sound a little cynical when I say this but the norm for American women isn't appealing to me at all.
From the description, can I ask why your friend chose a woman like that in the first place?

I'm always dumbfounded by the fact that people (both men and women) seem blindsided by relationships that don't work out but it's like, Um... You knew what this person was about, and you chose to stay with them, so you really can't be all that surprised... (I'm smiling, too, because yes, my friends and family told ME this about my bombed relationships, too.)

So now I've just stayed single/out of relationships/in hermit mode. :)
 

Born_Again

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Dont people meet in the grocery store anymore? Why do we almost insist on "on-line" stuff? I'm not in a position to meet someone local, but that is by my own doing and I could change that if i wanted to. But right now, I don't think God wants me anywhere near a relationship so im just chilln. :D LOL
 
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From the description, can I ask why your friend chose a woman like that in the first place?

I'm always dumbfounded by the fact that people (both men and women) seem blindsided by relationships that don't work out but it's like, Um... You knew what this person was about, and you chose to stay with them, so you really can't be all that surprised... (I'm smiling, too, because yes, my friends and family told ME this about my bombed relationships, too.)

So now I've just stayed single/out of relationships/in hermit mode. :)
its easy to be blinded by the initial attraction to someone. That and our need to be valued loved and intimate with the opposite sex. Obviously men and women come at it with different motivations as well.
 

seoulsearch

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its easy to be blinded by the initial attraction to someone. That and our need to be valued loved and intimate with the opposite sex. Obviously men and women come at it with different motivations as well.
A great desire to be with someone makes us all put up with and overlook a lot of stupid things, huh?

I've often told God I wished He'd just do a spiritual lobotomy on my entire being (spiritual, mental, emotional) so that I couldn't be led astray anymore by pesky things like emotions and choices based on pain rather than common sense.
 
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coby

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Dont people meet in the grocery store anymore? Why do we almost insist on "on-line" stuff? I'm not in a position to meet someone local, but that is by my own doing and I could change that if i wanted to. But right now, I don't think God wants me anywhere near a relationship so im just chilln. :D LOL
They even propose in Walmart I saw.
 

melita916

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A great desire to be with someone makes us all put up with and overlook a lot of stupid things, huh?
yuuuuuuuuuuuuup. i overlooked several things in my 1st relationship.
 
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coby

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its easy to be blinded by the initial attraction to someone. That and our need to be valued loved and intimate with the opposite sex. Obviously men and women come at it with different motivations as well.
That's why it's smart to ask others. If I like someone I first ask my parents and someone else. Learned from the bad experiences.
 
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People do themselves a great disservice by not recognizing red flags and calling them out.