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Who says it's a responsibility? That's your idea. Never marry someone who has total opposite ideas about that. My ex was a neat freak. I clean up here the way I think is okay. No filth, but piles don't bother me. Next day it's a mess again. Kids love to make mess. Not gonna keep on cleaning. I live here for my fun. No complaining demanding guy around here, so I clean it up before the kids come again, except when once a year my brother is so sweet to drop by.
When I was married it was so sickly clean my collegues didn't dare come in they joked.
When I was married it was so sickly clean my collegues didn't dare come in they joked.
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Cleaning up every crumb is stewardship? Mary didn't even give Jesus and His disciples food when they visited. If you'd say I should spend more time with Him and pray, yes! I'll do that. That's fun.
My ex once forbid me to go to the prayer meeting from church. I had to clean everything up and it was never messy there. I thought: you can't forbid me to breathe, so I went to the prayer meeting.
My ex once forbid me to go to the prayer meeting from church. I had to clean everything up and it was never messy there. I thought: you can't forbid me to breathe, so I went to the prayer meeting.
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That's nice. Do that too but it's still a mess after one day with 3 kids. Not with their dad btw, they're drilled to clean up there.
I have a dish washer. Don't do the laundry, I pluck that out of the dryer and use it. Dry it long, then you don't have to iron it.
You can't lay all those demands on someone else though and that's what some men do or women. My ex had the demand that a woman should teach me clean up, after the divorce. She said: it is okay. You can have your own rules. It doesn't have to be a copy.
I have a dish washer. Don't do the laundry, I pluck that out of the dryer and use it. Dry it long, then you don't have to iron it.
You can't lay all those demands on someone else though and that's what some men do or women. My ex had the demand that a woman should teach me clean up, after the divorce. She said: it is okay. You can have your own rules. It doesn't have to be a copy.
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The first time I ever asked John to come into my apartment when we were dating, I made sure I did NOT clean anything, so he'd know what he was getting. After a couple of weeks, he did mention he'd prefer that I clean the litter box out more often. I did after that. (I even cleaned after that, because I already knew he accepted me for who I am.)
A couple of weeks later, I went over to the apartment he was staying in for a steak dinner. (He's always been a great cook, and much of that came from whose home he was sitting that week. His friend was a chef. lol) His friends would return the next day. (The chef was married.) It was a mess, and his friends were into a seriously clean house. I offered to help him clean the mess for the last half of the date, but he declined and kicked me out to do the work.
And that was all we needed to know about the housekeeping levels either one of us had.
A couple of weeks later, I went over to the apartment he was staying in for a steak dinner. (He's always been a great cook, and much of that came from whose home he was sitting that week. His friend was a chef. lol) His friends would return the next day. (The chef was married.) It was a mess, and his friends were into a seriously clean house. I offered to help him clean the mess for the last half of the date, but he declined and kicked me out to do the work.
And that was all we needed to know about the housekeeping levels either one of us had.
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Lol lately my ex who now has a new wife was sooooooooo happy. He said: I don't have to do anything. She cleans everything up out of herself. My bathroom is clean. Everything is clean!!! Joked to his sister: well that guy sure is happy after 12 years of suffering hahahahahahaha
Oh you shouldn't say that. Why not? I said I put in my dating profile (was on a dating site a few months back): if you're looking for a virtuous housewife keep looking!
Oh you shouldn't say that. Why not? I said I put in my dating profile (was on a dating site a few months back): if you're looking for a virtuous housewife keep looking!
Nothing irritates me more than coming home from work and I couldn't do my laundry because both washers and dryers were still filled with clothes from days before. The sink was full with garbage all over the floor, the garbage can full, piles of crap everyone, the kids running like lord of the flies and the wife sleeping. I'll never live like that again.
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Yes that's horrible. Oh the second guy I married, I thought: never again such a neat freak. He was the opposite. Oh my. He just let everything drop and expected me to clean it all up after him. He had no job. I came home from work, he was just playing on the computer the whole day, put his feet up so I could suck the dust there. I refused to do all his laundry. Just let it pile up for a month so he had to wash it himself, because he had nothing to wear anymore. Then I missed the neat freak.
Yes that's horrible. Oh the second guy I married, I thought: never again such a neat freak. He was the opposite. Oh my. He just let everything drop and expected me to clean it all up after him. He had no job. I came home from work, he was just playing on the computer the whole day, put his feet up so I could suck the dust there. I refused to do all his laundry. Just let it pile up for a month so he had to wash it himself, because he had nothing to wear anymore. Then I missed the neat freak.
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Some people are hoarders and they don't throw anything out. I've been in a large retirement home with many apartments and there are children of aged people who save everything who end up cleaning everything up. Our father in law saved statements from the 1970's because he didn't believe in throwing anything out and those statements were just shredded this week.
Cleaning doesn't always have to be hard as you can budget half an hour each day to clean or more. My neighbor up the street is recently widowed and he cleans one room a day because there is no one else to clean the house. My other neighbor is elderly and it was discovered she had black mold in her sink because she was trying to save containers and not clean which becomes a problem because then you have to get a chemical to clean the sink to get rid of the mold.
The other issue is if she isn't cleaning then who is doing the wash and is she expecting the husband to also order food out or cook because my grandmother told me to not marry anyone who didn't cook because it would bankrupt me. So basically he has to work all week, has to watch the kids when he gets home and wait for them to get to bed before he can do the wash, clean and take care of things. And let me guess, he has to take care of the yard and the car(s). So when does he get to bed and who takes care of him?
I don't know the situation so I'm not giving a judgment so instead of worry about an article about whom we don't know, let's concern ourselves with whom we can help.
Cleaning doesn't always have to be hard as you can budget half an hour each day to clean or more. My neighbor up the street is recently widowed and he cleans one room a day because there is no one else to clean the house. My other neighbor is elderly and it was discovered she had black mold in her sink because she was trying to save containers and not clean which becomes a problem because then you have to get a chemical to clean the sink to get rid of the mold.
The other issue is if she isn't cleaning then who is doing the wash and is she expecting the husband to also order food out or cook because my grandmother told me to not marry anyone who didn't cook because it would bankrupt me. So basically he has to work all week, has to watch the kids when he gets home and wait for them to get to bed before he can do the wash, clean and take care of things. And let me guess, he has to take care of the yard and the car(s). So when does he get to bed and who takes care of him?
I don't know the situation so I'm not giving a judgment so instead of worry about an article about whom we don't know, let's concern ourselves with whom we can help.
Sounds a lot like my first marriage with the exception being I only had one child. I'd get home from working hard all day and always came home to a mess that I had to clean up. Soon as I got home she would leave for hours at a time partying with her friends and doing who knows what. She never cooked meals either except one time she made Stove Top Stuffing. Didn't add enough water. Threw it in the trash.
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back when General Foods was a thing, my dad worked for them as a graphic artist and cylinder specialist.
he was in charge of some of the packaging GF stuff came in.
when GF came out with Stove Top, they gave dad a box before it hit the stores. we made it (and added enough water lol).
but being used to mom's homemade, no one liked it.
dad went back to work and was asked what he thought of this grand product. typical dad, he said,
well.... it's a real nice box.
he was in charge of some of the packaging GF stuff came in.
when GF came out with Stove Top, they gave dad a box before it hit the stores. we made it (and added enough water lol).
but being used to mom's homemade, no one liked it.
dad went back to work and was asked what he thought of this grand product. typical dad, he said,
well.... it's a real nice box.
I'm not a neat nick but I do expect my son to pick up after himself and help me around the house when I ask. He does it without hesitation because he likes to be with me. We have fun. The step kids I had acted like you were removing their liver if you asked them to run the garbage out. In the fact the older one would often just tell me to eff off and would use the real word. They'd complain about ruined childhoods if they were asked to clean their rooms. Mom just turned a blind eye. No follow thru....no accountability. She is raising good little takers.
