Women Need Men

[proverbs35]

A lot of men have started to feel like they aren't needed in Western Society because of feminism and the rise in female independence (there is no such thing as male or female independence, but that's another topic). At least, that's what I've heard and read on various forums. Of course, that couldn't be further from the truth. Scripture states that men and women need each other:

But among the Lord's people, women are not independent of men, and men are not independent of women (1 Cor 11:11, NLT).

Yet, as believers in the Lord, women couldn't exist without men and men couldn't exist without women (God's Word Translation).

That's not limited to marriage either. With that being said, I would like to use this thread as a place where WOMEN ONLY (NO MEN PLEASE) can share personal testimonies about how the men in their lives (fathers, brothers, extended family members, friends, fiances, husbands, sons, pastors, etc)
have helped, blessed and encouraged them. Hopefully, this will be an uplifting thread to remind our brothers in Christ who read it just how much they are still and always will be needed by their sisters in Christ.

 

[proverbs35]

Without giving tmi, I went through an extremely difficult separation and divorce. As a result, my son started to act out, and I had to call on my brothers and male cousin to help me with my son. He needed some male guidance. I couldn't provide that because I'm a woman, and I couldn't depend on his father to provide it either.

Long story short, my brothers and cousin were there for me and my son when we needed them. My son is doing better today because of their intervention and help. Thank God, I have a strong support system, and my brothers and cousin have been an integral part of that. I couldn't have done it without them, and I've learned to appreciate them in ways that I never could have imagined. Unfortunately, since that time, one of my brothers was killed in a car accident.

Life is short, so let people know that you appreciate them before it's too late.

... a brother is born to help in time of need (Proverbs 17:17 NLT).

After all I've been through, I know that verse is true because I've experienced it.

 

[Grace-Like-Rain]

Proverbs, I am sorry to hear that you've lost your brother. Thank you for starting this thread, though. What a beautiful way to lift up our brothers in Christ.

I have so many stories and memories of men in my life who have come through for me. When my husband left me, the men in my church loved me in amazing ways. Three of them actually tracked my husband down where he was "hiding", and pleaded with him to return home. This was for his sake as well as mine, but I felt their love for me in that. My pastor wept with me. I cannot express to you how much this one simple act - not even any words exchanged, just the very fact that he grieved with me - spoke volumes of his, and God's, love for me. Several men in my church took me under their wing. They helped me with car maintenance, house projects, lawn care. They checked on me during storms. They taught me how to replace my lawnmower blades and work on my car. They made me feel protected and cared for. I had to move into new houses twice. Both times, the men handled all of the largest furniture moving. They hooked up my washer and dryer, and even the electronics that I had no idea how to connect. I could go on and on and on here. God loves me so much through the men in my life. I want to weep just thinking about it.

Women DO need men. I've mentioned it before, but there are two or three men who are father-figures to me in my church, who will hug me and kiss the top of my head. I can't really explain what this means to me because I really don't understand it myself. Logically, I get hugs from women all the time, and those are so precious to me. But this act of fatherly affection is different. It fills a hole that I have in a way that female companionship doesn't really fill. Because women do need men. We need to feel cared about and loved by men. Not in a romantic way necessarily. Just a platonic, affectionate way.

I've had men here on this forum defend me in certain ways that made me feel protected and cared about. They say that a man's strongest need is to be respected, and a woman's strongest need is to be loved. And most women will admit that they feel loved when they are offered protection. I think men have a natural instinct to protect, and that is something women need to feel from men, even single women on a platonic level. Something as simple as having a man hold a door open for me, walk me to my car after dark, or ask if they can help me lift something heavy is enough to make me feel cared for and protected. It's just a natural need on my part that most men I know naturally fulfill in small ways day to day.

I have a friend who just went through the same thing I did, with her own husband. She is constantly saying "I'm a strong independent woman. I don't need a man. I am independent. I am strong." It breaks my heart because I know she's trying to convince herself of that, but the fact that she says it so much tells me that she doesn't really believe it. I myself am a strong, independent woman too, but I need men and I'm not ashamed of it. I need to be around my brothers in Christ. I need their companionship just as much as my sisters. They are both equally important but very different needs in their own way.

So, thanks men for being who you are. You are vital in our lives whether we realize it or not!

 

[LOLOKGal]

Great idea for a thread! Uplifting one of God's greatest creation - men! =) <3

There are so many stories of how men have been a blessing to me. They've offered guidance, spiritual support, physical strength, and friendship when I needed it. I can't pin point just one story, but I praise God for men. =)

I just would like women to realize that we are not to be in competition with men. We are not better then them and they are not better then us. God created us to do things men can't do and God created men to do things we can't do. We are created to work together. =D

 

[Messy]

I couldn't raise my sons myself all the time. I need my ex to do that too and he's still the head of the broken family. My dad helps me financially. Sometimes my brother cleans up the mess. A man at the office helped me so I didn't get fired. With all those men helping me I don't need a partner though.

 

[blue_ladybug]

Not true at all. I don't need a man.

 

[AbigailZeke]

Taking on the role of bread winner at a young age and having experienced domestic violence before learning my ABCs, I admit that I am slowly losing hope when it comes to men. In some sense, it has something to do with pride. I would justify myself as having no real father image, but then again, if I really think about it, I have no excuse (something I will not expound on, or I would derail the thread lol). As a result, I totally understand the causes of feminism. But as a Christian, I do believe and understand, no matter how difficult, the role and importance of men in the kingdom, and how they and their presence affect women in many many ways.

I feel at peace knowing that there's a man living in my family's house (mom, sister and brother). Even if he's 12! I don't know how exactly, but there are things, I know, as a woman, I can never achieve on my own or even with the help of the rest of the female population on earth.

Just 2 weeks ago, I was buying some electronic stuff and realised they were so heavy x(. The first thing I said in my mind was "I need a man!" That's a poor way of defining women's need of men lol but I thought it was funny.

As much as I love my independence, I can never deny the fact that men and women were made for each other

 

[AbigailZeke]

Not true at all. I don't need a man.

Lol lady blue, it's okay to need them.

 

[AbigailZeke]

Here's a song that goes well with this topic too!

[video=youtube;yLr6G8Xy5uc]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLr6G8Xy5uc[/video]

 

[mailmandan]

Lol lady blue, it's okay to need them.

Lady Blue needs an orange kitty.

 

[jeremyPJ]

It is comforting to know that there are some women out there who still desire the companionship of a man.

So much feminist negativity over the recent decade or two is starting to cause a backlash amongst men (think MGTOW).
Thank you ladies for still caring.

 

[cinder]

I don't like the word need in general. So let's just say that from this point on I could probably survive without ever interacting with a male human again, but life is so much more interesting and enjoyable with men around to interact with. I certainly prefer having healthy relationships with men to not having them around.

 

[wwjd_kilden]

They are useful to have around.
Especially at work, at a ward where some of the patients are aggressive. The mere presence of male nurses / assistants make them less aggressive.

 

[Willie-T]

Yancy Tucker is proof-positive that men need women...... and it seemed she needed him, too.

 

[wisebeardman]

they don't need me.

 

[Monnkai]

Yancy Tucker is proof-positive that men need women...... and it seemed she needed him, too.
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Is that the Waltons? I haven't seen it yet but It I heard of it before. Anyway thanks ladies

 

[jb1616]

A thread started about how "women need men". Then men are barred? Am i the only one seeing the irony in that, lolol.....

 

[jeremyPJ]

No, i thought it was funny too...

 

[proverbs35]

Here's a song that goes well with this topic too!

[video=youtube;yLr6G8Xy5uc]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLr6G8Xy5uc[/video]

Good song. It reminds me of dancing with Cinderella by Steven Curtis Chapman and Stealing Cinderella by Chuck Wicks. Dancing with Cinderella is about a father's relationship with his daughter. Daughters need loving fathers.

https://youtu.be/nrWMBC6yoME

Stealing Cinderella is about a father giving his daughter away in marriage. It's told from the groom's perspective. Daughters need loving fathers and brides need loving husbands.

https://youtu.be/9KHAaRxyuQk

Both of these songs bring tears to my eyes. They are good representations of what the relationship between father and daughter and bride and groom should be.

 

[Ugly]

Why am i not surprised to see what was intended as a good, positive thread, nitpicked apart? And i'm particularly surprised by Cinder being the biggest culprit. The spirit of this thread was obvious, regardless of your feelings on the wording used. Couldn't what it was obviously meant to be have been good enough?
But then you, and Blue (of course) have to interject even more negativity by, essentially, doing the opposite of what the thread is about, by dismissing men in general.
Blue's comment is negative and frustrating, but i don't expect any better from her. But i am rather disappointed in you Cinder.

And i see no irony in barring men from the thread. In fact it makes perfect sense. The point of this thread was for women to show their appreciation for the men in their lives and/or men in general, rather than criticizing men. To request that men stay out of it is right. It's for you to read and be encouraged by. There's nothing a man has to add, because it's a gift given to you, not a task shared by both men and women.

But, naturally, not only were their women that came here to ruin the spirit of the thread, then men began intruding and derailing the thread as well. Guys, you had at least Some chance to hear good things from women. Instead you chose to invade it and mock it.

Thank you proverbs35 for your wonderful thread idea and the intention behind it. I'm sorry people were so quick and eager to turn it into something to be mocked and disrespected.