Women Need Men

mati1010 · Jun 8, 2016

Love is so important in our lives. first the love of God then family is ok wanting to beloved by that special someone. sometimes people choose to be alone because of certain situations in life .but some would like to fee true love again.
the point here is we are so focused i fisical and not the internal of the heart. i have been alone past 10 years dedicated to God but sometimes we need that special one also. i kind of agree with your words. asking Gods guidance is the best.

HappyGuy · Jun 8, 2016

I don't know how to respond to this so I'll use scripture...

[h=1]Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

but........

2Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

2Corinthians 6:15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

2Corinthians 6:16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

but..........

1Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

1Corinthians 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

1Corinthians 7:7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

so this is the way I look at it.... when looking for a wife or a husband make sure they are equally yoked so there is no division in the relationship and have Jesus the center of the relationship and have Jesus first in your life.

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mati1010 · Jun 8, 2016

Amen totally agree .i know that only threw God everything works best in a relationship.

laura_charlotte · Jun 8, 2016

As a Christian, the only thing both women and men should be concentrating on is to fulfill God's will for their life. We're all here for a reason and that is to do God's work. We're all given special talents and abilities from God so as to have a relationship with Him and so others can come to know Christ themselves in our short time in this life. Whether or not that involves someone of the opposite gender is irrelevant. Whatever God has you doing, the opposite gender is just a small part playing in the bigger scheme of things and that is to do God's will for your life.

slave · Jun 8, 2016

The only thing both men and woman should be concentrating on is to be real. Real both in way of God's Spiritual truths and its order of higher practical importance, and in way of God's creation in us living on earth in life experiences He has preordained. We tend to villainize God's creation in the area of emotions and desires because we are all very accustom to the perverted versions, we are to die from. But, we must remember, God is the only one who can create and He created love and a Adam and Eve to be interactive.

It's true one can be happy alone, for God even sees the logical conclusion in that as well, saying it gives us more energy toward His purposes. But make no mistake, God also created it a blessing for man and woman to be interactive in His purity. My grace is sufficient for me can play a role in both single living and in living with the alien next to us (kidding). God wants to meet our desires along with His Spiritual truths and He created us to be able to do both (which the world cannot understand, and Christians struggle with as well). God's glory is seen in a marriage that statistically won't make it, at times it seems God created us to intentionally attack each other, but in Christ His glory is seen as it,instead, flourishes, and pairs up to flourish Him all the more as well. He is seen both in the life which is single, and He is seen in the union of two of His own watering each other.

Personally, I desire to nurture and love another; despite my life being over the half-way mark, but I just continue to pray and not worry for I am not to be anxious about anything, and I let God do the worrying. But suffice it to say, it's not so much that I put His purposes over my delights and desires (stuffing them under the rug, pretentiously) that He has instilled in this human experience, it's simply that I trust Him to run all of my life top to bottom, sharing with Him all my realnesses along the way. In His will and in His will for me, I know from His Word that His Character is to want to gift me, and share in His glory both. He is a miraculous God!

mati1010 · Jun 8, 2016

Amen Amennnnn

Grace-Like-Rain · Jun 9, 2016

I've loved reading all of the contributions to this thread! Just to clarify the OP a bit - this thread was not about finding a spouse, or "needing" to "have a man". It's about appreciating how important MEN are in the lives of women. Fathers, brothers, friends, sons, pastors, elders, neighbors, and yes, husbands if you have one.

I can't help but wonder why it is so hard for us to recognize that we need one another as a two-gender society. Why do we keep defaulting back into "eros" thinking, when "philia" and "agape" are even more critical... Almost all Biblical references to love are agape, NOT eros.

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up... (1 Thes 5:11)

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)

Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Gal 6:2)

Romans 12:5 so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another.

Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;

Romans 13:8 Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law.

Agape. So much of the Bible instructs us on how to relate to ONE ANOTHER in love. Community.
And what then... how can we acknowledge that we need one another, and yet dismiss our need for an entire HALF of the body of Christ?

Just pondering these things tonight.

proverbs35 · Jun 9, 2016

Grace-Like-Rain said:

I've loved reading all of the contributions to this thread! Just to clarify the OP a bit - this thread was not about finding a spouse, or "needing" to "have a man". It's about appreciating how important MEN are in the lives of women. Fathers, brothers, friends, sons, pastors, elders, neighbors, and yes, husbands if you have one.

I can't help but wonder why it is so hard for us to recognize that we need one another as a two-gender society. Why do we keep defaulting back into "eros" thinking, when "philia" and "agape" are even more critical... Almost all Biblical references to love are agape, NOT eros.

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up... (1 Thes 5:11)

Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. (1 Peter 4:8)

Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. (Gal 6:2)

Romans 12:5 so we, being many, are one body in Christ, and individually members of one another.

Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another;

Romans 13:8 Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law.

Agape. So much of the Bible instructs us on how to relate to ONE ANOTHER in love. Community.
And what then... how can we acknowledge that we need one another, and yet dismiss our need for an entire HALF of the body of Christ?

Just pondering these things tonight.

Thanks for the clarification. I ponder those same questions too.

Donkeyfish07 · Jun 9, 2016

Ugly said:

Anybody really want to say they didn't see it coming? Lol. Before I clicked the thread I thought "It won't make it past page one". I had to laugh when I read page one. It all played out in my mind almost exactly before I read anything. Lol.

Proverbs: Thank you very much sister. You are much appreciated

. Despite the derail it is nice to see good things said.

melita916 · Jun 9, 2016

back to the OP

the only thing i know about cars is how to drive (automatic lol) and put in gas. one day, i was driving to work, and i got a flat. the first person i called was my dad. his job (at the time) was pretty flexible, so he was able to clock out to come help me. he changed my tire, and when i was ready to leave, my car wouldn't start. he called our mechanic, who is a brother from our local assembly, for help. the brother drove out to where i was, figured out the the problem, and helped my dad and me.

i used to work in a school office. it was book fair week, and afterschool, the "store" was opened. one afternoon, there was a special event, so there were more people than usual hanging out at the school. all of a sudden, a guy walked in by himself and wandered around for like a minute. no one knew him. within that minute, i saw several dads get up and kept an eye on him. he just looked some kind of suspicious. fortunately, the dude didn't do anything to cause harm, but i thought it was really cool how the men were ready just in case.

Mitchell1989 · Jun 9, 2016

As an entirely independent male that doesn't need a woman for anything, my pride doesn't get in the way of saying that I NEED women. To be honest, life would be insufferable without the contributions and companionship of the "fairer sex".

Messy · Jun 9, 2016

Without a man you wouldn't even be alive.

LOLOKGal · Jun 9, 2016

Grace-Like-Rain said:

As I have been reading this thread, I was thinking the same thing. We should get back to the OP and start appreciating men again. I see some women have posted about how they have been mistreated by men. Trust me, I so understand that! My father, a past boyfriend, and 2 husbands have done some very hurtful, damaging, and not so pleasant things to me. Just goes to show how much these men need God in their lives. However, I know these men don't speak or show the nature of all men. I have had men help me in many different areas and I so appreciate them. I love hearing a man's voice, brings a sense of warmth. I love being in a man's arms, brings a sense of security. I love being surprised by a man, brings a sense of being loved. I love the friendships that I have with men, brings a sense of being cared for. I love their strength, especially when I am not strong enough to take care of the situation at hand. I love a good stimulating conversation with a man, or even just a good laugh with them. My favorite thing about a man... When they smell good. *sigh* ...hehe... God did an amazing job creating men. <3 PRAISE GOD FOR MEN!

Arder_of_Hearts · Jun 23, 2016

Ladies,

I am inspired by all that you have said and the many kind words far better than men could deserve! I digress

Men do like to hear words of lamentation and just as much as a woman wants to be told she's is beautiful. Kindness is always in fashion and I can't say how many times I've said, "You're beautiful" and just get a smart remark in reply or just an,"Oh thank you!" as well, but then that is it. Attraction is there for someone like myself to approach you and say kind things and so it's fine and dandy to maybe catch this person the next time but at that later moment I would had made a new friend and actually have a talk. I get that the woman I'm talking with had needs and I care about that. I'm not currently involved with anyone and someone has a need for me sure I just can't read minds now?
Usually when I meet a woman I'm intruding myself and I can see right off what type of personality she has and I can plainly see the first thing is body language of her hiding herself. Isn't that what you would like for a person to get to know?

A_Friend_In_Christ · Jun 28, 2016

I pray that you find that special someone someday. Maybe God will bless me too and I will be special enough for someone. Amen.

Angelsnow said:

I have to agree,

its natural for a woman to need a man. (and vice versa). I would give my right arm to meet someone truly decent.
An old world, Old school kinda guy. Who am i kidding? Its a prayer. I've been alone a long long time. I'd love
to meet someone who I could laugh and tickle and tease unmercifully. Someone I could trust and grow old with.

I am almost 50. So its a different mindset at my age..than when i was 25. You change and mellow as you grow older. You learn men? not all are bad. (A LOT are!! , yes) but not all. Some men.. will stand the test of time. (my Dad and mom...50 yrs married) (My brother 19 yrs married). I haven't been so lucky. But I still am in the game. I have hope that one day...someone amazing will come along..and "not complete me" but "ACCEPT ME COMPLETELY", As I would him. When you are young dumb and stupid. You base everything on "looks and appearances" sadly...being shallow. ...is the idiot way of life in youth. Men AND women....both guilty of this.

(i know i was).

But love? is blind. and kinda dumb. (as it should be). How else can someone last...50 yrs with you? ....if they see only the ugly parts of you. Men? some are quite incredible. True blessings in our world. And no.....*NOT ALL GOOD MEN ARE DEAD OR MARRIED*. Some good ones are still out there. And I know this. I just do.

Well...for the naysayers...being cynical will get your a good game of playing cards. SOLITARE. God answers prayer. I believe in the power of love. Its not perfect. Nor are men. (or women). There is no "fairy tale" in life. But i KNOW in my soul...there is someone out there for everyone who searches. If their heart is in the right place.

It's okay..to need someone special. Don't let anyone say otherwise.

Good Luck to all men...and women...in their quest to find love. Don't give up hope!!!!

JosephsDreams · Jun 29, 2016

Okay, a little off topic, but related, reading the title of this thread made me think of me having many conversations with someone years ago about the difference between a woman and mans needing each others love and wanting each others love. While there were a lot if areas we spoke about that overlapped, we both felt that needs and wants can and do mesh, she was the general opinion that if one needs love from the opposite sex, they are needy and weak and not to well adjusted. I agreed with that only to a point, not as extreme as her though. I was more of the camp that we generally need love from the opposite gender. Not a desperate unhealthy need, as she would try to define it, but a healthy respectful exchange.
Anyone care to chime in?

TriviaGirl86 · Jun 29, 2016

I'm a strong, independent woman who don't need no man.

Grace-Like-Rain · Jun 29, 2016

JosephsDreams said:

I'm glad you brought this up, because both arguments are valid I think. A human body needs calories to survive. But in order to be healthy, it needs some of those calories to be protein. A human can survive without love from the opposite sex, but I would consider it a source of emotional nourishment. Every little girl needs to feel a father's love, and every boy, a mother's love. That doesn't always happen, and they survive and go on regardless usually, but I would still call it a necessity.

On the other hand, Jimmy Needham has a great song called "Clear the Stage", which includes these lyrics:

Anything I put before my God is an idol
Anything I want with all my heart is an idol
Anything I can't stop thinking of is an idol
Anything that I give all my love is an idol

I found this very revealing and convicting in several areas of my own life.

[video=youtube;6smGew7dGto]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6smGew7dGto[/video]

proverbs35 · Jun 29, 2016

TriviaGirl86 said:

When we say that we don't need a man (fathers, brothers, sons, uncles, male cousins, male friends, brothers in Christ, husbands) we are REJECTING the inspired-word of God because the Bible clearly teaches that men and women NEED (are dependent upon) each other, and that dependence is not limited to marriage. Of course, some women are single, divorced or widowed.

As far as the Lord is concerned, men and women NEED each other
(1 Cor 11:11, CEV).

However, woman isn’t INDEPENDENT from man, and man isn’t INDEPENDENT from woman in the Lord (CEB).

Like someone else on this thread posted, women wouldn't even be alive without men (fathers).

Yet, as believers in the Lord, women couldn’t exist without men and men couldn’t exist without women (GW).

I would also like to address this independent man and/or independent woman myth. People boasting about their alleged independence is something we hear a lot in our modern society. However, it's NOT biblical. It's humanism, and it's one of the enemy's lies.

God (the Creator) didn't create humans to be independent. God created humans (male and female alike) for community. Humans are communal, social creatures. It's not even possible for us (male or female) to be independent. We ALL need other humans; that's the way the Creator designed us - for community. Not only did the Creator design us in such a way that we NEED to depend on others, he designed us first and foremost to depend on HIM - whether we acknowledge it or not. We couldn't live, move or exist without God (Acts 17:28). Therefore, to boast about how independent we are contradicts what the Bible teaches about mankind's INTERDEPENDENCE on God and community.

As humans (creatures), we are ALL dependent upon the Creator and other humans in our community. NO PERSON on the face of the earth ever has been or ever will be independent. This myth about being independent rather than interdependent is one of the enemy's lies.

Here's what gotquestions.org teaches about interdependence:

Biblical interdependency should be embraced, not avoided. The Lord’s emphasis in dependency is on service, not on self. Christian interdependence is vital to the body of Christ and its individual members. We are to love one another, eschew selfish ambition, and exercise the gifts of God for the benefit of others (John 13:34-35; Romans 12:3-6; Philippians 2:3-4).

Source: What does the Bible say about codependency?

cinder · Jun 29, 2016

If you drive a car you don't know how to build or fix, to a store to buy food you don't know how to grow or make, that you will then take home and store in a refrigerator that uses electricity you don't know how to produce to keep food cold in a way you can't really explain or build a replica of... then you are not independent (just saying). It's amazing how much good infrastructure and dependable systems can give us the illusion of independence.

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