Q
So here is what I learned from the dating sites...
1) not all the guys on there are perverts- I met some genuinely nice guys
2) It's pretty safe if you are smart about it- Yes a lot of guys ask for sex but what is good is that they are open about it. They say, "hey you want to have sex?" I politely decline and we go our separate ways. There has only been maybe one guy who tried to manipulate me but I saw through it and blocked him.
3) not all guys on dating apps are looking for sex- on the apps they have an option to show what you are looking for. I set mine to say I was looking for friendship. Many guys will also ask, "What are you looking for on here?" so I tell them "friendship" If they are looking for something different they tell me and we go our separate ways. Many guys are looking for the same thing as me.
4) God is working through the dating app!!!! I met a guy in person who was a recovering alcoholic and he was getting back to Christianity. He was the sweetest nicest guy you could ever imagine! I invited him to my church and my campus ministry. He accepted! I don't know where it will go or if we stay friends but I hope I can help him in any way I can. I also am finding myself praying for many of the guys I meet.
5) here are some of my criteria for meeting guys
6) here is my criteria for choosing which guys pictures to like
7) Chatting rules
So what are your thoughts?
1) not all the guys on there are perverts- I met some genuinely nice guys
2) It's pretty safe if you are smart about it- Yes a lot of guys ask for sex but what is good is that they are open about it. They say, "hey you want to have sex?" I politely decline and we go our separate ways. There has only been maybe one guy who tried to manipulate me but I saw through it and blocked him.
3) not all guys on dating apps are looking for sex- on the apps they have an option to show what you are looking for. I set mine to say I was looking for friendship. Many guys will also ask, "What are you looking for on here?" so I tell them "friendship" If they are looking for something different they tell me and we go our separate ways. Many guys are looking for the same thing as me.
4) God is working through the dating app!!!! I met a guy in person who was a recovering alcoholic and he was getting back to Christianity. He was the sweetest nicest guy you could ever imagine! I invited him to my church and my campus ministry. He accepted! I don't know where it will go or if we stay friends but I hope I can help him in any way I can. I also am finding myself praying for many of the guys I meet.
5) here are some of my criteria for meeting guys
- it must be daytime when we meet
- it must be close to where I live
- Before I leave I ask them to send me a short video of themselves so I know they are really them
- we must stay close to my car
- we must stay in the public eye
6) here is my criteria for choosing which guys pictures to like
- Personal preferences
- side swept bangs or really nice hair
- clean shaved (some guys I like are not clean shaved but it all depends)
- safety
- no money in the picture
- no rude hand gestures
- no one who looks older than 30
- no one who looks younger than 22
- no one with cigarettes hanging out of their mouths or in their hands
- no one with a scary front pic
- I must be able to see their face
7) Chatting rules
- If they are rude I block them
- If they are inappropriate I block them
- if they try to manipulate me I block them
- NO EXCEPTIONS
So what are your thoughts?