You're looking to fill your void by filling someone else's. That's the whole definition of being a codependent. How about filling your own first by connecting yourself with some good Christians? The more you try to rationalize it, the more you you continue wearing that shirt saying "I am a codependent."
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You cannot and will not go online without running into bad people with bad intentions. We all know they exist in the world, and the internet is a way to interact with other human beings in a completely anonymous way. So of course, you are going to run into them. If you cant handle that then you should avoid the internet, or at least stick only to people you know and trust. But even with a Christian dating site, of course the wrong kinda people are gonna go there and do what they do, why wouldnt they? The world is a fallen place, it is a place of evil intentions and sin. It should be expected that you are going to encounter this in your life.
But yeah, I agree, and not just Christian websites, God can use any place or platform for His will. I have talked with Muslims online before, who were by no means friends of Christ, and even with them accusing Gods word of lies, there have been times where one came out and asked me a sincere question about Gods word. I totally believe that God can use these things to help others come to Him, and does just that.
Actually, in my old life I was a member of a large online community that was NOT friendly about God's word, and was a strong advocate for the lbgt lifestyle. I was on their side with that lifestyle, and supported it. But after God called me I went there to tell them what happened, and that I was leaving that life. And guess what, all of them were against me but one girl, who sent me a private message telling me that I inspired her, and she said she would pray for me and everything.
Of course, we should absolutely avoid people who live in sin when we can. But that doesnt mean that God is not working His will in these places, and He may use any of us for His will, too.
(sorry, long post : /)
But yeah, I agree, and not just Christian websites, God can use any place or platform for His will. I have talked with Muslims online before, who were by no means friends of Christ, and even with them accusing Gods word of lies, there have been times where one came out and asked me a sincere question about Gods word. I totally believe that God can use these things to help others come to Him, and does just that.
Actually, in my old life I was a member of a large online community that was NOT friendly about God's word, and was a strong advocate for the lbgt lifestyle. I was on their side with that lifestyle, and supported it. But after God called me I went there to tell them what happened, and that I was leaving that life. And guess what, all of them were against me but one girl, who sent me a private message telling me that I inspired her, and she said she would pray for me and everything.
Of course, we should absolutely avoid people who live in sin when we can. But that doesnt mean that God is not working His will in these places, and He may use any of us for His will, too.
(sorry, long post : /)
I'm mixed on this. The internet is an amazing place. We get to meet all kinds of people we would have otherwise never knew existed. If you use it for dating or friendships, and that works for you, that's awesome!
The reason I'm mixed on this though, is that while I think that it's great people are able to do this, I would never let my sister for example meet a dude she met online & definitely not one that's a recovering alcoholic. I may tell someone here to do their thing, but I would tell her it's a bad idea lol. Am I contradicting myself? Perhaps. Does it say more about my actual stance on this? Probably.
The reason I'm mixed on this though, is that while I think that it's great people are able to do this, I would never let my sister for example meet a dude she met online & definitely not one that's a recovering alcoholic. I may tell someone here to do their thing, but I would tell her it's a bad idea lol. Am I contradicting myself? Perhaps. Does it say more about my actual stance on this? Probably.
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Here is a list:
1) I can come off very awkward at first in person and many people (especially Christian guys) cannot get past that initial awkwardness
2) I'm not even looking for a relationship...I'm looking to curb the loneliness. I have had times where I went months without getting a single text message. I hated it. I just wanted someone to talk to. This way my phone dings often and I have people to talk to. I know that seems silly but try going 3 months without texting or any form of electronic communication or in person communication aside from service people or teachers or a brief "hi" and then come talk to me.
3) I don't want to get my hopes up. There have been times where I will talk to a guy and he will give me his number. I will text him and he will never text me back. I REFUSE to deal with that kind of rejection on a daily basis.
4) I don't get invited anywhere.
So there you have it.
1) I can come off very awkward at first in person and many people (especially Christian guys) cannot get past that initial awkwardness
2) I'm not even looking for a relationship...I'm looking to curb the loneliness. I have had times where I went months without getting a single text message. I hated it. I just wanted someone to talk to. This way my phone dings often and I have people to talk to. I know that seems silly but try going 3 months without texting or any form of electronic communication or in person communication aside from service people or teachers or a brief "hi" and then come talk to me.
3) I don't want to get my hopes up. There have been times where I will talk to a guy and he will give me his number. I will text him and he will never text me back. I REFUSE to deal with that kind of rejection on a daily basis.
4) I don't get invited anywhere.
So there you have it.
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It's funny how you mention that we should avoid people living in sin. The bible says we should do just the opposite. We should love those living in sin. We should distance ourselves from CHRISTIANS LIVING IN SIN. I just found that interesting and that is honestly part of why I am doing this. I know many of the people on the secular sites are not christian so why not friend them?
Why not seek out the ones who are hurting and figure out how to serve them in an appropriate and God-honoring way?
Also I found a great gif. If a guy claims to be a Christian but he isn't acting like it, I send this:
Why not seek out the ones who are hurting and figure out how to serve them in an appropriate and God-honoring way?
Also I found a great gif. If a guy claims to be a Christian but he isn't acting like it, I send this:
It's funny how you mention that we should avoid people living in sin. The bible says we should do just the opposite. We should love those living in sin. We should distance ourselves from CHRISTIANS LIVING IN SIN. I just found that interesting and that is honestly part of why I am doing this. I know many of the people on the secular sites are not christian so why not friend them?
Why not seek out the ones who are hurting and figure out how to serve them in an appropriate and God-honoring way?
Also I found a great gif. If a guy claims to be a Christian but he isn't acting like it, I send this:
Why not seek out the ones who are hurting and figure out how to serve them in an appropriate and God-honoring way?
Also I found a great gif. If a guy claims to be a Christian but he isn't acting like it, I send this:
I would have to disagree with you there. We should absolutely share the Gospel with all who will listen, and rebuke those who speak out against Him for the sake of others. But being there to share the Gospel does not mean joining in with them when they mock His word and speak against Him. I try to avoid being in such groups. I am friends with people who may not believe in Him, but I want to avoid those who mock Him. Why would we be friends with them? Theres a difference between being there to minister to others, and listening to and showing support with those who hate Him.
When those secular friends of yours starting saying something like "there is nothing wrong with homosexuality", do you not disagree with them?
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yes I disagree but I do so politely and in a way that doesn't demean the homosexual community. So far only one guy has been really upset about me being Christian so I blocked him. No one else has mocked God. They have been very respectful...and I have not mocked God either or joined in any bad activities...
I did not say what I said to condemn you, as I agreed with your opening post. I did so as a first act against those who would come in to make the point that we should avoid sinful websites, reread my post for context : p I agree that God can work His will anywhere He pleases, and guides us to those living in rebellion against Him in order to call them to Him.
Grandma may have a rolling pin to keep everyone in line. 
You know, Kim, be careful, hissy pitchin grandmas can make just anybody run like a scalded haint...
And, just to quell the rumor mill, no, Lynx and I aren't dating.
First of all, I'm nothing but trouble.
And second, I'd have a long way to go before I ever won over his Grandma's Good Graces.
You had said "I don't know if it's something more" the moment you started talking to him, though. Who thinks that way if the person is at the same time saying "I'm not searching for a relationship. I just want to fill the loneliness whule talking to the opposite sex."There is nothing wrong with ministering to addicts. But what is concerning is you saying "I don't know if this could be something more" when you have started numerous threads about feeling lonely and your experience currently with guys on the internet and apps. I'm not pretending I know. I'm just going by what you said.