Dating Non-Believers

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I don't know if it is ok or not, but personally I have ZERO interest in a romantic relationship with a nonbeliever. When someone truly believes in God and does their best to walk the walk, there is a certain radiance, warmth and kindness that exudes from their soul which can't be derived from anywhere else.
 
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I dated a few non believers. Needless to say. It didn't work out. However I have dated Christian women. And it didn't work out. I have had longer relationships with Christian women and shorter with non believers. I am definitely recommending say searching for a Christian woman. I am seeking as well.
 

BruceWayne

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Is it alright? It is for me. Is it preferable? I'm not suggesting that it is. But I'm not going to say no to someone who is really great because they don't share my beliefs. Sure it can cause issues, but it doesn't have to. My best relationship has been with someone who wasn't a christian. We've never had any issues as it pertains to morals, beliefs, etc. because we respect each other. When that respect exists, believe it or not, it can actually work.

I know I'm in the minority, but that's my honest opinion from my own experience.
 

Oncefallen

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*Lynx winces, picks up the mic and glares at Oncefallen.

Please, don't do that when a sound man is present. We know how much those mics cost. :p

It was an older SM57 that needed to be replaced anyway........they're $100 (and to think that I remember when they used to be about $50)


Yeah, I was a sound man about 30 years ago.
 
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I would have to say No. A non believer would not pray with you. If you become one with a non believer your souls are joined. One of light and darkness is not fruitful. Pain and hardship will come. I married someone who just claimed Christianity. I was a young Christian and did not know there was a difference. He was raised in church I was not. The signs where there. I did not heed the warnings. I did not have a spiritual head of my household. Nor did I learn what Christ's love was like till the marriage was ended by his affair. I was brought down to his level instead of being lifted up. It is far easier for the darkness to pull someone down than it is for the light to pull them up. Stand on a chair, see which is easier, to pull someone up or them to pull you down. Everything requires food to grow. If you are feeding on the world, you will be worldly. if you are feeding on the spirit, you will be spiritual. What we surround ourselves with is what we emulate. If it is non believers, then we are more tempted to live like them. I believe the Lord had a reason for his warnings, and what he tells us. It is for our benefit not his. I would not date a non believer, and before I married, I would make sure his fruits are true. not empty words. We will know them by their fruits.
 
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I have to add, Solomon was a very good example of that.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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I'd date a non-believer.
 

Dino246

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As a man who is looking to date (and hopefully marry someday), I admit that I am tempted at times to consider dating a non-believer. There are very few available Christian women around here. :/

However, I won't. I believe it's better to wait. I would add though that while it is a bad idea to date someone who is not a fellow believer, it is also a bad idea to date someone who is a Christian, just because they are a Christian. It is foundational, but there is much more to consider.
 

JosephsDreams

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Is it alright? It is for me. Is it preferable? I'm not suggesting that it is. But I'm not going to say no to someone who is really great because they don't share my beliefs. Sure it can cause issues, but it doesn't have to. My best relationship has been with someone who wasn't a christian. We've never had any issues as it pertains to morals, beliefs, etc. because we respect each other. When that respect exists, believe it or not, it can actually work.

I know I'm in the minority, but that's my honest opinion from my own experience.
Would you marry a non believer?
 
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Is it alright? It is for me. Is it preferable? I'm not suggesting that it is. But I'm not going to say no to someone who is really great because they don't share my beliefs. Sure it can cause issues, but it doesn't have to. My best relationship has been with someone who wasn't a christian. We've never had any issues as it pertains to morals, beliefs, etc. because we respect each other. When that respect exists, believe it or not, it can actually work.

I know I'm in the minority, but that's my honest opinion from my own experience.
I'd date a non-believer.
Do you profess Christianity?

If so, what do you see in Scripture supporting your view?
 

Yeraza_Bats

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I wouldnt date a non-believer. There would be little point to it, and I no longer have that belief that I must be in a relationship in order to achieve true happiness. So I am willing to wait for the day that I meet someone who wants to follow the Lord, too. I dont believe I could be happy with someone who found the Lord offensive (and no matter how peaceful and tolerant someone tries to make them self appear, I know there will be something about the Lord they take offense to).
And as others have pointed out, that is the biblical stance to take. I will always take the word of God over personal feelings : p Ive learned in my short time here on earth that your feelings can very easily be used to lead you the wrong way.
 

BruceWayne

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So what's the non-encrypted answer to the second half of the question?
I left it at yes lol. I have no need to back up my opinion or elaborate any further. I could, but I'm just not interested in getting into a discussion here. My original post is what it is.
 
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I left it at yes lol. I have no need to back up my opinion or elaborate any further. I could, but I'm just not interested in getting into a discussion here. My original post is what it is.
Probably a good thing.

It would be kinda like giving the pros of smoking...

 

Lynx

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Probably a good thing.

It would be kinda like giving the pros of smoking...

They get more work breaks. When one of my coworkers slips outside to puff, we have to take up the slack until he returns. I might take up smoking so I can be lazy on the clock too. (No I wouldn't, but it's still not really fair.)
 

jsr1221

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Probably a good thing.

It would be kinda like giving the pros of smoking...

I can see where Bruce is coming from, though. I've seen quite a few number of uptight Christian women, to out it nicely. At least with a nonbeliever, she wouldn't use the God card.
 
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They get more work breaks. When one of my coworkers slips outside to puff, we have to take up the slack until he returns. I might take up smoking so I can be lazy on the clock too. (No I wouldn't, but it's still not really fair.)
Go out for an oxygen break...

Why do we allow people who take up the stinky, disgusting, very unhealthy habit to have breaks to work on lung cancer/asthma/emphysema?
 

Yeraza_Bats

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My workplace has a nice rule, there are no smoke breaks allowed, but every 2 hours we get a 15 minute break. That way smokers can go and do their thing, and the rest of us can go find a couch to sit on and do nothing for a few minutes : p