To Do List: Laundry, Dishes, Pack Kids' Lunches, Oh, and Have Sex with Spouse.

[seoulsearch]

these koreans seem to get good marriages

maybe Brenna should find herself a korean bloke

HA HA HA, Greatkraw... My parents are not Korean!!! At all!!! I'm adopted. As for my parents and youngest brother, there is a mix of German and several other lots thrown into the pot... and our last name is, as I was shocked to find out in recent years, Dutch.

I like to tell people I am a Dutch Korean American... I can wear wooden shoes, carry chopsticks (though I can't use them to save my life--no wonder those people are so tiny, all they can get is maybe one grain of rice to eat at a time with those sticks)--and eat burgers and fries.

What can I say, I'm true to my heritages.

 

[Tisha]

Ok as a married person I will say that sex shouldn't be a chore. Sometimes it may feel like a chore but you have to look at it this way if your husband wants to make love to you than thats his way of showing his love to you. Now when you both feel like its a chore than thats when you run into a problem and you should pray about it. Even if your the only one thinking of it as a chore you should pray that the Lord will make you feel diffrently. The bible states in 1 Corinthians 7: 1-5

1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Going by the above scripture it is one of your duties as a wife as it is his duty as a huband to have sex with you because you are as one when you marry. Now before someone changes it around on me I'm not I repeat not saying that he should force you in any way to have sex.

 

[Mal316]

Seoulsearch, it sounds like your parents have a great relationship! Kudos to them.

Good post, Tisha. Agreed. Sex should never be forced. That is the taking, not giving.

Re 1 Cor. 7:5 .... A time of separation is not always a bad thing. Scripture forbids a man lying with a woman during her menstrual cycle. Some (meaning Orthodox Jews) take this Scripture so far as to say a man and woman should not touch at all during this time and that a man should not touch anything that the woman sits on. (For a humorous take on this, read "The Year of Living Biblically" by A.J. Jacobs). The woman is considered 'ritually impure'. Once her period is over and she has immersed in a mikvah (ritual bath), she and her husband can have sex again. Now the point is not to be legalistic about being unclean and prohibiting touching, but to heighten a couple's desire for one another by prohibiting sex for a period of time. Now, I don't know how effective this is, but I have heard that the Orthodox swear by this.

 

[Wootie]

'Having sex with our spouses is an honor'. An honor is truthful, everlasting and proud-not a duty.' Yes God, I know he's my husband & I should submit to him but I am tired!!!!!!!!! God, why don't you make him see all that I do around here? If he had to do ALL THIS STUFF he would be too tired too. It just makes me angry sometimes to even have to have sex. Oh well, lets get it done and over with so I can get some sleep, so I can get up and do everything all over again tomorrow.

Now just think about this-Your husband is gone:
'My God, I miss my husband so much'. I remember the smell of his clothes as I would wash them-I remember taking such pride in making him the best tasting meals I could-I remember buying those candles and cute nitie to make his eyes light up. 'God, I miss his touch, his smile. How could I ever of felt like it was too much trouble.

God bless you and your marriage.

 

[Sussen]

This was good post! Im 29 year old single women, but this subject gave many thoughts. Sex is very intimate area, im thinking with this introduction to subject, that in every couple face their "mountains" issues to solve out. And sex and sexuality is so fragile part of us , and the disappointment could be very deep and injuring in many ways if your sexlife is not so enjoyable as you or your partner wish it would be. And as a christian, God leads you to the right person, you fall in love, get married. Maybe sexlife is working at first but then comes kids and huge responsibilities on christian life and other life areas, debts, financial problems.. Many burdens so people feel so stressed out they lost all joy and enjoyable things as having rich intimate life with your spouse. And many other reasons, physical, psykological etc.

Seems like some kind of tabu (different people and cultures see it different way naturally) but in christian culture, and idk but could there be some shame or guilt linked it too? I think it can be very deep disappointment and loss if your needs dont meet / dont any more meet on your marriage + if u have totally different type "language of love" (Have you heard about this theory? ) so then it gets even more complicated. Here in Finland havent heard too much christian based teaching or speechs about christian marriage problems. I mean could there be like more women nights or men nights where could be discussions about christian marriage and possible sexlife threats?

 

[Sussen]

.... And maybe there are but ad nit maeried I havent noticed those

 

[blue_ladybug]

.... And maybe there are but ad nit maeried I havent noticed those

Sussen, this is a 6 year old zombie thread, and many of it's posters aren't even here anymore. You may want to start a new thread instead of pulling dead threads forward from 200 pages back in the forum.

 

[Sussen]

blue_ladybug, nooo I sure dont wanna start a new thread, cause whats wrong with this one ?The thread may gone old , but the subject isnt. =)

 

[Fenner]

This was good post! Im 29 year old single women, but this subject gave many thoughts. Sex is very intimate area, im thinking with this introduction to subject, that in every couple face their "mountains" issues to solve out. And sex and sexuality is so fragile part of us , and the disappointment could be very deep and injuring in many ways if your sexlife is not so enjoyable as you or your partner wish it would be. And as a christian, God leads you to the right person, you fall in love, get married. Maybe sexlife is working at first but then comes kids and huge responsibilities on christian life and other life areas, debts, financial problems.. Many burdens so people feel so stressed out they lost all joy and enjoyable things as having rich intimate life with your spouse. And many other reasons, physical, psykological etc.

Seems like some kind of tabu (different people and cultures see it different way naturally) but in christian culture, and idk but could there be some shame or guilt linked it too? I think it can be very deep disappointment and loss if your needs dont meet / dont any more meet on your marriage + if u have totally different type "language of love" (Have you heard about this theory? ) so then it gets even more complicated. Here in Finland havent heard too much christian based teaching or speechs about christian marriage problems. I mean could there be like more women nights or men nights where could be discussions about christian marriage and possible sexlife threats?

Sex can be such a taboo subject that some people are ashamed of it. I know my parents didn't discuss it with me. I'm open with my kid's about it. I don't discuss my sex life with them, but I've told them that it's a natural thing to do, when you're married.

I'm married 17 year's now. I'm not always up for it, sometimes I'm just tired of someone needing something from me. Kid's , Husband, work, pet's , but I try. Hormones change as you age too.

Sex is an important part of marriage, it brings you closer. Yes I've done it when I haven't felt like it, but I've also said no. I think that's okay too. If you're spouse is saying no all the time, like months and there is no medical reasons for it, then I think it's a problem.

 

[laura_charlotte]

blue_ladybug, nooo I sure dont wanna start a new thread, cause whats wrong with this one ?The thread may gone old , but the subject isnt. =)

You have the right to reply to an older thread. They're not a moderator to my knowledge. If this is a subject you can learn from regardless of how far back it began, it's a great thing that it speaks to you and perhaps it will reach someone in our wider audience online who isn't a member but wants to come to Christ Jesus. God speed.