Girls would you give a guy a chance that struggles with porn as a boyfriend?
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Not entirely different. Taking on the aftermath of someone else's addiction is just plain stupid. After all, it affects you just as much, if not more than, it affects the addict themself. And if you know beforehand that he's an addict, and you get into a relationship just the same, then you've set yourself up for a world of hurt and hardships.
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Bro, I hope you know I'm not trying to be rude or talk about you in my posts here. I am talking about men in general who are seriously addicted to porn. These are the things I've heard from Pastors. In fact I just saw a series from Andy Stanley called "The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating." He says men learn while watching porn. These are their lessons.
A real body isn't good enough.
One body isn't good enough.
Their wife's body isn't good enough.
I'm happy you got over your addiction. Just know that I'm talking about the men that haven't.
A real body isn't good enough.
One body isn't good enough.
Their wife's body isn't good enough.
I'm happy you got over your addiction. Just know that I'm talking about the men that haven't.
Not at all. Many stay despite their husbands cheating, or doing something for which they take no blame. If the husband isn't willing to fight for the marriage, then it's onesided and WILL fail. You are conveniently forgetting that God ALWAYS uses divorce to bring something better into their lives. 
And 999 times out of 1000, they probably aren't "the one" for the other person, they only married for their own reasons and not because God made them meet.
And 999 times out of 1000, they probably aren't "the one" for the other person, they only married for their own reasons and not because God made them meet.
Not at all. Many stay despite their husbands cheating, or doing something for which they take no blame. If the husband isn't willing to fight for the marriage, then it's onesided and WILL fail. You are conveniently forgetting that God ALWAYS uses divorce to bring something better into their lives. And 999 times out of 1000, they probably aren't "the one" for the other person, they only married for their own reasons and not because God made them meet.
And 999 times out of 1000, they probably aren't "the one" for the other person, they only married for their own reasons and not because God made them meet.
Of course they do, thats why they are doing it. They make good money for it too. If they didnt want to do it, they can move onto something else.
You can just say "all women in porn dont want to be there, and are forced there because of random problems", many of them choose to be there.
And I agree with the fact that its someones daughter/sister/mother and is wrong, but you can just make the sweeping claim that all women in the pornography industry are forced there by this or that factor. I can tell you myself that there are sexually immoral women out there, they exist too. And like the men, they make the same claims, porn doesnt hurt anyone, its my body and I can do what I want with it.
You can just say "all women in porn dont want to be there, and are forced there because of random problems", many of them choose to be there.
And I agree with the fact that its someones daughter/sister/mother and is wrong, but you can just make the sweeping claim that all women in the pornography industry are forced there by this or that factor. I can tell you myself that there are sexually immoral women out there, they exist too. And like the men, they make the same claims, porn doesnt hurt anyone, its my body and I can do what I want with it.
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All of this drama makes me think being single is so much better. Being alone isn't so bad when your future spouse could be addicted to porn, romance novels, alcohol or something else. Truth is, we are all tempted in some areas over others. Are you willing to overlook those in your spouse?
I honestly don't know if I can. These threads are literally making me jump for joy at my singleness.
#hermitlife
I honestly don't know if I can. These threads are literally making me jump for joy at my singleness.
#hermitlife
Everyone backslides in some way at some point. Ive never really watched porn in my past, never felt the need to watch it and to this day do not look at or watch such things. But that doesnt mean I dont deal with sexual urges at all ever. I still deal with the thoughts, and there have been times where I caved into those thoughts and did what I know I shouldnt have done.
While not being something that someone can actually see me do, like something such as pornography, I still consider it to be in the same spectrum of sin. Im sure that even if I were in a relationship with someone Id still fall at some point to such a thing at some time.
While Id agree that someone who hasnt overcome this issue should definitely focus on this issue first, and less on being in a relationship, its still totally true that they may backslide into it even after overcoming it and eventually finding someone to be with. I would agree with the people who made the difference between "struggle" and "currently use".
While not being something that someone can actually see me do, like something such as pornography, I still consider it to be in the same spectrum of sin. Im sure that even if I were in a relationship with someone Id still fall at some point to such a thing at some time.
While Id agree that someone who hasnt overcome this issue should definitely focus on this issue first, and less on being in a relationship, its still totally true that they may backslide into it even after overcoming it and eventually finding someone to be with. I would agree with the people who made the difference between "struggle" and "currently use".
You know, watching certain people turn yet another thread into an argument for the 713th time has started me wondering if perhaps there's a similarity between arguments and porn. Or at least between addiction to arguments and addiction to porn. The strong emotions, the adrenaline high...
Um... never mind. Ignore me. Go back to your arguments.
Um... never mind. Ignore me. Go back to your arguments.
here is my view on this, if I wasn't already madly in love with stephanie and there was a girl who severely struggled with porn and we both had deep feelings for each other I wouldn't shy her away because of her addiction I would try to help her overcome while building the relationship together. Sometimes a couple needs a huge challenge to overcome together in order to truly become close, if the relationship is real and your feelings are true there is no limit you won't go for the one you love.
The way I see it this girl likely is deeply ashamed of her addiction but doesn't know how to stop she needs help and lets assume she is a Christian she likely is bombarded by thoughts of how disgusting she is or how sinful she is or how God must be so ashamed of her she may even question her own salvation I could not sit by and let her drown in all of this. So the answer to the op question differs depending on the person answering
The way I see it this girl likely is deeply ashamed of her addiction but doesn't know how to stop she needs help and lets assume she is a Christian she likely is bombarded by thoughts of how disgusting she is or how sinful she is or how God must be so ashamed of her she may even question her own salvation I could not sit by and let her drown in all of this. So the answer to the op question differs depending on the person answering
You know, watching certain people turn yet another thread into an argument for the 713th time has started me wondering if perhaps there's a similarity between arguments and porn. Or at least between addiction to arguments and addiction to porn. The strong emotions, the adrenaline high...
Um... never mind. Ignore me. Go back to your arguments.
Um... never mind. Ignore me. Go back to your arguments.