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Okay. I was adopted when i was 7 along with 2 of my biological sisters who were older than me.
We went through a lot in our life before we were adopted and that stuff screws someones head up.
After my sisters turned 18 they decided to go against all that they were brought up with (after adoption) and go back to live with my real parents who were child-molesters, abusers and druggies. I didn't. God had delivered me from that and I wasn't going back.
I can kind of see where your daughter is coming from, being against you and saying ya'll are the reason why she had bad stuff in her life. Even if it isn't true. My reason being, my sisters said the same exact thing! One eloped with a 49 year old when she was 18 and her husband told her lies about my family too...that my parents had "brainwashed and used her as a house slave" the other said she was "brainwashed and she needed to be sexually free" and they both spread lies and rumors that caused division and eventually my dad resigning from the church as their pastor and moving to another country because we had no other option.
But my point is, it really depends on how old she was when she was adopted. If she had seen a lot in her life or been abused like I was and my sisters. My sisters were almost in their teens when they were adopted so they didn't adapt easily to a new home and they were just in survival mode until they were adults and could get out on their own.
Don't take it that you and your wife didn't raise her well, and it's your fault she's like this, my mom took it that way...and it hurts me so badly to see her blame herself for someone's mistake. You did ultimately do the best you could in raising her and bringing her up in a loving home and loved her as your own.
Anyway...that's all I have to say.
Pro Adoption. As a matter of fact, when I get married and have kids, I will adopt a few as well. Adoption is beautiful thing and a wonderful metaphor for telling how God has adopted us into His family.(= Take care!
We went through a lot in our life before we were adopted and that stuff screws someones head up.
After my sisters turned 18 they decided to go against all that they were brought up with (after adoption) and go back to live with my real parents who were child-molesters, abusers and druggies. I didn't. God had delivered me from that and I wasn't going back.
I can kind of see where your daughter is coming from, being against you and saying ya'll are the reason why she had bad stuff in her life. Even if it isn't true. My reason being, my sisters said the same exact thing! One eloped with a 49 year old when she was 18 and her husband told her lies about my family too...that my parents had "brainwashed and used her as a house slave" the other said she was "brainwashed and she needed to be sexually free" and they both spread lies and rumors that caused division and eventually my dad resigning from the church as their pastor and moving to another country because we had no other option.
But my point is, it really depends on how old she was when she was adopted. If she had seen a lot in her life or been abused like I was and my sisters. My sisters were almost in their teens when they were adopted so they didn't adapt easily to a new home and they were just in survival mode until they were adults and could get out on their own.
Don't take it that you and your wife didn't raise her well, and it's your fault she's like this, my mom took it that way...and it hurts me so badly to see her blame herself for someone's mistake. You did ultimately do the best you could in raising her and bringing her up in a loving home and loved her as your own.
Anyway...that's all I have to say.
Pro Adoption. As a matter of fact, when I get married and have kids, I will adopt a few as well. Adoption is beautiful thing and a wonderful metaphor for telling how God has adopted us into His family.(= Take care!
