i honestly think bro it comes from both sides or whatever side really, certainly many folks stay out of the arguments, if a person posts much in the bdf, theres a good chance theyve been on both sides, the right and wrong. thats just my opinion and obsevation though. I know in the past, i sometimes didnt really take the time to really see exactly the words another was using, responded to rashly, and then realized later, that i sort of added to what they were actually saying in my response. i try really hard now to see just what they have said, no more, no less.