Let me see if I can be serious for a few moments without letting the bitterness I harbor get the best of me.
1. Chaste. I'm far too old to expect a virgin, and I'm not one myself (shockingly), but I view sex thusly: A bunch of people stand in line for a drink of water. The first guy takes a sip of water, then spits the water back in the glass and hands it to the guy behind him. The next guy does the same and on and on it goes. Who wants a drink of that water near the end of the line? I've been very picky about who I have laid with, and I expect the same out of a woman. I've often been called frigid, but I think there are certain times between a man and woman that are special, and trying to have those times too frequently makes them much less special. Keep batteries on your shopping list.
2. Likes to learn things and have new experiences.
3. Has some sort of passion for something that isn't social trends or popular culture. Plays a musical instrument, has some kung-fu with a craft or art, something. Something that gets her mind going and her hands busy.
4. Doesn't have, nor want children. It's non-negotiable.
5. Sees relationships as teamwork, not competition. I'm an agreeable fellow to women most of the time, but I can or will only bend so far. You don't want to be on my bad side. Being my girlfriend is like being hired for a job with some pretty decent benefits. Don't make me fire you.
6. Respects the sound of silence and the privacy of others. I don't chat just to make noise, and I don't (and won't) share every intimate detail of my life. Some things, you just don't need to know.
7. Understands that I am not a "family guy" and doesn't try to change me. I was never close to my family; I never did holidays or get-togethers. Don't try to jam me into your family or make me fake a smile through a very crowded and noisy Thanksgiving feast. Just no.
