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There is no fool like an old fool. I think it is better to take a dog by the ears than to get in the middle of this situation. I can think of no good outcome from this but I can imagine many bad outcomes.
God promises to protect us in all situations but as the wife of an old evangelist here once said as her husband was speeding down the highway in their new car when he refused to slow down "God sends angels to guide our path but God don't put angels on the fenders of fools". Goodness and mercy are our promised companions but we ought not to tempt God.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
God promises to protect us in all situations but as the wife of an old evangelist here once said as her husband was speeding down the highway in their new car when he refused to slow down "God sends angels to guide our path but God don't put angels on the fenders of fools". Goodness and mercy are our promised companions but we ought not to tempt God.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
You are correct in your assessment, and your friend is asking for a lot of grief, perhaps even the loss of her freedom or even her life. Pakistan and Pakistanis hate America and Americans, and the Muslims there have nothing but contempt for the infidels (non-Muslims). There is also bitter persecution of Christians in Pakistan. But the culture itself (especially with the current influence of Radical Islam) should be a deterrent. In other words, no Western woman in her right mind should even dream of going to that cesspool.
Also, the fact that this man in probably half her age indicates that she is being played for a sucker. He claims to be a Christian evangelist, but that could very well be a ploy. On top of that, the fact that this has earned her the bitterness and anger of her daughter should give her pause.
What you could do (if you have not done so already) is ask her to discuss this matter with her pastors and elders and seek their counsel. Since she is not a giddy teenager, she should not be behaving as one, and should be taking some wise counsel from mature Christians. You have not mentioned whether your friend is a Christian, but it would appear to be so. At the very least, you should tell her that she should ask this man to visit her where she lives, so that he can meet her friends, relatives, and others before making any commitment. If you feel it would help, you could print off this response (and any others) and show them to her. In any event you should not be afraid of sharing your serious concerns and letting her know that she is practically putting her head in a noose.
Also, the fact that this man in probably half her age indicates that she is being played for a sucker. He claims to be a Christian evangelist, but that could very well be a ploy. On top of that, the fact that this has earned her the bitterness and anger of her daughter should give her pause.
What you could do (if you have not done so already) is ask her to discuss this matter with her pastors and elders and seek their counsel. Since she is not a giddy teenager, she should not be behaving as one, and should be taking some wise counsel from mature Christians. You have not mentioned whether your friend is a Christian, but it would appear to be so. At the very least, you should tell her that she should ask this man to visit her where she lives, so that he can meet her friends, relatives, and others before making any commitment. If you feel it would help, you could print off this response (and any others) and show them to her. In any event you should not be afraid of sharing your serious concerns and letting her know that she is practically putting her head in a noose.
Anybody can say anything they want to online and lie about their profile. Usually it's facebook where this happens the most.
I'm always being hit up for money for their poor orphanages, and then have had some trying to get me to sponsor them here in the states. I am not a church. And they aren't looking for churches...just women.
Others look at my children looking for marriages. She needs to run...and run fast.
There was a program on tv that showed marriages without meeting the other person. Some were legit, but others was just the scam to get here in the states. I assume it's the same with Canada.
I'm always being hit up for money for their poor orphanages, and then have had some trying to get me to sponsor them here in the states. I am not a church. And they aren't looking for churches...just women.
Others look at my children looking for marriages. She needs to run...and run fast.
There was a program on tv that showed marriages without meeting the other person. Some were legit, but others was just the scam to get here in the states. I assume it's the same with Canada.
Hi Kaylagirl
Not too much you could say.
She's not a teenager.
It's a very bad situation.
Maybe when she meets him she'll realize what
a mistake it would be to marry.
Some guys do this to come to the US.
Probably this is the case.
We should all pray for her, that some light
enters her mind and she does the right thing.
I have a feeling it might end up OK.
AND How come HE isn't coming to HER?
Ask her...
We'll pray for her.
Not too much you could say.
She's not a teenager.
It's a very bad situation.
Maybe when she meets him she'll realize what
a mistake it would be to marry.
Some guys do this to come to the US.
Probably this is the case.
We should all pray for her, that some light
enters her mind and she does the right thing.
I have a feeling it might end up OK.
AND How come HE isn't coming to HER?
Ask her...
We'll pray for her.
Maybe if you had love for all people, even if they come from a Muslim country you could be optimistic for your friend. But you come across as anti-Muslim eg. your YouTube link to a channel called Halal Pork, which I don't think was particularly respectful to another religion even if you are against it.
Why do you think your friend is unintelligent and cannot think for herself? When people have been through a lot they tend to be more sensitive to things, hence less stupid in making choices than others. Maybe you are worried, but all you will end up doing is pushing her away with your own fears. It is actually more important that you are accepting and loving about her own choices, if you want her to be loving and accepting about your thoughts. But are your thoughts based on love, or are they distorted by mainstream anti-Islam rhetoric?
I have to be blunt with you, sorry about that. I know you, Magenta, Blue_Ladybug support any kind of anti-Islam rhetoric here, but try not to make it racism even though it is really. Just try and be more loving if you want to get through to your friend, and if you want to KNOW MORE about the situation and whether she is safe. Has she even spoken vocally to him or been on webcam? You didn't mention any of that. But I get the feeling she has. Stupidity is meeting someone you have never seen or heard and I doubt that is the case. But if it is the case, then THAT is your point of conversation, not 'Pakistan'. She is less likely to share anything with someone who tells her Pakistan is dangerous, Pakistan is Islamic State, Christians die in Pakistan, etc. Love or fear, one is better than the other.
Why do you think your friend is unintelligent and cannot think for herself? When people have been through a lot they tend to be more sensitive to things, hence less stupid in making choices than others. Maybe you are worried, but all you will end up doing is pushing her away with your own fears. It is actually more important that you are accepting and loving about her own choices, if you want her to be loving and accepting about your thoughts. But are your thoughts based on love, or are they distorted by mainstream anti-Islam rhetoric?
I have to be blunt with you, sorry about that. I know you, Magenta, Blue_Ladybug support any kind of anti-Islam rhetoric here, but try not to make it racism even though it is really. Just try and be more loving if you want to get through to your friend, and if you want to KNOW MORE about the situation and whether she is safe. Has she even spoken vocally to him or been on webcam? You didn't mention any of that. But I get the feeling she has. Stupidity is meeting someone you have never seen or heard and I doubt that is the case. But if it is the case, then THAT is your point of conversation, not 'Pakistan'. She is less likely to share anything with someone who tells her Pakistan is dangerous, Pakistan is Islamic State, Christians die in Pakistan, etc. Love or fear, one is better than the other.
No it is not about racism at all. Muslims who have invaded the West believe they have the right to attack non-Muslims as infidels and promote hatred against Christianity, while also promoting Sharia law, but everyone else must keep silent or they will be branded as racists and Islamophobes. That is utter nonsense, and Britain and Western Europe (especially the women) are paying a very high price for their cowardice in the face of Radical Islam. Pakistan is no place for even a Western soldier, let alone a gullible Western woman. If this guy is on the up-and-up he should not hesitate to come a visit his "grandmother" whom he wishes to marry.
Had you read the OP, you'd see she wants to go to Pakistan to marry this guy. AND also because she's infatuated with his male model looks, AND seems eager to get it on for the wedding night.. I fear she's being guided by lust right now, and the "promise" of being a "pampered" wife.. She can't see the forest OR the trees.. All she sees is a sexy guy, hot sex, being a pampered wife whose hubby gives her anything..
Sorry Kayla, no disrespect to your friend, but that last part is essentially what it boils down to.
Sorry Kayla, no disrespect to your friend, but that last part is essentially what it boils down to.
These are massive and horrible assumptions. Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
You know, LOVE does exist? It can be something beautiful and amazing?
Try being optimistic rather than so pessimistic in assumption.
Pakistan isn't just some back alley where no-one would be safe. It has safe areas it has unsafe areas. Sounds like if the guys is genuine he is probably from a richer/safer area. Lots of people travel to Pakistan safely and regarded where they were as safe. Stop making such negative assumptions. It's easy to do that, but try thinking outside the box for a change.
You know, LOVE does exist? It can be something beautiful and amazing?
Try being optimistic rather than so pessimistic in assumption.
Pakistan isn't just some back alley where no-one would be safe. It has safe areas it has unsafe areas. Sounds like if the guys is genuine he is probably from a richer/safer area. Lots of people travel to Pakistan safely and regarded where they were as safe. Stop making such negative assumptions. It's easy to do that, but try thinking outside the box for a change.
Had you read the OP, you'd see she wants to go to Pakistan to marry this guy. AND also because she's infatuated with his male model looks, AND seems eager to get it on for the wedding night.. I fear she's being guided by lust right now, and the "promise" of being a "pampered" wife.. She can't see the forest OR the trees.. All she sees is a sexy guy, hot sex, being a pampered wife whose hubby gives her anything..
Sorry Kayla, no disrespect to your friend, but that last part is essentially what it boils down to.
Sorry Kayla, no disrespect to your friend, but that last part is essentially what it boils down to.
Ok so he is good looking, that's bad? She is excited to be a pampered bride, what bride isn't? She is eager for the wedding night, so she isn't eager before the wedding night?
Any perspective that is not optimistic, is really based on your own perspective. I see no evidence of the latter.
I really believe there are people in this world, who think bad will happen and they are waiting for it to happen so they can say, told you so. Don't be one of those people.
Any perspective that is not optimistic, is really based on your own perspective. I see no evidence of the latter.
I really believe there are people in this world, who think bad will happen and they are waiting for it to happen so they can say, told you so. Don't be one of those people.
D
Where does God promise to protect us in all situations? As far as I know, 11 apostles were killed, Corrie Ten Boom's family was killed, and most evangelists that go to Muslim countries are killed anywhere between setting their foot off the plane to two years.
And you can't say any of those people were fools.
And you can't say any of those people were fools.
D
Since we're going to be blunt and all, how is it you are so perfect, yet no one else is as enlightened as you?
General rule of thumb: If many respond with the same melody of responses, but one responds clunks completely off tune, it's usually the clunker who is wrong. You are spending quite a lot of time trying to prove you aren't just clunking.
General rule of thumb: If many respond with the same melody of responses, but one responds clunks completely off tune, it's usually the clunker who is wrong. You are spending quite a lot of time trying to prove you aren't just clunking.
K
Yes,she is a Christian though a couple years ago she was dating a Muslim man. Thank you for your adivce,you've made some good points and given good suggestions. Right now she is listening to no one. Im hoping to stick with her until she tells me she's making her plans to go. The odd thing is I was talking to her last night and asked her when the date for the wedding was and she said that it was too dangerous for her to go right now. She said things had to settle down before she made the trip so she is not oblivious to the danger there. I feel she is being deliberately blind. I just don't know if I can wake her up,it may take her actually going through this. Im just afraid she'll lose too much before she opens her eyes to the danger.