Worst mistake singles make (the dinner story)

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Once married, the two become one...

...and in some odd way the one becomes two.

When you're dating or married you now have to think everything out for the both of you.

Will they like this movie?
Will they want to have this for dinner tonight?
Will they want to go here?
Will Smith?


It can be tough at times, simply because, you just want to do what you want to do.
l want to say to anyone who longs for a partner that, yes, it can be great...but so can being alone.


Lynx brings up excellent points.
The grass is always greener...but when you're single, you dont have anyone telling you to cut the grass when all you want to do is relax and play with your new Justice League Lego set.


On second thought...it's kinda cool to have someone to play Legos with.









Ya know what...don't listen to me, l have no idea what l'm talking about. :(
Being with someone is cool, being alone is cool.


That's all l'm gonna say about that.
 
tourist: Is she single and looking? Or is she happily single and her mother is unhappy about her being single?
 
Lynx said:
tourist: Is she single and looking? Or is she happily single and her mother is unhappy about her being single?
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She is very much single and starting to feel very lonely. Her mother is not unhappy with her being single but feels a good man at this stage of her life would be a very good thing. Her name is Melisa, 37 years old, never married, no kids,she is intelligent, sweet and often amusing. She also accepts people for who they are and realizes that none of us is perfect. She's a good cook too. Pretty.
 
tourist said:
She is very much single and starting to feel very lonely. Her mother is not unhappy with her being single but feels a good man at this stage of her life would be a very good thing. Her name is Melisa, 37 years old, never married, no kids,she is intelligent, sweet and often amusing. She also accepts people for who they are and realizes that none of us is perfect. She's a good cook too. Pretty.
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oh reeeeeeaaaaallllllyyyyy?
:o
 
And I thought the mistake was in the baking skills, trying hard to remember where I have the recipe for my famous Sachertorte. So it wasn't about the cake. And it wasn't about the woman baking not showing up?

Yeah. But even though you don't have epectations for someone (or some cake) in particular, you still might get stuck waiting.
 
But there's a whole lot more on the buffet table then the cake, and there's a whole lot of life to live while we are waiting.
 
You see Lynx... in about 3 or 4 years tourist & I would like to maybe move to Tennessee and if I could get my daughter hooked up to someone lets say in Tennessee it would make the move oh so much easier....lol
 
Then the daughter - Jackie who is married in Michigan would just be a couple state drive away....Come on Lynx help an old lady out....lol
 
tourist said:
She is very much single and starting to feel very lonely. Her mother is not unhappy with her being single but feels a good man at this stage of her life would be a very good thing. Her name is Melisa, 37 years old, never married, no kids,she is intelligent, sweet and often amusing. She also accepts people for who they are and realizes that none of us is perfect. She's a good cook too. Pretty.
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This post makes me think of.....

[video=youtube;Y0ShvQ2fhKM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0ShvQ2fhKM[/video]
 
Yeah, for real.

I have been successful at remaining single for 39 years now. That's a pretty good streak but I think I can do this for longer. Mind you, if I meet a lady and we happen to hit it off then I'll probably be as happy with her as I am by myself. But I'm not spending any energy looking for her, and I somewhat loathe matchmaking.

Notice I said matchmaking, not matchmakers. I have some friends who are matchmakers. I like those people. I only loathe them when they are matchmaking.
 
Lynx said:
There is a mistake I have seen many single people making... but first let me tell you about this dinner I went to last night. I swear it's connected to the mistake.

A friend's church was having a dinner, and being a friend of this church member I was invited. I am not one to lightly pass up a free dinner at a church, as that is usually where the really good food is to be found. And I was expecting some really good food at this dinner because my friend had told me of a cake that one of the church ladies bakes, and he had reason to believe it would make an appearance last night.

You know what an italian creme cake is? Basically it's a really good cake, soaked down with sweetened cream, covered in cream cheese/nut/coconut icing. And it's usually three layers. Now imagine that in a chocolate version. That's the kind of cake my friend was telling me about, and I couldn't wait to try it.

Unfortunately it seems that lady wasn't feeling too well yesterday and she didn't even come to the dinner, much less make that cake. Man, I was upset! I'd been anticipating this cake for DAYS and it didn't show. I was so upset that I didn't eat much that night. There was a lot of good food there, I guess, but I was so hung up on that cake that I didn't get much on my plate. And what I got, I kind of just picked at. I kept watching the door, hoping that lady would show up with that cake in spite of the odds. I missed a great meal because I was too busy wishing for the cake I didn't have.

Sound silly? Yeah, it would be silly if it really happened. But that's the way I see it when people get so hung up on getting married that they miss their whole lives.

I see it a lot. In fact most of the single people I know (most = more than half,) talk a lot about trying to find a date, trying to hash things out with their date, trying to get themselves and their significant others straightened out so they can get married without divorcing the next day, trying to get over a break-up, trying to find a new date... and they let their WHOLE LIVES go by. They miss their lives because they spend all their energy trying to get that one thing they don't have that they think will make those lives complete.

To anybody who is single and unhappy because you are single, I say that life is a big long table full of great things to try. If you keep focusing on that one thing you think is missing, you are going to miss the whole meal - your whole life will go by before you know it, and you will have missed almost all of it.

Bon appetite!
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yes,is the classic issues of almost idolising the thing you want and in doing so, neglect ones own life's opportunities,they just pas us by as there is a whole lot of living to do besides seeking out a partner.
This happens because the bible says hope deferred makes the heart sick.
 
Lynx said:
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For the Portal fans out there. Also it's true, I have never seen anybody make a cake like the one I described. So the cake really IS a lie!
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Sorry, but it really does exist. Chocolate Italian Cream Cake Recipe - Allrecipes.com
 
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