Hey Everyone,
Have you ever slightly "embellished" your single status?
In other words, have you ever told someone that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, when you were actually as single as the day is long?
Maybe it was to avoid some unsavory person who kept making advances (including your Aunt Thelma, who always pinches your cheeks and tells you that you need to get married.)
I was once in a situation where a guy from a local maintenance company kept asking my co-workers about me in Spanish, and it was making me a bit uncomfortable--NOT because he spoke another language, but because he would look me up and down like a steak thrown on the grill and then talk to people right in front of me while making gestures. I did my best to avoid him as much as possible.
Lo and behold, a few months later, this guy was replaced--by his brother--and I had the same kinds of uncomfortable encounters with the second brother as well (and both of these guys were huge--they had arms the size of my legs and could have easily snapped me in half like a toothpick.)
Now please understand, I am NOT saying anything bad AT ALL against huge muscle-bound men who speak other languages (I know some women would swoon), but for me, I felt uneasy because a person can usually tell when someone doesn't have the best of intentions. And it's even more uncomfortable when they keep talking about you in a different language (I don't know if they spoke much or any English, but Spanish was all they spoke in front of me) and you have no idea if your safety is on the line.
So just in case these two had any other brothers or other family members that I wanted to avoid, I was tempted to ask my Spanish-speaking co-workers to please tell them that I had a boyfriend who was a Green Beret Marine with a nasty jealous streak and a huge knife collection!!
(Please note that I am NOT, in any way, shape, or form, trying to insult or put down anyone who doesn't speak English as their native language--I'm simply trying to illustrate how uncomfortable the situation was to me.)
Fortunately, my first defense tactic of choice--complete avoidance--worked well enough that I didn't have to make up any stories that I might later be required to prove.
How about the rest of you?
* Have you ever told someone you had a significant other when you really didn't? What were your reasons?
* Would you consider doing so a lie, and do you feel it could be justified? Why or why not?
* Has anyone ever told YOU that they had a significant other, but you later found out that they really didn't? What were the reasons, and how did you react? Did you confront them about it, and what did they say?
I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.
Thank you for sharing. <3
Have you ever slightly "embellished" your single status?
In other words, have you ever told someone that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, when you were actually as single as the day is long?
Maybe it was to avoid some unsavory person who kept making advances (including your Aunt Thelma, who always pinches your cheeks and tells you that you need to get married.)
I was once in a situation where a guy from a local maintenance company kept asking my co-workers about me in Spanish, and it was making me a bit uncomfortable--NOT because he spoke another language, but because he would look me up and down like a steak thrown on the grill and then talk to people right in front of me while making gestures. I did my best to avoid him as much as possible.
Lo and behold, a few months later, this guy was replaced--by his brother--and I had the same kinds of uncomfortable encounters with the second brother as well (and both of these guys were huge--they had arms the size of my legs and could have easily snapped me in half like a toothpick.)
Now please understand, I am NOT saying anything bad AT ALL against huge muscle-bound men who speak other languages (I know some women would swoon), but for me, I felt uneasy because a person can usually tell when someone doesn't have the best of intentions. And it's even more uncomfortable when they keep talking about you in a different language (I don't know if they spoke much or any English, but Spanish was all they spoke in front of me) and you have no idea if your safety is on the line.
So just in case these two had any other brothers or other family members that I wanted to avoid, I was tempted to ask my Spanish-speaking co-workers to please tell them that I had a boyfriend who was a Green Beret Marine with a nasty jealous streak and a huge knife collection!!
(Please note that I am NOT, in any way, shape, or form, trying to insult or put down anyone who doesn't speak English as their native language--I'm simply trying to illustrate how uncomfortable the situation was to me.)
Fortunately, my first defense tactic of choice--complete avoidance--worked well enough that I didn't have to make up any stories that I might later be required to prove.
How about the rest of you?
* Have you ever told someone you had a significant other when you really didn't? What were your reasons?
* Would you consider doing so a lie, and do you feel it could be justified? Why or why not?
* Has anyone ever told YOU that they had a significant other, but you later found out that they really didn't? What were the reasons, and how did you react? Did you confront them about it, and what did they say?
I would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.
Thank you for sharing. <3