Discernment is a gift and a must for all spiritually mature Christians. It involves discerning sound doctrine and not be tossing to and fro but knowing the truth in Christ.
Many are not spiritually mature, they do not display the gifts of the spirit of love, patience, joy, gentleness....they do not have agape love.
You are describing the fruit of the spirit which are fruit and not gifts.
~Gal 5:22-23~
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But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [SUP]23 [/SUP]gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
~ 1 Cor 12:4-11
[SUP]4 [/SUP]Now there are varieties of
gifts, but the same Spirit. [SUP]5 [/SUP]And there are varieties of ministries, and the same Lord. [SUP]6 [/SUP]There are varieties of effects, but the same God who works all things in all
persons. [SUP]7 [/SUP]But to each one is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good. [SUP]8 [/SUP]For to one is given the word of wisdom through the Spirit, and to another the word of knowledge according to the same Spirit; [SUP]9 [/SUP]to another faith by the same Spirit, and to another gifts of healing by the one Spirit, [SUP]10 [/SUP]and to another the effecting of miracles, and to another prophecy,
and to another the distinguishing of spirits, to another
various kinds of tongues, and to another the interpretation of tongues. [SUP]11 [/SUP]But one and the same Spirit works all these things, distributing to each one individually just as He wills.