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[PennEd]

If it were an American public school I would be VERY careful in disclosing ANY negative information about your child to them. Australian schools I don't know enough about.

Most schools have filtering devices to prevent porn, but I would make your son aware that the school is MUCH more tech savvy than he is, and the consequences could be severe if he is caught there.

This is the age we live in. Children can't have a dozen or so innocent years to be children. They are inundated with worldly lusts at every turn. There is pretty much soft porn on just about every TV channel. ALL roads lead to sexuality online. A simple search like "football" can eventually lead you down that path.

Unfortunately he has now been exposed to harder core porn. It will be VERY difficult to put that genie back in the bottle. The images are in his brain, and he can recall them without actually viewing them again. There is evidence neural pathways can be altered in the brain after a single exposure.

Although deprivation of availability is certainly a tool to help combat this, understand it will NOT be the ultimate answer. But for his terribly young age it IS probably the best course to take.

I am praying the Lord will guide you and cut off this growing monster in your son's life. Be at peace brother.

 

[LaurieB]

Can someone please explain to me how anyone can get porn without paying? I hope I don't sound too stupid. I will have to, when the time comes, put locks not only on the computer but also on TV.

I have a nephew who is almost 13 and this post makes me worry as my brother let's the child have an iphone. Im not sure how to bring up the subject without being nosy. But it is a worry.

I am sorry to the person who posted. I dont think you are alone. This is a major issue with the internet, TV, etc.

 

[kaijo]

Can someone please explain to me how anyone can get porn without paying?

I'd imagine it would be as simple as typing into Google "watch porn without paying" or "watch free porn" etc.

 

[PennEd]

Can someone please explain to me how anyone can get porn without paying? I hope I don't sound too stupid. I will have to, when the time comes, put locks not only on the computer but also on TV.

I have a nephew who is almost 13 and this post makes me worry as my brother let's the child have an iphone. Im not sure how to bring up the subject without being nosy. But it is a worry.

I am sorry to the person who posted. I dont think you are alone. This is a major issue with the internet, TV, etc.

Pick any sexual term you like. Google it. Click on images or video and BOOM!! Literally a billions of hits of porn at no cost.

 

[kaijo]

There is pretty much soft porn on just about every TV channel. ALL roads lead to sexuality online. A simple search like "football" can eventually lead you down that path.

Thats absolutely right.

If you REALLY want to be consistent about this....then u better get rid of ALL TVs and devices capable of connecting to the internet in your household.

 

[Miri]

Can someone please explain to me how anyone can get porn without paying? I hope I don't sound too stupid. I will have to, when the time comes, put locks not only on the computer but also on TV.

I have a nephew who is almost 13 and this post makes me worry as my brother let's the child have an iphone. Im not sure how to bring up the subject without being nosy. But it is a worry.

I am sorry to the person who posted. I dont think you are alone. This is a major issue with the internet, TV, etc.

Ive got an iPhone, you can set parental limits on them under the settings option.
Also most internet providers have filters you can set up to limit what can be
watched and parental controls.

All the parents have to do is set a password and set up what functions are
disabled. Also set up the ratings for what he can and cannot acces, like limit adult
content on websites etc. Plus of course not tell him what the parental access code is!

it won’t block everything but it will block most things and most hard core stuff.
Here is what the restriction screens look like, you can also stop him for giving out
his location, blocking certain apps and preventing subscribing to apps or
running up bills, buying music and much more.

Personally I would not give a mobile phone to a child until they were at least
12-13 and even then it would be a basic phone not a smart phone.
They would have to wait until 16 at least for one of those and also help
save up for it themselves. Lol

Maybe I’m being mean but kids don’t appreciate the value of stuff.
They get given expensive gear with them having little thought as to where
the money came from.

 

[PennEd]

Covenant eyes and other pay services like that will give you a detailed report of EVERY site visited from the devices given to the company.

This is a good tool to give to mothers and wives as well to help keep accountability easier.

 

[LaurieB]

Ive got an iPhone, you can set parental limits on them under the settings option.
Also most internet providers have filters you can set up to limit what can be
watched and parental controls.

All the parents have to do is set a password and set up what functions are
disabled. Also set up the ratings for what he can and cannot acces, like limit adult
content on websites etc. Plus of course not tell him what the parental access code is!

it won’t block everything but it will block most things and most hard core stuff.
Here is what the restriction screens look like, you can also stop him for giving out
his location, blocking certain apps and preventing subscribing to apps or
running up bills, buying music and much more.

Personally I would not give a mobile phone to a child until they were at least
12-13 and even then it would be a basic phone not a smart phone.
They would have to wait until 16 at least for one of those and also help
save up for it themselves. Lol

Maybe I’m being mean but kids don’t appreciate the value of stuff.
They get given expensive gear with them having little thought as to where
the money came from.

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Wow. This is overwhelming, but thank you. I am just going to ask my brother about this, somehow. Yes, I agree, cell, but no iphone. I dont know. My nephew goes to a religious school ... and my brother is a believer ... so I would think he has done this. I will do this when the time comes.
I guess I never realized you could just get 'porn' legally. Stupid me.

 

[Ugly]

64% of young people, ages 13–24, actively seek out pornography weekly or more often.

11 is the average age the first time a child views porn, and the age is falling.

 

[claysmithr]

Get Accountability software like http://everaccountable.com to monitor his use. Whenever he looks at it, talk to him. Don't get angry, but make it known it is a terrible sin and you won't allow it under your house hold.

 

[joefizz]

Changing home pages does Nothing. All he has to do is type in google.com and search there. Your suggestion is the equivalent of telling someone to shut the fridge door to keep the alcoholic from drinking.

Site blocker apps would be more effective. There are a plethora to choose from.

Yeah I know I have google blocked because it like many others brings up whatever unless you select filter explicit results and there is also the problem of "other gate ways to the same site" like for example if you block main site of google he could still type in google images to by pass the block because it's treated as a "different site" it's quite alot of work in a way to block "all the gate ways" but I think I blocked them all for me.(even simple sites sometimes bring up smut through google...)

 

[Deade]

No one has addressed the demons associated with pornography. It is spiritual warfare, and you just walked into the enemy's territory. It puts an image in one's head that cannot be easily purged. It steals from you any chance of a normal sexual relationship. Enough of those images can cause perversion of all things sexual. Demons change you little by little, and porn is one of their most effective tools. Just say no.

 

[joefizz]

Thats absolutely right.

If you REALLY want to be consistent about this....then u better get rid of ALL TVs and devices capable of connecting to the internet in your household.

Highly unlikely unless you are a farmer or something similar.

 

[notuptome]

Highly unlikely unless you are a farmer or something similar.

Actually modern farming relies heavily on computers and high technology.

No Christian should allow their children to enter the government schools. They are the roaring lion that seeks to devour them.

God made education of the children the responsibility of the parents namely the father of the family.

Don't cloister them but prepare them for an onslaught of impurity and iniquity that they might stand for Christ and not be swept away in the opprobrium of this world.

2Co 6:17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,

For the cause of Christ
Roger

 

[joefizz]

No one has addressed the demons associated with pornography. It is spiritual warfare, and you just walked into the enemy's territory. It puts an image in one's head that cannot be easily purged. It steals from you any chance of a normal sexual relationship. Enough of those images can cause perversion of all things sexual. Demons change you little by little, and porn is one of their most effective tools. Just say no.

Yep it is a more "extreme visualization" of "lustful thoughts" and there "are no limits" so it fools one's mind into thinking it's what happens in everyday life or could happen,and worse yet it's "easily memorable" so it can get in the way of thinking on scriptures.
And on top of that it's now a "trade job" that is more widely accepted by the world even some sites being treated as "normal" as well as organizations like play boy continuing to make money despite opposition and as some have mentioned most allow access "for free" and so kids can stumble upon them by even normal words like I remember in school a teacher saying that a simple search of "white house" brought a very young child to a sleazy site.
It really is "creepy" and "troubling" how fast someone even a 5 year old can come across this junk.

 

[joefizz]

Actually modern farming relies heavily on computers and high technology.

No Christian should allow their children to enter the government schools. They are the roaring lion that seeks to devour them.

God made education of the children the responsibility of the parents namely the father of the family.

Don't cloister them but prepare them for an onslaught of impurity and iniquity that they might stand for Christ and not be swept away in the opprobrium of this world.

2Co 6:17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,

For the cause of Christ
Roger

Yep "values and morals" start at "home" and "church" school isn't very trustworthy especially with "teaching kids at very young ages" about sexuality and diseases,to me it's about as helpful as telling a child they can end up in hell before they even know what it is.
This generation has gotten "lazy" and I should know both me and a boy cousin near my age grew up with very "little morals" and were "left alone" way too often in my opinion looking back,one time an entire class of mine was left "alone" and it got me on edge thinking thoughts like "we could do anything" nowadays just thinking on this stuff freezes me and shakes my body as if I'm in a freezer I guess because now I can't think on such thoughts "without conviction".

 

[blue_ladybug]

The red highlighted is NOT true...

Society today is hell bent on over sexualizing anything and everything.
Its in TV shows, Cartoons, Movies, Games, Music videos, Images of every kind where you least expect it etc.

I dont see how anyone could possibly blame him while seducing spirits run rampant throughout society in every part of the world today.

Women are without a doubt the most beautiful thing on this earth, through a males eyes. Thats how God created them to be. And with the way that Media expliots the beauty of a woman, who here can possibly call themselves innocent of lust / adultery...whether in actuality, or in the heart?

Heck, even the angels themselves were subdued by the beauty of woman.

So, dont go too hard on a 10 year old boy.

 

[Socreta93]

Keep in mind he's only 11, don't overreact to this. Just explain it was wrong and that everything he sees is fake. When I was that age, us kids were not as sexually driven it was more of a joke. Also don't be naive and think kids aren't that smart. What I'm trying to say is, explain why it's wrong and talk about sex of need be. If it continues then punish.

 

[Pontiac]

I agree with the post above all except one point ... At this point, I would not recommend involving his school or any other government entity ... I would keep it between parents and son ... I see no reason to involve any part of government ... They are already much too intrusive into our lives ...

 

[Dino246]

hi everyone. i walked into the room and caught my son watching xxxx video on our computer....
HELP.

I'm going to go against the grain a bit here... unapologetically.

First: repent for your reaction; it did not help the situation at all. It is understandable, but not excusable. Ask the Lord to deal with your anger, and apologize to your son for it (critically important!). That kind of reaction would only reinforce the confusion and likely spark rebellion.

Second: ensure that your heart is in the right place on this.Discuss the issue with your wife, pray about it together, and then together with your son. Be an ally with your son against the darkness of porn; your son is not the enemy!

Third: teach your son what it means to view women in a godly way... as sisters/daughters. Demonstrate the right way instead of merely condemning the wrong way.

Fourth: build relationship (more) with your son. Make it safe for him to talk to you about anything. Otherwise, he will hide parts of his life from you, and he will get input from peers or from the web... which likely will not align with your values.

I could go on, but these will take you a long way. Jesus can handle this; lean on His wisdom and guidance.