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JB2018
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There is a huge difference between loving someone and being in love. How can you know the difference? Describe it, please.
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JB2018
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Well for me it began when i met a girl by the name artsiesteph here on cc we became friends and got to know each other and i found i had feelings for her but before i even got the guts to ask her if she wanted to be my girlfriend she asked me out first and was like yes! As we kept getting to know each other before i even knew what she looked like i found myself falling for her i was falling in love with her heart far before i even knew what she looked like. Now we are three years in and i often times find myself daydreaming marrying her and having a life together and i can't help but feel all warm inside.
I love and adore her just for who she is, she doesn't have to change anything about her and if we are married there are no limits i won't go for her, i will die for her, i will go through excruciating torture and torment for her and even if she cheated on me I will stay by her and love her until the day i day and even in eternity my love for her will never waver. That is how i know i am in love
I love and adore her just for who she is, she doesn't have to change anything about her and if we are married there are no limits i won't go for her, i will die for her, i will go through excruciating torture and torment for her and even if she cheated on me I will stay by her and love her until the day i day and even in eternity my love for her will never waver. That is how i know i am in love
I feel like being in love is almost involuntary. You can care about a person or be infatuated with them at the start, but love comes from places of trust, respect, understanding, and genuinely wanting their happiness before yours. I swear after dating online a bit I, without prompting or thinking about it, just sat there and thought “I’m gonna marry this man.” I have literally never thought that about any other relationship I’ve ever been in.
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lol the same happened to me sweetie out of nowhere i thought the very same thing- women not man lol
I think that lots of people fall in love but lots of people still end up getting divorced or breaking up when things get hard. I think there is love and then there is true love the kind of love that God has for us. that kind of love he has is abnormal it is not like any kind of love we know. in his eyes regardless of how we look he loves us just as we are and are precious in sight, and no matter how many times we hurt him and sin he loves us still and never leaves us, and there are no limits he is not willing to go for us.
This is how i feel about stephanie in my eyes i could care less what her appearance is I adore her, and no matter what she would do to hurt me if she ever did my love for her will not waver and there are no limits i won't go for her. I think that is what real love is, yes there is warm and mushy lovey dovey thing but real love is far more than an emotion. Jb if your questioning if your in love with someone ask yourself this - do you feel the is way for them what i described? how far will you go to be with this person? and can you say they would do the same? because having that kind of love has to go both ways
This is how i feel about stephanie in my eyes i could care less what her appearance is I adore her, and no matter what she would do to hurt me if she ever did my love for her will not waver and there are no limits i won't go for her. I think that is what real love is, yes there is warm and mushy lovey dovey thing but real love is far more than an emotion. Jb if your questioning if your in love with someone ask yourself this - do you feel the is way for them what i described? how far will you go to be with this person? and can you say they would do the same? because having that kind of love has to go both ways
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Ugly
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It's not easy to know.
But I did learn one thing. I am always an "all in" type when dating. I give my all. I develop strong feelings. One day I realized that with all my relationships I said and felt the same thing. Made all the same plans. It made me question how my future with anyone would be if there is no distinction between one relationship or another.
Until I met someone that I felt different about. On the surface it all seemed the same as every other relationship, but underneath it was different than anything I'd felt about anymore before. She overshadowed anyone I've ever met. I'd give me, go through more than I'd ever been willing to before.
I'd suggest if your focus is on what they do for you and less on what you can do for them then you'll need to question it. Not that being aware of what they do for you is bad, it is important. But if you don't move beyond that then it may be less serious than you believe.
When talking about this woman I heard people talk about how I spoke more about what I could do for her, rather than what she did for me. I didn't notice. It just happened. Are you the same way?
So being in love itself may not be the priority.
But I did learn one thing. I am always an "all in" type when dating. I give my all. I develop strong feelings. One day I realized that with all my relationships I said and felt the same thing. Made all the same plans. It made me question how my future with anyone would be if there is no distinction between one relationship or another.
Until I met someone that I felt different about. On the surface it all seemed the same as every other relationship, but underneath it was different than anything I'd felt about anymore before. She overshadowed anyone I've ever met. I'd give me, go through more than I'd ever been willing to before.
I'd suggest if your focus is on what they do for you and less on what you can do for them then you'll need to question it. Not that being aware of what they do for you is bad, it is important. But if you don't move beyond that then it may be less serious than you believe.
When talking about this woman I heard people talk about how I spoke more about what I could do for her, rather than what she did for me. I didn't notice. It just happened. Are you the same way?
So being in love itself may not be the priority.
You can't.
Love is something that happens. Like when you see a really really cute little puppy you want to be with it and love it forever....
Love makes you vulnerable. If it does not involve sacrifice, it is probably just infatuation. If you feel an urgent need to look for love, you are probably not ready. When it does happen it will feel right. The type of love involved in marriage is grown. To grow it properly, use biblical principles. Never let the sun go down on your wrath; resolve all your issues immediately.
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JB2018
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Oh my goodness. I'm smiling so hard right now. I'm so glad that you have someone like this. That's amazing.
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JB2018
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Love makes you vulnerable. If it does not involve sacrifice, it is probably just infatuation. If you feel an urgent need to look for love, you are probably not ready. When it does happen it will feel right. The type of love involved in marriage is grown. To grow it properly, use biblical principles. Never let the sun go down on your wrath; resolve all your issues immediately.
You are absolutely right about that.
I honestly cannot think of a better way to explain it than thisYou can't.
Love is something that happens. Like when you see a really really cute little puppy you want to be with it and love it forever....
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JonahLynx
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This is sort of like asking how to know if you feel hot or cold. Imo it's self-evident when you experience it.
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else
He'd trade the world
For a good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way
It ought to be..
[video=youtube;MUuNDb-nm5M]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUuNDb-nm5M[/video]
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else
He'd trade the world
For a good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way
It ought to be..
[video=youtube;MUuNDb-nm5M]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUuNDb-nm5M[/video]
Fuzzy feelings.. i always smile like an idiot when im around my bf..
Kinda like everything your heart desires and u love becomes that one person so even if they have flaws that get on ur nerves, u easily just shake em off and cling to that person like a koala bear 24/7
Kinda like everything your heart desires and u love becomes that one person so even if they have flaws that get on ur nerves, u easily just shake em off and cling to that person like a koala bear 24/7
When a man loves a woman
Can't keep his mind on nothin' else
He'd trade the world
For a good thing he's found
If she is bad, he can't see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down
When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He'd give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that's the way
It ought to be..
[video=youtube;MUuNDb-nm5M]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUuNDb-nm5M[/video]
I loove that song its soo true lol
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joefizz
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joefizz
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I have never been with anyone but I have sort of "fallen in love" many times or so I thought,you know the whole "love at first sight" thing I have had that sensation with a few possible girlfriends my first crush was a blonde pony tailed girl named chelsea I met in preschool,then after I got over her I stopped trying to look for a girl that was "just pretty" and ironically just like here on CC I met and befriended mostly "girls" in school and not just any girls some of the most "bizarre" or "different variety" ever,like a band girl,(only interested in band guys),norse mythology girl,a plain faced girl that was quiet like me,an "over make up" girl(looked like she kind of smeared on her make up),a somewhat chubby tough friendly straightforward girl,(actually considered her since she was for a time the only person in one of my new schools that sat with me at lunch and struck up a conversation with me out of the blue,thought it might have been a sign from God ironically later I had a crush on her skinny black haired emo/goth looking quiet sister,couldn't take my eyes off her for the longest time even asked her on a date with a paper but didn't sign my name) the last crush over "looks" I had was over a girl around my age from Tennessee but turned out she hasn't been on here in years.(didn't notice thread date of hers) After that I realized I was "trying too hard" to find somebody and just decided to "keep an open mind",considered a girl at work about my age but she had someone and even at work received a date setup for a girl but the fixer upper didn't get her to call me as planned,then pretty much decided to forget finding a girl for awhile and just decided to "serve God" through the spirit and also "go silly funny in singles,miscellaneous,and young adults forum,meeting and befriending a wider variety of girls near my age and even some women older than my age(for example magenta my first friend here I actually didn't realize she wasn't near my age considering her avatar and profile and humor)this site has been quite an experience and now I honestly believe I'm in love but that's yet to be seen and considering how I'm actually "thinking about her" and not "forgetting her" and "making changes in my life" because I "believe in a possible future with her" in years to come and even if things don't work out(one date is all I wish for at all no matter if nothing changes) I'm glad to "finally be growing up" and not simply for just me or just her but for God in particular.
I don't exactly know if "this love is true" but I know "God's love is true" so either way I'm "taking large steps towards serving Jesus more abundantly" and "looking forward to his return" if love isn't a possibility for me to have a relationship with the opposite gender then it just means there is "nothing holding me back" from leaving this world when it meets it's end.
I can imagine being in love is when you cannot see anyone else but that special person, you love them with all your heart. You have this unexplainable joy when you're with them. It's kind of like a sparks of fireworks bursting in your heart. When you love someone you care about them in a way that is friend like but not like " husband or "wife" kind of love.. When you love someone you care about them but I feel like being in love is deeper, you've met your match.. You two are one.