Give advice: POTENTIALLY dating a non-Christian
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Other than being a Christian what would be your other criteria? It the bible it says that you will be able to know God without ever hearing about Him or reading His word in the bible just by observing His creation. Perhaps the woman you would turn down is such a person that loves and appreciates God without even realizing or understanding the joy that is in her heart put there by God. Please don't interview this woman as you are not apply for a job. Just ask her straight out without having to over analyzing this person. Maybe she would be the fortunate one if she flunked your interview. I have learned in life that he who hesitates is lost and that feint heart does not win the fair woman. If you keep stalling she will simply move on and anther will be appointed to take your place.
1 Cor 13:4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
If you love her and she loves you, do not disappoint her with bureaucracy about religion, the only religion that God recognizes is LOVE.
If you love her and she loves you, do not disappoint her with bureaucracy about religion, the only religion that God recognizes is LOVE.
You didn't do anything wrong. It's okay to take your time getting to know a person. You will find out soon enough where she's at spiritually and you can go from there. You are right on in wanting to genuinely and naturally get to know someone rather than making it an interview. After all, you are a human being and not a religious robot. Even if you did go on a date with her and she's not a Christian, you aren't going to get zapped by lightning. It's just wise to not continue on into something more serious if she doesn't have a relationship with God, but you already know that.
I’m glad that you are committed to dating a Christian. While I acknowledge the awkwardness of the situation, your walk with God and future happiness is at stake! There is no need to be blunt or rude, but neither is it a subject that should be politely avoided. I suggest you make a commitment to bring it up the next time you spend time together. IMO it is better (and she will respect you more) if you are forthright rather than subtle in addressing the question. If she is a Christian, you already have the most important things in common, and can build on that foundation. If she is not, you have brought up a very important issue for her consideration and (hopefully) demonstrated to her the grace, conviction, and understanding that accompany your beliefs. And while if she is not a Christian it must be clear that your relationship cannot continue, your willingness to be polite, openly discuss your faith, and show respect for her as a person will hopefully point her in the direction of seeking faith herself.
J
God clearly states in his word not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). God cares about the unions that his people create. Remember Deuteronomy7:3-4? or look at Samson's situation? It's the same today, if you're a believer who connects with someone who is heavily in the world...two things will happen; You "change" them or they "change" you.
There is nothing wrong to even marry a non Christian.
Apostle Paul is not against it anyway if you'll read it in 1 Corinthians Chapter Seven.
Just make sure that she does not criticize the Christian teachings of the Bible.
For Jesus said that Those who are not against us is with our (Christians') side.
About characteristics, make sure that she is not lazy, argumentative, talkative and an angry woman.
To know more about the characteristics of a righteous woman, Please read Proverbs Chapter 31.
J
Back to the thread subject,it's always good to exercise caution and "know what you are getting into" though at the same time consider the possibility of change and compromise,but ultimately religiously is where two can split ways above all else so be loving but not foolish,don't let beauty or feelings "blind you".
Also the Op's main concern is first if who he wants to date is Christian so I would advise just as others have said be very "clear" but "friendly" with her and remember this is "your choice" and there is "time" to sort out things in a relationship you don't have to rule her out immediately because she may not be a Christian "now".
Also the Op's main concern is first if who he wants to date is Christian so I would advise just as others have said be very "clear" but "friendly" with her and remember this is "your choice" and there is "time" to sort out things in a relationship you don't have to rule her out immediately because she may not be a Christian "now".