Should a man pursue a woman? Or does it matter?

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Interesting question, one I'm not too entirely sure if I can even answer. I suppose the most important thing to both involved is to make sure focus is on God. Rather than a man pursuing a woman, he should be pursuing God and so should she. So, I suppose my answer is that both should be pursuing God and through God's blessing be brought together to worship him.
 
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David-J said:
Interesting question, one I'm not too entirely sure if I can even answer. I suppose the most important thing to both involved is to make sure focus is on God. Rather than a man pursuing a woman, he should be pursuing God and so should she. So, I suppose my answer is that both should be pursuing God and through God's blessing be brought together to worship him.
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Of course, God should be the focal point but unless someone does the pursuing there will be no relationship in the first place. God can certainly assist in the search and pursuit but it still requires action to form a relationship.
 
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tourist said:
Of course, God should be the focal point but unless someone does the pursuing there will be no relationship in the first place. God can certainly assist in the search and pursuit but it still requires action to form a relationship.
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I'm just emphasising the importance of God in any relationship. I feel so long as God is front and centre in your life, you won't need to worry about 'pursuing' someone, as God will bring that person to you. I've found that I am more attracted (As a friend) to people who are more open in the spirit and focused on God, and the same is true for a relationship. Just leave things to God to bring that person into your life when the time comes, till then worship him and building your life upon the foundations of Christ. When others see that foundation, they'll be attracted to you, friend or otherwise.
 
David-J said:
I'm just emphasising the importance of God in any relationship. I feel so long as God is front and centre in your life, you won't need to worry about 'pursuing' someone, as God will bring that person to you. I've found that I am more attracted (As a friend) to people who are more open in the spirit and focused on God, and the same is true for a relationship. Just leave things to God to bring that person into your life when the time comes, till then worship him and building your life upon the foundations of Christ. When others see that foundation, they'll be attracted to you, friend or otherwise.
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I believe that God should be at the center of any relationship, especially marriage. I also believe that while God can search and find the one of your heart's desire it will still require decisive positive action to establish an enduring relationship leading to marriage. Being a passive bystander in this process is not going to cut it.
 
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tourist said:
I believe that God should be at the center of any relationship, especially marriage. I also believe that while God can search and find the one of your heart's desire it will still require decisive positive action to establish an enduring relationship leading to marriage. Being a passive bystander in this process is not going to cut it.
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I never said be passive, I simply said allow God to bring you the person who he made for you, rather than making your focus on finding that person. The moment that happens, even if unintentional, parts of our focus drift from God. We are to first seek God above all things. I'm not saying to sit back and expect God to do the courting, I'm simply stating we should avoid spending our time seeking the person God has for us, rather than focusing on our relationship with him. I've found I've made great and long lasting friendships when I finally put all things in my life in God's hands. By focusing on him, those around me saw that, and we became strong friends. Of course it wasn't God having coffee with them and talking about our experiences, I'm not saying that, I'm simply reaffirming what you yourself said in that God should always be the focus.
 
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David-J said:
I never said be passive, I simply said allow God to bring you the person who he made for you, rather than making your focus on finding that person. The moment that happens, even if unintentional, parts of our focus drift from God. We are to first seek God above all things. I'm not saying to sit back and expect God to do the courting, I'm simply stating we should avoid spending our time seeking the person God has for us, rather than focusing on our relationship with him. I've found I've made great and long lasting friendships when I finally put all things in my life in God's hands. By focusing on him, those around me saw that, and we became strong friends. Of course it wasn't God having coffee with them and talking about our experiences, I'm not saying that, I'm simply reaffirming what you yourself said in that God should always be the focus.
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I am not disagreeing with you at all, brother. :)
 
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