I hate this part right here......

[Lynx]

I dunno Miri, in the picture thread you looked pretty British to me. But I'm a Tennessean, maybe there are differences I'm not picking up on. With nothing except the picture I would have thought you from either Britain or Maryland, maybe Massachusetts.

 

[Miri]

I dunno Miri, in the picture thread you looked pretty British to me. But I'm a Tennessean, maybe there are differences I'm not picking up on. With nothing except the picture I would have thought you from either Britain or Maryland, maybe Massachusetts.

Aw that’s nice of you to say, I don’t look pasty white and we
don’t usually get a lot of sun in the UK, apart from a few weeks in summer.
I stand out as having an all year all over sun tan. The height of summer
is the only time I blend in. Lol

Not that I mind now. But I use to hate my skin colour.
Still hate those origin questions on forms I can’t escape them.

 

[Lynx]

Ever watch My Fair Lady? Just tell them you're Hungarian.

 

[Miri]

Ever watch My Fair Lady? Just tell them you're Hungarian.

I’ve been called worse, people have asked if I’m Egyptian, Israeli,
Asian , Mexican, Spanish, Italian, Chinese, Aztec! Lol

I imagine Seoulsearch has had similar issues too.

 

[Pipp]

Bless your heart. I don't understand when it comes to skin color , but I definitely understand those things that people say without thinking .

I remember one time a friend of mine's mom was talking about a situation and said " that lady was huge...she was little bigger than you..." and then she kept on talking like what she said wasn't incredibly rude . Or having someone saying "you're very pretty for a big girl, when you loose weight the other girls better watch out ."

Lol thankfully I've always had a thick skin when it comes to comments from other people, so it never devistated me.

 

[Wild]

I could never get over how handsome I am. Still haunts me to this very day.

 

[seoulsearch]

I could never get over how handsome I am. Still haunts me to this very day.

I'm betting it takes round the clock training.

 

[tourist]

Instead of being scared to talk to a woman now i go up and ask how she is doing.

That is a tremendous first step when considering a prospective romantic relationship.

 

[tourist]

I could never get over how handsome I am. Still haunts me to this very day.

I guess that we all have our burdens we must bear.

 

[melita916]

i didn't like my crooked teeth. we couldn't afford braces for me. fortunately for me, no one ever made fun of me for my teeth. if they did, it was never to my face lol. smiling for pictures, i always showed my teeth, but there was a period in life, i wouldn't take pictures. if i did a selfie for a profile pic, i was always looking away from the camera or not smile.

i looked into getting braces as an adult, but it was going to cost lots of money, so.... i said no lol. i think now, it doesn't even cross my mind that i have crooked teeth. i guess i'm ok with it now lol.

 

[tourist]

i didn't like my crooked teeth. we couldn't afford braces for me. fortunately for me, no one ever made fun of me for my teeth. if they did, it was never to my face lol. smiling for pictures, i always showed my teeth, but there was a period in life, i wouldn't take pictures. if i did a selfie for a profile pic, i was always looking away from the camera or not smile.

i looked into getting braces as an adult, but it was going to cost lots of money, so.... i said no lol. i think now, it doesn't even cross my mind that i have crooked teeth. i guess i'm ok with it now lol.

I am sure that your husband is OK with it too and that is all that really matters.

 

[Pipp]

I realized another thing I used to take issue with when I was younger. My name. It sounds silly I know , but coming from a classroom full of Amandas, Jessicas, Jennifers I felt left out. At a young age I didn't think how nice it was to not get confused with 4 other people during roll call. Lol

So if you hear of Misty around here... it's probably me . I now appreciate having a somewhat unique name.

 

[Susanna]

I realized another thing I used to take issue with when I was younger. My name. It sounds silly I know , but coming from a classroom full of Amandas, Jessicas, Jennifers I felt left out. At a young age I didn't think how nice it was to not get confused with 4 other people during roll call. Lol

So if you hear of Misty around here... it's probably me . I now appreciate having a somewhat unique name.

Misty, that’s a cool name. My parents named me Kelly. Can it even get more boring than that? That was so not unique in 1976, and for all times, really.

Misty is a name so full of connotations. Misty eyed, misty taste, too misty, not misty, while Kelly is just dull.

 

[Lynx]

What's wrong with Kelly? I grew up with a local food brand named Kelly's.

"Something's cooking at the Kelly's
Home cooked meals are at the Kelly's"

 

[Hamarr]

I kind of hated my name growing up. I think I wanted to have a more common boys name rather than Wesley. I was usually the only one in school with my name.

 

[Pipp]

Misty, that’s a cool name. My parents named me Kelly. Can it even get more boring than that? That was so not unique in 1976, and for all times, really.

Misty is a name so full of connotations. Misty eyed, misty taste, too misty, not misty, while Kelly is just dull.

I so wanted my name to be Kelly at one time!

 

[melita916]

oh my name. I don't like it much. but I like the definition: fierce warrior.

^_^

 

[Jan7777777]

I don't know if anyone has ever heard the song mentioned above by the Pussycat Dolls years and years ago. The song it basically talking about a girl wanting to break up with a guy that wants to hold on to the relationship hence the words "I hate this part right here, I just can't take his tears" (something like that)
But to me... every time I heard that song playing ... I jokingly pointed to something about myself I hated and sang "I hate this part right here" whether it was my freckles, crooked teeth, overweight body.... it was ALWAYS something .

Fast forward 18, 19 years... I'm now a 35 year old woman and I no longer hate myself. Yes I still have many many flaws, but I have realized that everyone is different, everyone has their struggles ... it's part of life.

I said all that to ask this..... are their things growing up that you disliked about yourself that you never thought you'd get over, but now you embrace/accept ?

Here are mine ...

1 . My crooked teeth. When we were growing up we weren't dirt poor, but we were in the lower income group in life. My dad was a carpenter which had no medical insurance and braces cost as much as a new car, so I wasn't able to have them fixed. When I was younger I got called a few names by a few bullies, but it was never a huge deal. I've since realized that yes, my teeth are crooked , but they're perfectly equally crooked on top and bottom , so they perfectly match... lol its weird but I don't mind it at all anymore.
2. My weight. Yes , I still battle being overweight , but... I'm actively working on getting healthier and I feel pretty okay just being me .
3. My freckles. I know I mention this one a lot , but yall don't realize how bad I was picked on as a kid. I was told it looked like I had poop on my face in front of the whole class and for a kid.... that was pretty embarrassing . It was so bad that I make a concoction I read about using buttermilk and lemon juice and tried to fade them...it just made my face stink.. lol then when I was like 19 I spent the entire summer hiding from the sun just to avoid getting more . They faded a good bit by the end of summer and honestly I kinda missed them a little...I didn't look quite like me and it made me a little sad instead of happy. Long story short ...I now just count them as my polkadot's.
4. My green eyes. I guess since all my family has green eyes ...I thought they were boring and everyone had them . One day I read that less then 2% of the world's population have green eyes and it made me feel kinda unique...lol


There's probably more things I could mention , but no one wants to read a novel about my life lol.

How about you ??? Anything you now appreciate that in the past you thought was gonna ruin your life ?

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Yes when I was a kid, straight hair was "IN", I thought God hated me cause he gave me naturally curly hair, so all through my teens and some adulthood, I IRONED my hair, ...well, then , the PERM LOOK , came in style, now, I see that I was blessed cause all I have to do is wash my hair, put gel on it and it does its own thing. its been so easy to get ready for church cause I didnt have to hours with curlers or curling iron before I got ready otherwise cause I had to fix breakfast and this "BLESSING" made my life easier...so actually he did love me, boy what kids think when young...lol … In proverbs it says foolishness is bound in a heart of a child......I believe it...lol
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My 2nd thing was my maiden name, => Cunningham......I was called, "country ham" "cummings"....the ham part was so embarrassing.... especially at school.....well, then Happy Days show came on t.v. and the "Cunningham" name became famous, and I think a ball player had It too, so then I wasn't embarrassed after that.

 

[Lynx]

Isn't it strange how "what everybody is doing" can make us unhappy when we don't have, or have to work really hard to get, what everybody else is doing... even when what everybody else is doing doesn't really mean much.

 

[Solemateleft]

Hey Pippy, great thread!

I know this might sound strange and a bit controversial, but I have never liked being Asian.

Now, I think being Asian is a wonderful thing--for other Asians. But for myself, being adopted by white parents (which confuses the bazooka out of people) in a small, all-white, narrow-minded town always made me wish, you guessed it, that I was white. If I had to live among white people, why couldn't I at least look like them?

I was fine inside my own family--but being around everyone else made me feel like God had made me "wrong". One of my best friends is African American and always says I'm "the whitest white girl" he has ever known.

Is is possible to have a racial identity crisis? I guess that's what I have. I get tired of having kids (sometimes even to this day) "slant" their eyes at me and so forth. I get tired of older white people asking me if my name is Mei Ling or if I speak English, etc. (and I know my examples are nothing compared to what most other people go through, so I'm definitely not trying to sound like, "Oh, poor me," but rather, just to voice a few frustrations.)

I was talking with my nephews the other day about whether kids make fun of them and how they react. I was hoping they wouldn't encounter such things, being in a more diverse area, but, alas--people are people wherever you go. My Mom was telling them about the time a little girl in church kept turning around and looking at me... and then finally "slanted" her eyes at me--and my Mom gave her a look like she was going to hope over the pew and choke her. Lol... Good times.

I have always felt like God made me a white girl on the inside but for some reason, put me into the "wrong" shell. I know this is just my own warped thinking, and also a sin of discontentment. Interestingly, I don't think my black friend has ever wanted to be white and I don't think my white friends who grew up in all-black areas ever wanted to be black, so maybe it's just me.

The one thing I'm grateful for is that I think it helps me understand those who say they are gay or transgender, etc. I know it's not a sin to be any certain race, but I can relate to the part about wanting to be something God didn't make us to be. I pray for them, and that their hearts will be content with the way God has made them, just as I have to make that prayer for myself.

I realize it's just plain sin, and the only answer is to repent and thank God for His wisdom in making us who we are.

Maybe I'm just taking a little longer to get there than most others.

Great topic Pipp...
AND Commendable share seoulsearch... your willingness to be so open and honest is both admirable and commendable...
I too can relate to the context of your scenario - regarding how you see yourself...
Between the 4th and 6th grade I was a genetically predisposed to be a chubby kid (many said I was stocky) until my body began to make it's anticipated transition and growth...
I had this huge complex about how I looked without my shirt on... It just wasn't consistent with the image of what I had for myself. As a result of this self-consciousness complex with my physical appearance at that young age - I became obsessed with physical fitness...
My body transformed from being an offensive-lineman; to middle-linebacker; to strong-safety and captain of the HS wrestling team.
I got a commission in the Marine Corps with the rationale that I could make a doing something I liked and would be getting paid to stay in shape... During my 4 years of college I took a jogging and weightlifting class every semester to force myself into a morning workout routine to become mentally and physically prepared to become a leader of Marines...
My masters degree focused upon fixing and changing the USMC physical fitness standards to focus upon performance and not the old-school (un-validated) stringent weight and body-fat standards...
I used to have to lose about 10-15 lbs twice a year to make our semi-annual weight requirement while my physical fitness scores were always in the top 5%...
Turns out - I learned that my body-type is a mesomorph (vs endomorph, or ectomorph) - which means that my body tends to gain and loose weight fairly easily... Unfortunately and fortunately my youngest son has inherited my genes...
Upon retiring from USMC, I had to have my appendix removed and my thyroid was destroyed from 20 years of abuse. Being more comfortable in my own skin, and shifting my focus upon my career transition; providing for and being there for my family I let myself go and gained a lot of weight (everything/everyone else was a higher priority)...
For the past two years, since I have been focusing upon becoming a better version of myself spiritually - exercise and taking care of my health has been key. While helping my son with his Senior year HS wrestling goals - I've discovered a new health regiment that has helped me to lose 40 lbs and ultimately reinvigorate my energy and my positivity... starting to get my mojo back...