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Hi guys,
I am a 28-year-old seriously Christian guy and I am not sure if I should plan to continue living like an unmarried monk for life or if I should get married. I am not sure which is the best way for me to serve Jesus.
I am considering pouring out my life for Jesus mostly through work...by like working 80-140 hours per week until I die. I do internet work from home in a potentially extremely lucrative field (ie it could make billions of dollars, which could be used to feed millions of starving kids for Jesus who would otherwise die).
I am trying to figure out if this means getting married and having kids is impossible if I am wanting to pour out my life for Jesus in this manner.
I guess I'm like a harder-working, frugal, Christian Bill Gates...who's also building an online church / bible study...but I'm seriously considering never getting married if it means I'd feel like I'd have to serve Jesus less...and maybe you can help me understand Christian women who want to have big families and homeschool so maybe I'll know if that's a dead end to consider or not?
It's like if I can make $10 billion by working so hard that's enough to feed like over 1 million starving children who would otherwise starve to death...and tell them about Jesus...like it seems selfish of me to not continue on that path so I could get married but then have to work less and then have that on my conscience...like '100,000 kids maybe died because I got married'...I feel very torn between the two...like being married and having and / or adopting lots of kids (like 7 - 40) also seems like a good way to serve God...
So is like 26 hours per week of family time from a work-from-home husband (not counting like 12 hours per week of Jesus time and being generally available at home like all the time) enough from a husband in a completely different line of daily work? Am I crazy to think I could marry somebody who does something different during the 80+ hours per week I'm working on computer/internet stuff from home? ...like what do homeschooling girls expect? (sorry I was publicly schooled to my detriment and don't really know).
I guess I figure a girl who also did internet work and worked hard alongside me would probably be compatible as well, but finding a Christian one of those to marry is like near impossible. I guess I figure if these nice Christian girls who want to marry and have a family it'd be like a good thing to help enable them to do that, which is why I am asking if there is a big shortage of such guys...to try to weigh where I can serve God best...
...also...any advice on how to weigh feeding an extra 1,000 children who would otherwise die vs. getting married and raising 1 kid in a Godly environment...hopefully I'd be able to marry in a way it wouldn't create that kind of potential tradeoff, but I'm not sure what kinds of decisions I might have to make. I guess if a wife didn't actually improve business operations or my productivity...I'd be looking at having to make some tradeoff like that so ANY advice on this is MUCH appreciated.
Thanks!
I am a 28-year-old seriously Christian guy and I am not sure if I should plan to continue living like an unmarried monk for life or if I should get married. I am not sure which is the best way for me to serve Jesus.
I am considering pouring out my life for Jesus mostly through work...by like working 80-140 hours per week until I die. I do internet work from home in a potentially extremely lucrative field (ie it could make billions of dollars, which could be used to feed millions of starving kids for Jesus who would otherwise die).
I am trying to figure out if this means getting married and having kids is impossible if I am wanting to pour out my life for Jesus in this manner.
I guess I'm like a harder-working, frugal, Christian Bill Gates...who's also building an online church / bible study...but I'm seriously considering never getting married if it means I'd feel like I'd have to serve Jesus less...and maybe you can help me understand Christian women who want to have big families and homeschool so maybe I'll know if that's a dead end to consider or not?
It's like if I can make $10 billion by working so hard that's enough to feed like over 1 million starving children who would otherwise starve to death...and tell them about Jesus...like it seems selfish of me to not continue on that path so I could get married but then have to work less and then have that on my conscience...like '100,000 kids maybe died because I got married'...I feel very torn between the two...like being married and having and / or adopting lots of kids (like 7 - 40) also seems like a good way to serve God...
So is like 26 hours per week of family time from a work-from-home husband (not counting like 12 hours per week of Jesus time and being generally available at home like all the time) enough from a husband in a completely different line of daily work? Am I crazy to think I could marry somebody who does something different during the 80+ hours per week I'm working on computer/internet stuff from home? ...like what do homeschooling girls expect? (sorry I was publicly schooled to my detriment and don't really know).
I guess I figure a girl who also did internet work and worked hard alongside me would probably be compatible as well, but finding a Christian one of those to marry is like near impossible. I guess I figure if these nice Christian girls who want to marry and have a family it'd be like a good thing to help enable them to do that, which is why I am asking if there is a big shortage of such guys...to try to weigh where I can serve God best...
...also...any advice on how to weigh feeding an extra 1,000 children who would otherwise die vs. getting married and raising 1 kid in a Godly environment...hopefully I'd be able to marry in a way it wouldn't create that kind of potential tradeoff, but I'm not sure what kinds of decisions I might have to make. I guess if a wife didn't actually improve business operations or my productivity...I'd be looking at having to make some tradeoff like that so ANY advice on this is MUCH appreciated.
Thanks!