Do you enjoy your singleness?
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You know what? I really appreciate your concern for him. I think it's born of tragedy and what I mean by that is that I think you understand his potential tragedy of dying tomorrow void of God. But let this ease your heart. I think he is a child of God whose trials are refined by fire.
I work some in metallurgy and for some, like maybe me, a simple iron would suffice as a warrior for God. Maybe I'm fairly expendable, but a decent fighter. Not much refinement is necessary. For others though, a fine Damascus steel requires a full refinement. Several trips to the fire is demanded. Much hammering and removing slag. Impurities wrung out like a mop. But the result is a hardened steel that breaks my iron like china. And I think Sub has... and is... going through that refinement.
And he's so tired. But I don't think he's lost. He's lamenting. Otherwise, I don't think he'd be here and I don't think he's abandoning God. I think he's consumed with Him. Like David. Like Job. Like Jeremiah as Cinder mentioned.
I work some in metallurgy and for some, like maybe me, a simple iron would suffice as a warrior for God. Maybe I'm fairly expendable, but a decent fighter. Not much refinement is necessary. For others though, a fine Damascus steel requires a full refinement. Several trips to the fire is demanded. Much hammering and removing slag. Impurities wrung out like a mop. But the result is a hardened steel that breaks my iron like china. And I think Sub has... and is... going through that refinement.
And he's so tired. But I don't think he's lost. He's lamenting. Otherwise, I don't think he'd be here and I don't think he's abandoning God. I think he's consumed with Him. Like David. Like Job. Like Jeremiah as Cinder mentioned.
I just ate some pizza. Today the single life is good.
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Interesting that people who believe in presdestination or were indoctrinated into that way of thinking turn out either hopeless or unbearably smug regarding their marital status.
We all have a choice to choose JOY. I thank God I have the option.
Paul said I have learned the secret of being content. Whether he was abounding or when he was lacking. May we all learn it.
We all have a choice to choose JOY. I thank God I have the option.
Paul said I have learned the secret of being content. Whether he was abounding or when he was lacking. May we all learn it.
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Joy of the Lord is our strength 💪🏻
God is the beginning and the end. He knew us before we were born. He knows what we will do from life to death. We have free will and a choice to bear the fruits of the spirit. The choices we make determine the future we experience. The amazing part is God already knows, has done all the work on the cross, and all we have to do is believe and try to follow Him the best we can (He knows the heart)
God is the beginning and the end. He knew us before we were born. He knows what we will do from life to death. We have free will and a choice to bear the fruits of the spirit. The choices we make determine the future we experience. The amazing part is God already knows, has done all the work on the cross, and all we have to do is believe and try to follow Him the best we can (He knows the heart)
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So it looks like I never actually answered the original OP here. And I think the answer may get complicated so the short version is: I do what I can to make the most of the situations I find myself in in life, change what can be changed for the better, and enjoy it as much as possible. And my life has been one that is very fortunate / blessed so that hasn't been too difficult for me.
The longer version is something along the lines of even as a teen hitting puberty I always saw it as I've always been single and I'm getting along just fine and couldn't understand why I should or would suddenly feel the need to be coupled up with someone (or why so many people seem to think getting that must be your focus in life if you don't have it). As I've moved out on my own and not had the constant companionship of family, fellow students, or teammates that's changed a bit simply because too much time alone without anyone to talk to about personal stuff isn't good for even the most introverted introverts.
Mostly if I think about being single at all, I try to focus on the advantages of it: No one is complaining about my lack of house cleaning; I can make whatever food I want exactly the way I want to; never have to block out someone else's entertainment choices that I'm not interested in; can make plans and decisions quickly, without needing to check with anyone else first etc. Though I have one major frustration with singleness these days and that is it seems so much harder to form and connect with any community as a single than it does for couples and families. Not sure how accurate that perception is, but these days I find lack of community frustrating.
The longer version is something along the lines of even as a teen hitting puberty I always saw it as I've always been single and I'm getting along just fine and couldn't understand why I should or would suddenly feel the need to be coupled up with someone (or why so many people seem to think getting that must be your focus in life if you don't have it). As I've moved out on my own and not had the constant companionship of family, fellow students, or teammates that's changed a bit simply because too much time alone without anyone to talk to about personal stuff isn't good for even the most introverted introverts.
Mostly if I think about being single at all, I try to focus on the advantages of it: No one is complaining about my lack of house cleaning; I can make whatever food I want exactly the way I want to; never have to block out someone else's entertainment choices that I'm not interested in; can make plans and decisions quickly, without needing to check with anyone else first etc. Though I have one major frustration with singleness these days and that is it seems so much harder to form and connect with any community as a single than it does for couples and families. Not sure how accurate that perception is, but these days I find lack of community frustrating.
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Well, I’ve been a widow for oh so many years now, and I’ve gotten quite accustomed to living the single life.
I can do whatever I want, travel wherever I want, work wherever I want and watch whatever is airing😁.
Only thing is that the obligations of being a grandma is knocking on my door🤗😁.
So I guess I have to settle in old Galveston before the grandkids are getting too old and too many for me to handle😊.
I can do whatever I want, travel wherever I want, work wherever I want and watch whatever is airing😁.
Only thing is that the obligations of being a grandma is knocking on my door🤗😁.
So I guess I have to settle in old Galveston before the grandkids are getting too old and too many for me to handle😊.
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If you keep saying that you could just add it to your signature..... And everything cinder said Then you wouldn't have to type it out or even click copy and paste everytime 
And yes.
I realize I'm going to be slapped from both directions for saying that, but hey, some moments are just too good to pass by.
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