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If you’re planning to go on a date with someone special, who should pay for it?
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This isn't intended as a personal attack, just a thought-provoking question...I would bring me.... and Jesus
I would hope he sees the Light shining from me without him having to purposely assess anything about me...
And I would feel ingenuine if I were trying to demonstrate any strengths or traits that he would find attractive... I guess I would hope that he saw honesty, genuineness and kindness... sincerity... Christ's character in me...
Hope it helps
Would you think it legitimate/appropriate/acceptable if he just "showed up and brought Jesus", but didn't think it was "genuine" to try to demonstrate any strengths or traits (such as being a provider) that you would find attractive?
I suspect not, which would mean you have a double standard, expecting far more from a man than what you offer to him.
This isn't intended as a personal attack, just a thought-provoking question...
Would you think it legitimate/appropriate/acceptable if he just "showed up and brought Jesus", but didn't think it was "genuine" to try to demonstrate any strengths or traits (such as being a provider) that you would find attractive?
I suspect not, which would mean you have a double standard, expecting far more from a man than what you offer to him.
I definitely would think it legitimate/ appropriate/acceptable yes, absolutely... because I desire a man who already has the character of Christ established in him and if he has not yielded to the Lord's will in his life, and doesn't already have that maturity then if he tried to demonstrate any traits I would be concerned that he was having to try rather than just be himself. I would want to know the real him- whether he is caring enough and selfless enough toward me just because that's how he is. If he is just doing it for the date or for the short term to try to impress me then it won't necessarily last....
I don't expect more from a man than I am willing to offer-I expect his ALL because THAT is what I am willing to give, my all. I expect him to lay down his whole life for me, as I would be handing my whole life over to him in complete devotion.
Q. What is the price for a wife?
A. Your life
So pettiness (as I see it) about who will pay only demonstrates to me that he is more concerned about husband money than me... or maybe there is another issue.... but ultimately it is off-putting and un-loving and sending the wrong signals. As a Christian I am not in the mindset of trying to be equal with a man like a feminist would, I would compliment the man and be in my element helping him, but I deem it unfeminine to try and be the same as him lol, that's just how I am. And I think that is how God made me to be.
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I don't like horror movies too
But I am just wondering...what's wrong if your date will bring you to eat at McDonald's
I thought McDonald's have the best Oreo mcflurry ice cream which is my favorite 
I don't like horror movies too
But I am just wondering...what's wrong if your date will bring you to eat at McDonald's
Depends on the circumstances of the Mcdonald's visit, if you had a full all day event and are on your way home and need a quick bite Mcdonalds is acceptable. If your date is going out for a meal and his idea of a good sit down restaurant is McDonald's that says a lot either about how tight his money is or how little he knows of the possibilities of the world around him. For a meal that's a feature part of the date, it really should be someplace with a server that comes to your table to take your order and bring you your food.
Now there's a good spin on the topic: Would your rather your date take you to Mcdonald's (or other fast food) and pay for it all or go dutch at Denny's (or another budget end sit down place)?
Denny's is a compromise. It's the worst of both worlds. Cook-to-order speed (slow) with fast food quality (low.) 
Can we make it at least Cracker Barrel or Shoney's? That's not the ceiling of course... there's lot of places better than that... but can we at least establish that as the lower boundary of sit-down restaurant expectations?
Can we make it at least Cracker Barrel or Shoney's? That's not the ceiling of course... there's lot of places better than that... but can we at least establish that as the lower boundary of sit-down restaurant expectations?
Denny's is a compromise. It's the worst of both worlds. Cook-to-order speed (slow) with fast food quality (low.)
Can we make it at least Cracker Barrel or Shoney's? That's not the ceiling of course... there's lot of places better than that... but can we at least establish that as the lower boundary of sit-down restaurant expectations?
Cracker Barrel is the place I take my books for a date in front of a real fireplace. But yeah I'm happy with cracker barrel over denny's any day (and it's much closer).
Plus their apple pie is not half bad.
Their banana pudding is made with instant pudding though. But I can overlook that... I'll just get apple pie instead.
I have never paid for a date or engaged with a man who expected me to do so. Covering our expenses was their domain and one they eagerly embraced.