Is there a chance to find a partner at my age of 42

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years ago, I had a friend call 111 (thats our countries emergency number) in crisis
she asked for the police as her boyfriend had kinda dumped her out in the wilderness and she had no way of getting home, she was stranded and felt unsafe
She said it was an emergency but the call taker said she had to call a taxi instead.

she was never found after that not even her body.
Was the emergency service taken to court after this?

What a horrible thing to happen...

I hope SOMEONE was held accountable.

What about the boyfriend?
 

Lanolin

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Was the emergency service taken to court after this?

What a horrible thing to happen...

I hope SOMEONE was held accountable.

What about the boyfriend?
well the police were raked over the coals - they had a misogynistic culture that refused to help females in distress.

They had to change the way they operated.

The boyfriend was let off but I think he was a bit of an idiot TBH. They had only been going out for a short time, and it was at a party. They were in their twenties.
 

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years ago, I had a friend call 111 (thats our countries emergency number) in crisis
she asked for the police as her boyfriend had kinda dumped her out in the wilderness and she had no way of getting home, she was stranded and felt unsafe
She said it was an emergency but the call taker said she had to call a taxi instead.

she was never found after that not even her body.
The cops presumed that she had the funds for a cab and that cabs were available. Makes you wonder if the cops investigated her boyfriend regarding her disappearance.
 

oyster67

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years ago, I had a friend call 111 (thats our countries emergency number) in crisis
she asked for the police as her boyfriend had kinda dumped her out in the wilderness and she had no way of getting home, she was stranded and felt unsafe
She said it was an emergency but the call taker said she had to call a taxi instead.

she was never found after that not even her body.
If I were in trouble, the police are the last people I would call upon for help.
 

Lanolin

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The cops presumed that she had the funds for a cab and that cabs were available. Makes you wonder if the cops investigated her boyfriend regarding her disappearance.
no cabs out in the wild west.
and it would cost a pretty penny to hire one.

the cops were pretty useless. When she went missing only after did they send out a search and rescue but by then it was too late.
 

Lanolin

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If I were in trouble, the police are the last people I would call upon for help.
I would call my folks first. I dont automatically trust the police to do anything like solve crimes or protect people from harm.

But you do need to notify them if someone is missing. Often not a lot they can do in most cases, but if a crime is involved they need to investigate. However a lot of the time they stuff that up too and mKe things worse.
 
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Hey LeoForChrist, I am 45 and as of late had that exact question pop up in my thoughts. In fact it continues to pop up and disrupt my thought processes. I continually pray, surrendering this question to God knowing He answers prayers, and I keep a opened mind to God's will for my life and not my own desires. It is not easy to be single at our age, but in all things rejoice in God, because there is a greater purpose for your life than you can even imagine.
I actually made a commitment not to date for a complete year to focus in on my relationship with God and to establish a firmer foundation in faith. Ok, the question must being going through your mind, "How long has it been?" Well it has been 316 days, 49 days away from a year. Let me tell you the blessings that have happened too me. There have been many beautiful, nice women that have wanted to date during this time and I've respectfully declined while disclosing why I was not dating. Oh I give credit to the Holy Spirit for putting it on my heart to abstain from dating and what a blessing. Several of the women were not as they portraited themselves to be and God navigated me away from those unhealthy relationships.
Truth be told there are a couple women, friends I remind you, that have accepted just friendships during the course of the 316 days and I believe our lives have been greatly enriched. The overall point I am attempting to make is to trust in God, listen to the Holy Spirit and trust in Faith and not of your own desires.
I long for my other half, but am content to continue with to walk with God first and foremost. If and when God invites a women along our walk, is when my longing will be fulfilled by God.
Sincerely LeoForChrist
Good morning LeoForChrist

Thank you for your kind words. I completely understand you. I did the same few years back, did it for 2 years. It was long long time for me. From the bottom of my heart, wish you to be happy and loved, to have a friend, partner next to you. To give your love and protection. A friendly hug from my side!
 
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Yes dear, don't let anyone tell you any different. There isn't age limit on when, how, and wher to find love. God bless and good luck in your endeavors
Hello Pureness and Happy new 2022!
Thank you and wish you all the best for you and your family, also to everyone. We are created to love and take care, I believe in that.
Greetings
 
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So Yes you can find a great wife but (these days) that will require a trip to a different country (unless you get lucky).
Hello and happy new 2022!

Your suggestion sound interesting. I used to live and work in few different places and you have right. only 5.000 miles left or right and there are some little difference in culture, habits, history too. something else, there can be small difference how the locals are looking at the new comer. You are right. Deep inside most of us are the same, we need love, some kind of secure, friend, warm home where to come back, people we love. Right now I am in the East part of Europe, and here is still important what language you speak, your color and things like that. And if you are coming from somewhere else and bring new experience or point of view - the locals will look at you like a threat. I used to live in West and East part of Europe, also East-Middle-West part of the US. Met nice people everywhere
 

Magenta

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Don't worry bro, we won't kick you out when you get married. If we kicked
married people out we'd lose a lot of cool people and a lot of insightful posts. :cool:
Remember when mod threatened to kick someone out of the singles forum?
Heh, he said at the time it had never been done before...
 

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Hello to everyone here!
What do you think, is there a chance to find a partner in age of 42? I am a little bit shy probably, no cigars, almost no alcohol at all. Work as a technician, have some education behind me. Just a regular and romantic soul. Thank you
I have noticed most the women that I know are single are looking for trust and commitment. I understand that perfectly. My ex and I would walk out in public and sadly he would watch every women's rear side. Not just a glance but stare.
My sister tried telling me that men are that way. But for me it is a cop out, because God has not given us temptations that we cannot over come. For me trust and commitment is having someone who can be an overcomer to these types of things because they do love that person. Also should not have to worry about trusting someone to be faithful.
 

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I have noticed most the women that I know are single are looking for trust and commitment. I understand that perfectly. My ex and I would walk out in public and sadly he would watch every women's rear side. Not just a glance but stare.
My sister tried telling me that men are that way. But for me it is a cop out, because God has not given us temptations that we cannot over come. For me trust and commitment is having someone who can be an overcomer to these types of things because they do love that person. Also should not have to worry about trusting someone to be faithful.
A little boy cannot become a man until he yields his life to the Spirits control. Temptation and addiction are powerful things, but the lifechanging power that God offers to man is even greater.

Luke 1:37 For with God nothing shall be impossible.
 

JohnDB

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Remember when mod threatened to kick someone out of the singles forum?
Heh, he said at the time it had never been done before...
So you are the one who woke up the zombie....

Hmmmmm

I wonder how @mario313 is getting along.

Maybe he has found some sort of love interest...maybe not.

As he gets older he's going to discover how the hunter becomes the prey.
 

SteveEpperson

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I understand that perfectly. My ex and I would walk out in public and sadly he would watch every women's rear side. Not just a glance but stare.
Did you ever sit down with him and lovingly explain how hurtful that was to you? Maybe with an open bible? Or did you do like a lot of women and give up on the marriage when the money got tight?

He probably thought there were some annoying things about you as well, like perhaps, complaining to all your friends and family about him.

The reason relationships dissolve is because Satan succeeds in driving a wedge between two people. We can fight back by letting go of our pride, which means not having to be right all the time. Forgiveness of sins is part of the mix as well, even for those who are incessant "rear-side watchers." :)
 

Lanolin

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if willow had sat down with her ex, he wouldnt have been able to see her rear side.

though Im not sure that she needed to sit in such a way that he could see it.

I dont know why, but apparently the book 'I need a new bum' or 'I need a new butt' was read by a teacher in a US school and the teacher got sacked for reading it.

I read it to my children, some girls like it and some girls were like thats a silly book. The boys think its hilarious.

They like anything like that, Captain Underpants (girls read them too)
and other bum books there was one called Fartboy
and another called 'the day my bum went psycho'

Its just being childish maybe. some boys never grow up. its like they've never seen a bum before. Well they have one of their own but they just cant see it so they need maybe a mirror or undies that remind them they actually have one.
 

JohnDB

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if willow had sat down with her ex, he wouldnt have been able to see her rear side.

though Im not sure that she needed to sit in such a way that he could see it.

I dont know why, but apparently the book 'I need a new bum' or 'I need a new butt' was read by a teacher in a US school and the teacher got sacked for reading it.

I read it to my children, some girls like it and some girls were like thats a silly book. The boys think its hilarious.

They like anything like that, Captain Underpants (girls read them too)
and other bum books there was one called Fartboy
and another called 'the day my bum went psycho'

Its just being childish maybe. some boys never grow up. its like they've never seen a bum before. Well they have one of their own but they just cant see it so they need maybe a mirror or undies that remind them they actually have one.
I must say that your lack of understanding provides a great amount of amusement on my part.

PHAT Bottom Girls?
Ever hear the song?
 

Robertt

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wait until you hit 56 and try to find that missing EVE lol
 

Willow

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Did you ever sit down with him and lovingly explain how hurtful that was to you? Maybe with an open bible? Or did you do like a lot of women and give up on the marriage when the money got tight?

He probably thought there were some annoying things about you as well, like perhaps, complaining to all your friends and family about him.

The reason relationships dissolve is because Satan succeeds in driving a wedge between two people. We can fight back by letting go of our pride, which means not having to be right all the time. Forgiveness of sins is part of the mix as well, even for those who are incessant "rear-side watchers." :)
Well after my ex cheated on me so many times I was tired of feeling like a doormat. I tried talking to him rationally . His reply was "I am done talking now thank you for not arguing". I forgave him so many times for being on porn sites. I forgave him so many times for talking to other women online. I even forgave him for a woman he was cheating with showing up to our doorstep. I forgave him so many times for being narcissistic to me and belittling me for everything that came out of my mouth.
But almost 12 years of dealing with someone who does not want to change I was done. But thank you for assuming I just gave up on our marriage.
 

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Willow

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A little boy cannot become a man until he yields his life to the Spirits control. Temptation and addiction are powerful things, but the lifechanging power that God offers to man is even greater.

Luke 1:37 For with God nothing shall be impossible.
Yeah it was sad because it tore me up to have to move on .Almost 12 years of trying to make our marriage work. Cannot live with someone who does not want to change. Nor gives their life to God. Sexual addiction tears marriages apart.:cry:
 
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Yeah it was sad because it tore me up to have to move on .Almost 12 years of trying to make our marriage work. Cannot live with someone who does not want to change. Nor gives their life to God. Sexual addiction tears marriages apart.:cry:
Is your ex a Christian? A lot of nonreligious people don't see anything wrong with porn and they use porn in their marriage. Some people don't get it.