The OP is a Christian, he is married. I am a Christian. Why would either of you make the judgment that we didn't love our spouses? That there was no love? What ever would make you both jump to that conclusion?
Hey, kaylagrl.
I'm not going to answer your post line by line, but I will simply comment on this statement of yours.
You obviously greatly misunderstood what I meant when I asked "Where is the love?"
In other words, contrary to what you said here, in no way, shape, or form was I accusing the OP or you of not loving your spouses.
Instead, I was asking "Where is the love?" in relation to the way that you seemed to be describing sexual relations in regard to what Paul said in I Corinthians chapter 7.
Again, my posts, if you would simply reread what I actually said, were in regard to the BENEVOLENCE that Paul mentioned in a husband and wife relationship which preceded what he said in relation to their bodies.
That's it...and God himself is perfectly aware of the same.
As far as Polar is concerned, you're assuming that I've read all of her comments here (I'm guessing that I haven't...don't really know for sure because I haven't even come close to reading all of the posts here), but I do have a completely different take on her responses to you that I have actually read.
Simply put, it seems to me that she's simply been saying all along that marriage isn't simply sex-driven. Instead, she and her husband interact with each other in different ways at different times, depending upon either of their needs at any given moment, and sexual relations occur at the times when both see fit.
What is wrong with that?
In my estimation, nothing.
Anyhow, I'm not going back and forth on this issue with you anymore.
I've said what I've said, and I've meant every word of it...even though you apparently are misunderstanding at least some of what I've said.
I've taken the time, out of courtesy and respect, to attempt to clarify any misunderstandings to you, and that will simply have to suffice.
Personally, I'm not a big fan, with the exception of the Bible itself, of communicating with people via written text because so much can be read into what another is saying or thinking...even though such words or thoughts are foreign to the person that they're being wrongly attributed to.
Anyhow, I'm done explaining myself here. After all, I'm not the topic of discussion. What Paul said in I Corinthians chapter 7 is, and I've offered enough commentary on that already.
Have a good day.