I have to disagree with you on that one....... From my personal experience...Christian men are not always very accepting, especially of women who have not always been saved... they tend to be very judgmental, and have this righteous attitude about them. Its like they except nothing but perfection sometimes, ... .. and thats a very high standard to live up to, its like you must always be submissive, always cook dinner and clean the house, raise the kids at home... homeschool them when they get older.. never question decisons that the man makes or never let a woman help with any decison.. like we dont have a brain that we should just sit at home and be the submissive wife.... Where as men who might be considered losers or what have you.. there more accepting, there usually alot nicer and there standards arent so high...So its easier to be with these men. I have noticed from looking at alot of these singles forums that most of the men on here are saying they want a wife thats a virgin, or that has never kissed anyone, or that has never dated anyone, ....... Well where does that leave us women that have done all or some of those things?? because ceratainly you "nice guys" aka Christian guys, want something better than that. So its not that nice guys finish last, its that sometimes some of the best women are those you nice guys would never pick..........
I'm not sure what kind of guys you've run into in your life, but Personnally I want a wife with a brain. I don't want to be the only one that can deal with things. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership. As for the dishes, they can pile up for the rest of eternity for all I care. Regarding decision making, the bible does say that the husband is head of the house, however contrary to popular belief, all that means is that when things go south the husband has to answer to God for it. The wife should always have a say. There are two people involved not one.
When I said losers, I was refering to the guys who spend what little money they have on their own toys and things, assuming they even have work other than the local gas bar and aren't drinking or smoking it all away.
As for the rest, I've given up on the idea of a wife who is a virgin and not done all that other stuff. Actually I couldn't care less about that. Past is the past, unless there is some disease involved, like AIDS, her past doesn't have any bearing on whether I was to be in a relationship with her. If she had AIDS, I think I might seriously reconsider. For that matter I'm rapidly getting over the whole single mother thing too. I'm nervous about that whole situation, not because she has kids or because they come first in her life, but more because I have no idea how I would be able to fit into that situation. It would be like tramping through a jungle without a map, compass or machette and your partner has both while you can't see her. I have no kids of my own and it would unfair to the kids to get involved in a relationship with their mother, only to leave a while later if one or both decides it isn't going to work out after all for what ever reason.
I'm sure that will sound selfish to some but, there it is.
I have enough of my own faults I need her to over look without tossing her's in her face every five minutes.
I hope this doesn't sound like I'm making excuses.
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be encouraged read the book of ruth and know that it applys to men as well as women and remember with god last finishes first lol, no seriously 
